How do you get an abundance mentality mindset when you don't actually have anything close to abundance?

whatdoy0uknow · 2014-05-11T07:24:49+00:00

you can have abundance mentality in approaches. by sheer numbers you're going to have success. the more you approach and become comfortable the less you'll be invested in your initial approach. next time post questions like this on askseddit.

youreunbelieveable · 2014-05-11T08:25:19+00:00

"What the mind believes the body achieves"

lespauldude · 2014-05-11T09:04:59+00:00

The abundance mentality is not about faking abundance, but rather not being needy. So you're not telling yourself you have an abundance of something when you don't, but you're behaving in a way that exudes confidence and other characteristics of a guy who actually has abundance. Mimicking his behavior in a sense if you believe his behavior is what lead him to his abundance in the first place.

2014-05-11T15:52:49+00:00

Focus on the process, not the result. As long as you're doing the process, you're learning and becoming a more-enriched man. As long as you're doing the process, you're allowed to feel confident about yourself, even if you're not seeing results.

Take care of your body. Eat correctly, sleep well, stay hydrated, meditate, and exercise. These factors greatly contributed to your mental/emotional health, allowing you to feel confident, happy, and abundant.

Be delusional when it comes to your confidence (at least with respect to PUA. Please don't be a confidently delusional surgeon or something). Be like a child who's just happy and laughing at everything and having fun.

Stop trying to find a reason to be happy. You don't need one. Just be happy.

(obviously it's easier said than done. But really think about that that sentence means)

elbarbaro2 · 2014-05-11T16:17:32+00:00

Please don't take this as me putting a religion on you and please don't take this as me trying to say to not pursue a love life (because I'm not), but I feel that these concepts can show you that you really have everything. In Buddhism we commonly describe three types of feelings: positive, negative, and neutral. We must eventually abandon everything; your computer will not last forever, your clothes will eventually rip or rot, your loved ones will all eventually die. Now to help you understand your problem.

Let's start with a positive feeling: You have lots of women around you, this brings you great joy. However, it won't last forever, at some point they will leave you or maybe even hurt you. Ultimately, this positive feeling will turn into a negative feeling (unless you approach it right, which is MUCH easier said than done).

Now a negative feeling: You wake up one morning with chlamydia and your crotch is on fire. What is your ultimate desire at that moment? To be relieved of your pain, you would give up almost anything to be relieved of this feeling, THAT would be the ULTIMATE joy in the whole world.

Now a neutral feeling: You don't have chlamydia, you have never once in your life thought about how you don't have chlamydia, yet its mere absence is something that would bring you more joy than anything in another circumstance. Therefore, you possess the ultimate joy.

This story is a classic: http://www.ic.sunysb.edu/Clubs/buddhism/story/cows.html

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-05-11T17:04:45+00:00

You have your persona, your reputation. You control your conduct, and thus how people perceive you. Ultimately, that is all you have.

daxorion27 · 2014-05-11T17:12:25+00:00

Even if you don't have abundance personally there still is an abundance out there. Even if you don't have an abundance of girls lined up for a crack at you, you still have an almost limitless supply that you can approach, so there's no reason to put a significant premature emotional investment in your outcome with one single girl. "Abundance mentality" is basically a slightly less eloquent and more analytical way of saying "There's plenty of fish in the sea".

1vs1 · 2014-05-11T21:14:59+00:00

Here's an example. When I did my first approach a was a nervous wreck, sweaty hands, fidgety, almost shaking.

Fifth approach: still have sweaty hands but i've stopped fidgeting and no visible signs of nervousness.

10th approach: I'm still nervous but no more sweaty hands

Future approaches: Meh she's just a girl, if i fuck this up, there's plenty of other opportunities (ABUNDANCE MENTALITY)

simplisticallysimple · 2014-05-11T15:30:32+00:00

Max out on your looks first. Looks are very important. Get clothes that fit (no baggy shit), get chest and abs muscles, go to a real hairstylist, accessorize, etc. This will have the greatest spillover effect for creating attraction and self-confidence. This is almost entirely without your control, so do it.
When you feel like you've maxed out your looks, go approach women. If you hit on 100 women and none are interested (which is unlikely), go back and work on your looks more. Fix your life if your shit isn't together (e.g. get a job, get a car, etc.).
If your life is in order, and your looks are maxed out, I see no reason why you won't get enough girls at your disposal. This isn't rocket science. Getting an abundance mentality isn't something you do, it's something you are.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-11T16:33:14+00:00

Abundance mentality isn't about pretending you have a bunch of girls waiting for you, it's about acting like you do.

DaygameCoach · 2014-05-12T03:45:09+00:00

It's the women who are abundant. If one doesn't work out, no big deal, there are plenty more.

Cuisine, www.daygamer.net

Leajjes · 2014-05-12T06:23:15+00:00

Read some eastern philosophy. The Power of Now is a good place to start but it goes much deeper than that.

ABitterPanacea · 2014-05-12T21:15:47+00:00

Alot of people here have touched on what abundance is but haven't gotten to the actually principle behind it.

Abundance mentality is simply the following:

You are an awesome and valued individual in your own respect. How you come to that validating realization is independent of the women you interact with.
Since validation is seperate from your interaction with women, closes, rejections, and f-closes are a bi-product of your ability to properly present the best current version of you to this woman and make her attracted to that.
Since you seperate the validation you always start from the solid foundation in which you are who you are, the actually thought and comfort of abundance comes from the realization of:

A. There are so many women I can approach and I know I will get with because I AM an awesome individual. B. Each approach and interaction is literally me being able to convey this aspect of me in the most proper and confident manner.

It literally comes down to the unwavering inner foundation of "Who wouldn't fuck me?"

SwordfshII · 2014-05-11T18:06:03+00:00

By having abundance in life. Hobbies, goals, a path. Those should be your focus, women are just a fun time

Title	How do you get an abundance mentality mindset when you don't actually have anything close to abundance?
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Date	May 11, 2014 7:12 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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