how does sex just happen??

Commercial_Habit_923 · 2022-05-31T12:27:49+00:00

Ive also struggled with this a lot in the past.

I’m by no means an expert. But in the last year I’ve met 8 women from online dating.

I kissed everyone Of them that I wanted to kiss 6/8. So I’d say if your on a date with someone, attraction is established and chances are she wants to kiss you. Of course not 100% but someone has to make the move and it’s not going to be the girl.

I would never ask do you want to have sex, unless your already kissing, in each other’s pants, etc. I feel like the verbalization of it just makes a bit awkward or unnatural you know? So escalate from kiss to make out to foreplay to sex. And ask consent sometime after make out

bogues04 · 2022-05-31T15:26:47+00:00

You have to escalate things physically first. Very rarely will a girl just let you skip all the physical steps and go straight to sex. If you go out with a girl I recommend always sitting next to them not across from them. The first thing I usually do is kind make my leg touch there leg. If she doesn’t move her leg away and leaves our legs touching I move forward start touching with my hand usually on the back first than if she seems comfortable with that I will start touching her leg. The point is you have to kind read her but you want her to be comfortable with your touch. At this point if she seems receptive you can probably kiss her but some girls don’t like to kiss in public so keep this in mind too. The point being you do a bunch of small steps when you are escalating towards sex. The bigger the jump the more likely you will meet resistance. So I never ask them directly if they want to have sex if you escalate and do things properly it will happen. Often times they will ask you if you want to have sex if you get them turned on enough.

Effective_Elk_4719 · 2022-05-31T17:56:50+00:00

It doesn't just happen. Men need to escalate physically 99% of the time.

HaveBlue_2 · 2022-05-31T12:45:40+00:00

Ask the question enough, and you'll come up with variations on how to communicate it.

"I didn't really come here for the party, want to go relax at my/your place?" - keep asking until one of them says 'yes.'

froze_gold · 2022-05-31T16:32:58+00:00

I just tease, flirt, playfully touch and then eventually kiss. Usually leads right to sex.

ClavasClub · 2022-05-31T17:18:04+00:00

I'm not autistic and far from it and all but my first sexual encounters were pretty much like that - ask girl to come over, do something intimate together (99% watch movie while cuddling) and after a bit of making out I just ask it, straight up like that. "Hey, wanna have sex?".

I'm very weary about the whole consent thing with girls and IMO it's retarded to think that asking a girl if they wanna have sex (provided you're in the appropriate place, like home, and not at some bar) is gonna blow your chances. If they came over and they're making out with you - they're into you, worst case scenario she says no and it's not because you weren't seductive enough, maybe she needs to trust you more because of bad past experiences or sex is way more emotional for the girl than you.

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-05-31T17:56:22+00:00

The DiCarlo Kino Escalation ladder is a good guide for how to progress gradually in a way that gives her easy chances to stop you if she's not comfortable. Learn it, embrace it.

Also, there's nothing wrong with straight up asking. There are ways to do it confidently and even if it does come out awkwardly, a moment of awkwardness is a small price to pay for solid consent.

yoitsappy · 2022-05-31T14:25:01+00:00

Alcohol

Osiris_Raphious · 2022-05-31T14:46:31+00:00

Sometimes two people are attracted to each other. They start to flirt, maybe see and give off signals, maybe they are in the mood and both havnt had sex in a bit so the urge is there. One thing lead to another and boom, you are just kissing and taking clothes off.

I was living on a shared house, and a friend of a roomate comes around (turns out to be just a failed tinder match that became plutonic). But i saw how she looked at me, a stare that lingered a little too long, a compliment a little too out of the blue. So weeks later, when we all sat down to watch some bullshit on tv after a long night of doing shit on our own as a house, somehow everyone left for bed and it was just us two sitting there. We never really talked up until that point, so as she was sitting very close. I figured why not, so i just joked, gave her a little shoulder push, felt a strong but gentle resistance and so i just put my arm around her. she came in even closer, snuggling in, and as i looked into her eyes, i could see she had a desire for me physically, her eyes were just giving it away. So we sort of started to make out, then when thing got physical we went to my room and banged. She came around for more fun for a few months. Then we stopled, as she wanted to start seeing me and getting to knkw me, to a point where i could tell she wanted a relationship. But we never really talked, or got along beyond pure physical stuff.

Point is, it really just does happen, sometimes things just align well and it happens.

But...

You have to see the signs of attracfions and have to givd off signs too. Not talking about, its body language, its eye contact, its flirting, its getting in closer and getting physical contact established but not pushed. It has to feel easy and natural and not forced. Forcing things never works, well sometimes, like forcing yourself to do the right things, that works, but not forcing onto others.

h0v3rb1k3s · 2022-05-31T17:43:01+00:00

It's more fun to say "let's get naked"

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-05-31T14:14:33+00:00

The penis goes in the vagina

Samedislayer · 2022-06-01T04:02:53+00:00

Sex “just happens” to women, at least that’s how she should feel if you game it right. You are a man it is your job to lead the women into a positive emotional state around you. Also, show intention that your interactions are man to women, be subtle but un mistakenly flirting. If you chat to her like a friend, she will only ever be a friend. Show outright confidence, but never be pushy.

aterrifyingfish · 2022-06-01T14:34:46+00:00

Im afraid asking that question won't work every time.

You're right, but it will work more often than you think, provided the woman you're asking is comfortable with and attracted to you. If you're in a private place with a girl who is attracted and comfortable with you, you turn to her and just blatantly say "Hey do you want to have sex?", you'd probably be successful most of the time. Women like sex, after all.

The trick is finding someone who is comfortable with, and attracted to you, and being able to recognize those things. That only comes with becoming socially competent and putting yourself out there enough.

Title	how does sex just happen??
Author	irrelevantleech
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Comments	33
Date	May 31, 2022 11:41 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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