How does the game change from 30-40 ?

PhilosopherNeku300 · 2022-04-06T20:39:23+00:00

Bro,

I would encourage you and everyone else reading to travel. You guys deserve better. Honestly, the best thing I would do is to take my hard earn money and start enjoying life in countries where women are easier and friendlier.

Its much better than rush and settle down and then regret it only a few years later. It happened to a friend he know pays for alimony and lives a much difficult life than before.

Loopyrainbow · 2022-04-06T18:19:48+00:00

I agree. I’m about to turn thirty, and while I ultimately want to settle down, I didn’t get the chance to date too many girls during my twenties, so I plan to “spin a few plates” during my early thirties because once I do settle down, I need to know I picked the best possible option.

BensonInFL · 2022-04-06T19:41:33+00:00

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nevertextgoodnight · 2022-04-06T19:21:44+00:00

It's all about having fun regardless the girls age but younger 20s will be a bit flakier

Unless you're purposely screening for a ltr the most important thing is how a woman of any age feels when she's with you

But things kind of change, after a while looks were not the most important thing for me. I still need a pretty and fit chick but I enjoy a similar sense of humor and down to earth types so I consider that first, then looks

NineteenAD9 · 2022-04-06T19:41:51+00:00

Plusses: You know the game inside out, you know exactly what you're looking for, and you likely make more money or have achieved larger status.

Cons: See above. Knowing so much is a gift and a curse, because you are looking for something specific. When you're younger, you don't really know what you want. You just get in situations and relationships if it's fun.

In your 30s, you value you your time more. But, unfortunately you are going to meet more women who are very stubborn, masculine, have children, previously married, and have been through a lot of shit. That makes up most of the dating market.

wont_give_no_kreddit · 2022-04-06T23:58:47+00:00

I had flings and fwb with women I really wasn't attracted to but decided to meet with due to sexual urges.

Thru some dates and other shared hobbies (after we hooked up a couple times) I learned that I enjoyed their company, so even if my eyes glimpsed at all the prettier options around, I was okay with going back home with them.

It is a slippery slope as you can end up catching feelings as you grow to care for them. Normally, that would not be an issue but my constant desire of other women makes me scared of commitment.

I love sex, don't really care much about looks as long as I can walk away whenever I feel like it.

Only advice I can give you is try to focus in chemistry and personality IN AND OUT of the bedroom. Some women are fun to bang but not so fun to be around in other situations.

insa_max · 2022-04-06T21:19:58+00:00

Men's social market value peaks at 50 (or so studies say) so don't worry about it. Keep working on yourself and your social skills.

Y615 · 2022-04-06T19:32:51+00:00

I do want to bring to light another issue that there are many left out men,who didn't get to play around in their 20s.

Now this could be due n number of reasons like depressed/fat/mental issues/broke/responsibilties etc and all the other things which men go through(that I have missed out) in their personal and professional lives that seldom society has time to talk about.

My point is that these men should also be encouraged to play around a bit(if he wishes to) but they aren't. Infact if an early 30s man is sleeping around he is bashed and ridiculed. What a man does and when he wants to marry is no woman's business.

BensonInFL · 2022-04-06T22:26:48+00:00

The average age difference in the west is also 2-3 years

Who cares. Do you aspire to be average? Its definitely a lot harder in many ways to date girls in their early 20's (i.e. in initially be willing to talk to me, and to escalate to something else), but once I get them up to a certain level of comfort, its easier to have them fall madly in love with me and do anything I want with them.... just because of sheer practice and I know mostly how they will react to everything... but I will say its a lot of fun and worth it.. fuck average

-B

nopenotmedude · 2022-04-06T23:07:45+00:00

it is like stepping onto a tball field when you're 40 and not a giant piece of shit. everything is easier because you know how to get out of your own way.

EthicalSeduction · 2022-04-07T17:02:54+00:00

So I'm older and have lived through some of this, but I'm also part of a IRL community where we have people of all ages flirting, finding casual sex partners, and forming long term relationships. meeting each other. So let me share what I've noticed and discussed with some of the people in my community.

When we are younger and first starting to exploring sex and ourselves, we probably don’t know what we really want long term, so we experiment and explore. This often means a variety of sexual and relationship partners, and because we are new, sometimes some drama (because everyone is newer and learning along with us).

By the time many people are around 28-30 years old, we have a better sense of what we want for both sex and our relationships. People often don’t just want “sex” but instead, better, higher quality, and potentially more meaningful sex. And they usually want deeper, more connected relationships as well.

Often people in their 30s start to feel their time is running out and they must choose a partner soon and settle down if they want to find someone good (high quality) - but this is entirely NOT TRUE. It doesn’t matter what age you are, you can always find people (thanks to the internet and social groups) who are looking for the types of things you want and need. When I divorced at age 40 and was not ready for another relationship right away, I was able to find plenty of people (really great people too, some who I still know and am friends with) who were happy to explore all the fun, kinky, “dirty” sexual things that I wanted to try. And then when I was ready for a relationship, there were people there for that too.

The real takeaway here is to know that regardless of your age, you can find others who want and need the same types of things you are looking for. And the internet can help you find each other.

wont_give_no_kreddit · 2022-04-06T22:39:37+00:00

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Neo-Rio · 2022-04-07T01:13:00+00:00

Nothing really changes after 35, although after having so much sex by this point you're probably wondering if it's all a waste of time if you're not having kids as a result of it all. Maybe you even want to be a father.

That may tempt you to consider marriage, but as a married guy I can tell you that marriage is a huge price to pay. And that's even when your wife is a complete angel - as the living situation and the financial stress will just frustrate you and keep you locked down and bored - working forever, depriving you of any freedom and spare time, and typing on reddit trying to remember your glory days while looking at porn because your kid distracts you from ever having sex. Meanwhile both you and your wife are getting fat. Having a kid is fun though, but the positives are outweighed by the many negatives.

If you want to have kids without the burden of raising them or being forced to buy an unaffordable home with a grinding mortgage, you need to be either a sperm donor or a sex tourist. Obviously being a sperm donor isn't much fun, so tourist visas last for 30 days (women take that long to figure out if they're pregnant), and if you're careless when you're on the road - mask your real identity - you won't have to deal with the consequences of child support when you get home. The legal system of where you dumped your load won't apply to you in your home country.

079C · 2022-04-08T20:18:58+00:00

Around age 30, many women realize they chose the wrong spouse, and start over, this time doing much better, especially sexually and romantically.

Title	How does the game change from 30-40 ?
Author	meteorness123
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Date	April 6, 2022 6:08 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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