How to actually "lower my standards"?

kiki7492 · 2024-11-20T02:27:12+00:00

How often do u watch porn

Silly_Randy · 2024-11-20T02:31:08+00:00

You find one thing that you find attractive about her. Not a whole list.

So, you go out with a girl. She ain't that cute. Okay. But her nose is cute. So you go with that. You wanna rub your dick on her nose and cover it with your cum. You think about that.

Another girl, isn't that cute but her ass is fire. Or her tits.

Or she's really feminine and that turns you on.

Her hands are sexy and you want those hands all over you.

Pick something and choose to pursue her on that basis.

RichhPiano · 2024-11-20T01:33:35+00:00

Try to become as horny as possible. Stop jerking off, think about other girls while you’re with them. Get drunk. This is what I would suggest.

no_one_lies · 2024-11-20T02:41:34+00:00

Stop watching so much porn

TheNattyJew · 2024-11-20T02:58:19+00:00

I can find something attractive about damn near any woman. The trick is to focus on those attributes that you find attractive and try to ignore the rest. If you want to make her your GF, then this trick won't work very long. After a while you start noticing all the things you were trying to ignore. but for short term fun, just focus on her good points

Kroddy1134 · 2024-11-20T03:48:01+00:00

Reduce the amount of porn you watch and stop spending time on Instagram looking at IG models’ profiles if you do.

Try to have normal conversations with all types of women, with no agenda… soon you’ll find chemistry and banter with some and you’d be surprised what can get you attracted to someone other than looks :)

bannedcanceled · 2024-11-20T02:15:46+00:00

I wanna internet bully you so bad but imma bite my tongue

KoleSekor · 2024-11-20T01:35:55+00:00

Holy $#%/ are you serious?!

Please for the love of God don't be like this 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

Ok_Raisin_9844 · 2024-11-20T03:29:34+00:00

I like the sex

Onzalimey · 2024-11-20T02:57:11+00:00

Alcohol helps a lot. So does being horny like some ppl said. Also doing it for other reasons than the girl. Like experience pulling or experience trying new things is good

Acceptable_Act1435 · 2024-11-20T05:50:40+00:00

Stop watching porn, work out and improve your photos to become a "6", "7" or "8", and focus on if you vibe together and if something about her is cute. I most of the time go with the smile

HungDaddyNYC · 2024-11-20T02:46:58+00:00

It’s not a standards issue. It’s a reality issue. Are you a catch? What improvements. Are our type of women even in your dating pool etc.

I_hate_being_interru · 2024-11-20T02:02:29+00:00

Wow, people really will ask anything on Reddit these days.

Cybralisk · 2024-11-20T04:42:25+00:00

If you are truly just an average guy, cute is the absolute best you are going to get these days and you are lucky to get that. A cute 5/10-6/10 girl is going to have guys way better than you hitting her up.

Ant010101 · 2024-11-20T06:30:45+00:00

If you want a rare bird you have to be a rare bird, or have enough money to buy them. If you’re a fuckin 5/10, the bell curve says you get 4s,5s, and 6s. You’re damn near thirty, get in the gym, get your hygiene and wardrobe up to speed and get a grip. If you don’t want to do any of those things, then listen to the advice of everyone else here. But if you actually want anything better than yourself, you have to get better yourself.

Thierr · 2024-11-20T06:50:33+00:00

Don't lower your standards, however make sure you're not lying to your self about attraction.

Some people put crazy expectations just out of Ego or actually as a defense to not have people get close to them.

Wooden_Strawberry835 · 2024-11-20T06:59:27+00:00

I can’t believe no one here even entertained the idea that it might be due to a lack of emotional connection. I’m basically the same and getting the hot girl did nothing for me as well. I know from past relationships though that once in emotionally invested everything is fine sexually. For me emotional comes before the sexual and that’s just how it is. For a lot of guys that’s not the case though.

habbo311 · 2024-11-20T07:31:47+00:00

You can't really. They need to legalize prostitution in America today. I can't deal with women I'm not attracted to

Prestigious_Water336 · 2024-11-20T01:43:37+00:00

This is what you do to get yourself into the mindset.

When you look at a woman give yourself one second to determine whether or not you'd fuck her. If it's a yes engage. It should be a yes for like 95%-98% of the women you see.

You have to realize that it's just a one night stand/lay. She's not gonna be your girlfriend or your wife.

If you want to date higher quality women you need to take steps to improve yourself. A high quality woman wants to be with a high quality guy. Make more money,drive a nicer vehicle, live in a nice place,workout,eat healthy,have a career plan etc.

Private_Capital1 · 2024-11-20T01:46:28+00:00

high standards are a sign of depression . Look up all those stories of people lifting the World Cup or the Lombardi Trophy and then feeling miserable afterwards. The nice trophy result should be the cherry on the cake of a good life, when it becomes the whole cake it means there is a probllem with meaning/psyche

You shold learn from nature and fuck everything too, in a lifetime you can expect to get a few 10s as well, and you will be knowing what to do with all the practice

Party-Ganache9553 · 2024-11-20T04:31:28+00:00

I don’t understand why people want to bully op. I’ve the same issue - but then I’m looking for a relationship. I’ve good amount of experience with women so unless that chubby girl sits on my dick, I aint putting effort to fuck her.

vtribal · 2024-11-20T04:07:15+00:00

u cant control what you are attracted to

SoggyTangerine451 · 2024-11-20T01:56:07+00:00

are you gay? Go see a doc to examine your testosterone levels. With enough testosterone, anything can be smashed

BetterString9306 · 2024-11-20T03:41:17+00:00

you are gay. Try men

Title	How to actually "lower my standards"?
Author	Imlerith0
Upvotes	17
Comments	39
Date	November 20, 2024 1:24 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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