How to become better at flirting?

ofangels12 · 2019-02-12T22:03:17+00:00

1 Eye contact

2 Open body language

3 Slower and relaxed voice

4 just chill, you don’t even need to think of something funny to say, just get them to start talking about themselves and with eye contact and the right body language you will look attracted to them when they’re talking, they’ll perceive that and boom. You’re on the right foot

BigBeardDaddyK · 2019-02-12T22:21:46+00:00

You don't need to flirt to be honest. Just be masculine, mysterious, and focused on your goals and confidence/charisma will follow. My advice is don't chase ass. It can work but it's a whole lot of work. Make yourself a catch. Make yourself the best version of yourself (finances, fitness, etc) and woman will come to you.

Bayek10 · 2019-02-12T21:43:32+00:00

Firstly, the problem is you're playing too safe. Don't play too safe. Get out there and dare to flirt, unapologetically tell her during the convo if you like something about her.

Technicality wise, Be direct about it, but not too direct and slowly build the vibe, like start from "you have a nice smile you know" and then build up to "you dont wanna know the things i wanna do to you right now." You can turn a normal convo to a flirtacious one real easy. Just divert the convo towards what she's wearing or her make-up or whatever and use that to initiate the flirt.

cbh28 · 2019-02-12T23:54:36+00:00

Tease her. If she plays along, she's game, if not, move on. Teasing is fun, and I use it as a way of a filter. If she doesn't play she either doesn't like me or she's boring, so either way, it's time to move on. A lot of girls like it though, it's fun, especially because it separates you from the "compliment guys" (guys who compliment them all the time).

Just do/say what you find fun. Girls that play along are the type you should keep talking to.

WB2E · 2019-02-12T21:31:31+00:00

The best way to flirt with women is also the hardest.

Go direct.

Tell her you think she's cute.

I mean that's the reason you approached her right?

She's not an idiot, she knows that. The fact that you're tip-toeing around that is unnatural and a turn-off.

After you tell her you think she's cute, the conversation will be naturally flirty. "I'm quite attracted to you, how are you doing this to me?" "I like you're ring, it's almost sexy" "We should check out the new art exhibit for our 4th date"

You're pulling her into your world. In your world, you think she's attractive and you want her, and she is going to be yours because your energy is so strong.

1959Chicagoan · 2019-02-12T22:12:32+00:00

Quit telling jokes. You’re nervous. You’re not funny.

BishopDayGame · 2019-02-12T22:50:43+00:00

Not sure the context to this, but here goes my best guess:

1) Whether it's daygame or club game, I would recommend a direct opener. "Hey I though you looked nice/cute, so I had to come say hello. I'm Bishop.. " extend your hand and go from there.

2) Don't worry about being "flirty"; anytime you approach a stranger, there is implicit sexual tension.

3) Sounds like there might be a problem with keeping a conversation going. In that case I would fall back on the DaygameBlueprint model of assumption stacking: you can find the best discussion on their Daygame Blueprint. But you can also youtube it. The basic stacks are what she does for a living, where she's from, and what she's like. Phrase these like "You strike me as someone who teaches children for a living. You have that whole... save the world vibe." If you're wrong, you guys can play a game of where you try to figure out if you can guess what the other person does/is from/is like, etc. After you guys exchange information on this, focus on these topics and draw them out organically until you can find other things to bond on.

4) Unpopular but probably the most important: find an inner game product (I hear "Invincible" is great) and use it. I personally was coached by someone who helped me build my inner game, so I speak from experience when I say it was the missing link. The reason I say this is because I have a buddy who uses the same assumption stacking model and has far less success with it (he blanks out, he reverts to excessive teasing, etc).

5) Be ok with "awkward pauses". They only feel awkward because you just met. Inner game with help you deal with the tension. Remember, mirror neurons are at play, so if you feel uncomfortable with the pauses, she might feel it too. If you're ok with them, then she'll more likely become ok with them too.

ModernWolfStrategies · 2019-02-13T01:40:40+00:00

If you feel like you peak early in conversations maybe you should grab the number and create a plan to see them later. You can close on the number and then meet back up with your friends. You can even say, hey we are going to be stopping here or going here in a little bit, you should meet up with us or come with.

It’s a myth that you can always physically escalate girls right there and then. It depends a lot on the context. For some girls it may actually turn them off. The set up and walk away ups your value because you are in control. If you are just standing there struggling to make conversation clearly you are not actually having fun at that moment and it’s not going to feel organic. It’s going to feel for her like you’re sticking around because you desperately need that interaction to work out. Did you ever think that maybe they’re boring? Maybe you are suffering from the dancing monkey mindset and are not putting it back on them enough.

Another thought and I know this doesn’t answer your flirting question, but it sounds like maybe you’re not closing the deal or maybe not putting your intention out there. You don’t have to do some razzle dazzle keno junk to get a girl attracted to you. For me it was never something that really matched my persona and I did just fine.

Stay congruent my friend.

PolesWithGoals · 2019-02-12T23:25:28+00:00

just be straight-up and tell her what you like about her

Paltenburg · 2019-02-13T14:45:10+00:00

Move her between places. Like proposing to go a different place in the club or what not.

Alamayetrusca · 2019-02-15T15:20:55+00:00

+1 at eye contact and speak calm. The rest is interaction and dynamic of the environment/ situation, in my opinion.

Title	How to become better at flirting?
Author	Schmonkenstein
Upvotes	99
Comments	51
Date	February 12, 2019 9:09 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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