How to keep her interested in you

norwegiandoggo · 2022-01-05T18:09:01+00:00

There is absolutely NOTHING you need to do to "keep her interested in you". This is a limiting belief. And it is exactly the type of thinking that leads to needy, try-hard behavior.

You think a girl will only like you and stay interested if you do something all the time. If you push her buttons right. But this button-pushing only works at the very beginning of getting to know someone. As soon as your past that phase the girl will remain interested in you because of who you are. Not because you keep pushing her buttons correctly.

Underlying the distorted belief that you need to do something special to keep her interested, is usually another limiting belief about yourself. A belief that you're not attractive or good enough as you are, so you need to do something special to weigh up for that perceived lack.

Backheelfields · 2022-01-05T17:53:07+00:00

Dont give her too much attention or validation without seeing any reciprocation back

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-01-06T06:49:24+00:00

Only text to set up a date.

MotiMorphosys · 2022-01-05T17:09:27+00:00

You want to move things to meeting up as soon as possible.

If you matched on a dating app, text back right away. Double texting is also ok as you are competing with a bunch of guys for her attention in one of the most brutal ways. Get her laughing asap and then move towards setting up a meet up.

If you met in person and already have a rapport then you can wait a little. I try to be not available when it’s work hours and more available after work hours on week days, but same thing. Get her laughing, then set up meeting up

Repeat until you’ve fucked.

Once you’ve met up and fucked, then you can go about ignoring her for as long as you feel like. I try to be a Available for sex once a week and see how long it lasts. Typically 2-6 months. YMMV

Janadarr · 2022-01-06T08:29:08+00:00

Well I would just say don't give her everything at once. For example if you play guitar don't tell her that u play (unless she ask you) but one day when she is in your apartment show her your skill. That is just an example. When u give every detail, one day u will not have anything to give. In the other way she might wonder what else you have. Let her to do talking part. Good luck

Zealousideal-Bar-154 · 2022-01-06T09:41:29+00:00

Just be you, player. Carry yourself as if she is.

stoneyMaloney92 · 2022-01-06T17:51:13+00:00

You don’t “work” to keep her interested.

You continue being yourself. If that drives her away… GOOD.

Dizzy_Paramedic6216 · 2022-01-06T00:31:00+00:00

Best advice is to not text. Only text you should be sending ever are “hi I am x nice meeting u” , “on my way”, “ address 7595 h blvd “ , “was great hope see u again soon”

Keep communication in person. Or in phone (but brief) let her miss you and think of you and chase you.

Be a bit mysterious. Be flirty and sexual energy, charismatic and confident. Don’t text her out like a wuss, this is very wussy. Call her. If she want to she’ll pick up.

Texting is the worse things ever for dating

Xagabon · 2022-01-06T04:49:51+00:00

Refuse to chase Reward her for chasing Repeat

master-ozymandias · 2022-01-06T06:24:02+00:00

yeah ignore all the people on here and read corey waynes how to be a 3% man book and watch his videos

PontusOfMars · 2022-01-07T02:13:47+00:00

If she wants you, she wants you. Girls who are into you will move mountains and cross oceans to be with you. If it were Tom Holland or Michael B. Jordan she were texting, I highly doubt she would lose interest because they didn't text her enough.

AidanCastaneda · 2022-01-06T04:55:31+00:00

just be yourself, don’t put her on a pedestal i don’t care how beautiful she is… focus on you and treat her how you would treat a 4 or 1 on the scale. for example my girlfriend wanted me to sleepover tonight but we had to be up at 5 am and i told her i need my full hours of sleep so i can perform wel at the gym. SHOW HER YOU DONT CARE AND THAT YOURE FOCUSED ON YOUR GOALS TRUST ME.

cass2769 · 2022-01-06T06:10:19+00:00

Do you know her irl or just virtual? I think this makes a difference. Have you talked about what you are both looking for? If she’s looking for something casual and you want a relationship your needs will probably be different. Also pay attention to how often she reaches out to you. You don’t want to text her 4 times as often as she texts you…that would be a lot. But if she sends you one or two texts each day it’s fine to do about the same frequency.

Also, some women are different, but I’ve never been a fan of when guys text good morning or good night every day.

DoctorForesight · 2022-01-06T07:08:41+00:00

I've heard to end the conversation right while it's going well. That way, she'll be eager to pick up where you left off later.

hardthumbs · 2022-01-06T14:13:39+00:00

I usually talk to my bitches 24/7

It’s too much to some girls, some love it.

Guess which ones I keep fucking?

shagilkt · 2022-01-06T14:59:32+00:00

Be mysterious

johnleewash · 2022-01-06T23:23:21+00:00

There is no definitive way of having someone stay interested in you. But don’t message her like a friend I’ve done this in the past and have paid the price for it. Keep the conversation in a kind of flirty banter where you make jokes about sexual things but slowly where she starts to open up more about personal intimate stuff

i_love_crazy_hobos · 2022-01-05T23:08:52+00:00

It’s been said that you want to text basically only to organize the meet up, until you’ve had sex. Then text a bit more for fun, but I would still keep it down to a low number. i think You want to get to a point where you’re not feeling compulsion to text her or receive her texts.

See Andy’s Tinder guide section about messaging girls: https://killyourinnerloser.com/tinder-guide-3/

Edit: Also as other dude said, you don’t need to text to keep her interest. In fact i believe it will risk do the opposite from compulsive texting. As long as you keep seeing her once a week or two she’ll be interested.

Title	How to keep her interested in you
Author	InstructionVivid6980
Upvotes	54
Comments	42
Date	January 5, 2022 4:53 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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