How to react when she shows disinterest/mixed signals?

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-09-11T19:03:59+00:00

Mixed signals don't exists when you are not needy and simply understand that if it's not a fuck yes, the it's a no.

Mixed signals only exists in the mind of needy guys who cling onto any breadcrumps because deep down they don't think it's possible that a woman will say "fuck yes" to them.

So their desperation causes them to interpret anything that isn't an "absolute no" from her, as a "maybe",... And that as such they have to keep chasing, insisting and being patient hoping their patience will get rewarded eventually.

So you don't deal with mixed signals, you keep talking to new woman and ignore quickly the ones who don't say a clear "fuck yes" equivalent to you. Simple as that.

And, yes no one is that busy, they are busy for specific people only. That's just the polite way to indicate they are not interested because a lot of women will usually avoid giving a definite "absolute no" even if they are not interested at all in you.

TransitionNormal1387 · 2025-09-11T18:39:37+00:00

The ultimate goal with this is to develop your abundance mindset to the point that this kind of stuff is nothing to be worried about because your open to the world of opportunities of dating and sex. you should be confident you will meet and or match with another attractive girl no problem maybe not today but soon. And you developed the skills to achieve that fluidly.

Until you get there, yeah it sucks, no easy way about it. The only way to get out of feeling bad is to chase your passions and improve your social circle and seduction skills.

Rhino3750ss · 2025-09-11T20:19:03+00:00

Ask yourself why you should even care.

If you are still alive and still get paid, why are you going to let outcomes with women make you feel a certain type of way?

The answer is lust. Get rid of it. Sex isn't a bad thing; feeling like you need sex is the bad thing.

PHP333 · 2025-09-11T18:50:11+00:00

You move on and look for IOI’s from other girls. Make it easy on yourself

Altruistic-Patient-8 · 2025-09-11T20:13:08+00:00

If its not a solid yes, then its a no. If she wanted to, she would. Dont chase people that dont put effort in.

Kgb725 · 2025-09-12T00:09:42+00:00

As an adult yes I am very busy sometimes. If someone is truly interested they will at least try to communicate with you

stateoffutility · 2025-09-12T00:15:13+00:00

Contrary to what people are saying here I’d say the best way to react is just hit her up in 2 weeks. Something like a half witty message but very short. See how she reacts, then ask to meet at X. Throughout our life we experience different moods, one week we’re cold, next week we feel a bit more open minded. I definitely would only try it one more time, sort of “giving her a chance” maybe she’ll feel a bit vulnerable in that specific moment and meet you. It happens.

The mentality of “oh fuck her next her if I’m not the God she’s dreaming about” is a bit silly. You don’t waste time but you also should be wise enough to know that she could be seeing someone, or something happened in her life that makes her be distant.

illwill_600 · 2025-09-12T01:04:33+00:00

Walk away? Move on? Approach another woman?

If a person is not interested why should you keep knocking on a closed door? C'mon, you gotta respect yourself.

No one is entitled to another person's affection & atttention.

SeamoreB00bz · 2025-09-11T19:03:20+00:00

next?

Commissar_David · 2025-09-12T02:37:34+00:00

Honestly bro, if she does that just give her an ultimatum amd if she goes she goes you didnt lose anything of value. While if she stays, then its not intentional.

notherex26 · 2025-09-12T04:25:48+00:00

Simple, "alright, talk later" then go ghost mode on them and talk to others. Why do you wanna waste time to chase a girl who want to run mind games to see how invested you are?

_je11y_bean · 2025-09-12T11:38:18+00:00

Match the energy and/or treat people like cats, ignore them and wait for them to seek you out.

keptit2real · 2025-09-12T12:33:44+00:00

You walk away, if it's a situation where You're going to see this person on a daily or weekly Don't ignore but don't engage has been the best advice I've received from this sub.. are you Chase mixed signals and they would ding all the carrot around me. I guess you just have to go through the experience to learn it. But learn it from those who have overcome it you want to find women who are showing interest in you and if they not are not walk away.. a yes ,a f*** yes, ,yeah I'd love to, a reschedule. All indicate she wants it with you.

Don't give attention to those who are not give me attention to you

Cautious-Dig5940 · 2025-09-12T13:00:15+00:00

Thats a soft rejection. You should say something like "Sure. Next time." and stop interacting with her. Ever. Until she will come to you again. In this case you could tell her something like "Im glad that it's only 2 years passed and you are finally free. But Im busy". And stop interacting with her.

This may sound harsh but the reality is - this is the only way to teach them that soft-rejection is hurt like hell and even worse than hard rejection. Is she busy for 15mins coffee with you? Is she CEO that has no time? Are you a strange creepy maniac? So why she is not interested to give you even a chance?

Remember, once you change - the world around you start to change. If you will shake up - they will keep doing it to you. Once you will find courage to act - the world will change.

Holiday-Ad-9827 · 2025-09-12T01:51:52+00:00

Women will tell you if they want to smash

StepGeneral3597 · 2025-09-18T04:19:47+00:00

Yeah it sucks. But if you keep going you’ll have too many girls to care😂

epimpstyle · 2025-09-11T19:20:00+00:00

How you react in situations like this reflects your maturity. Claiming that no one is ever truly busy is childish.... give her time to deal with her issue and reach out later tomorrow, in 2-3 days, whenever..... If the reaction stays the same, you already know the answer without her saying it outright. It’s that simple.

Affectionate_Boss657 · 2025-09-11T18:46:32+00:00

Same thing is happening to me

Hai i am 25 m from India and recently I had text conversations with her on Instagram .we met at a restaurant and we discussed a lot about personal life things and job related and hobbies she is younger than me we have some 3 to 4 years age gap and we had lunch after that when I am trying to pay the bill .that girl said if you will pay total bill I will not meet you again she said that we can split later or if not paid also fine so she paid the bill and later we moved to an icecream shop to have icecream we had conversation over there and we exchanged our numbers and she said that we will meet for sport(badminton) some other time next week and we booked cabs separately for going back to our home and first her cab arrives and I gave sendoff for her .she told me to message after reaching .so after reaching she messaged me on insta to know did I reached or not and about she reached I have also replied after reaching .last night i messaged good night and sweet dreams .she left me on seen and today morning i messaged her saying good morning she is not seen online active 12 h ago . after that she messaged and one on one conversation and suddenly my last msg she was not seen I sent it on Wednesday. I can't stop thinking .how to comeout of all my overthinking and over analyzing

Title	How to react when she shows disinterest/mixed signals?
Author	Healthy-Two217
Upvotes	46
Comments	38
Date	September 11, 2025 6:31 PM UTC (10 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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