Hey guys. Been lurking for a while and thought I'd intro myself and start contributing and sharing my mistakes and successes.

Background: Raised Mormon (ya, this hurt). Beat into submission that sex was dirty, girls don't like sex, and men should be "nice" at all times. Got married way too young, but to a woman I had to work to catch (Out Alpha-ed the other guys chasing her). Once married though, she had all the power. Power was sex. Since you are married "for eternity" you don't have any options but to buckle under if she withholds. At the time, wasn't a big deal because we were both on the same page, most of the time.

Fast forward 10 years. I started reading too much, ended up leaving the religion. Wife has a fit. No sex. No sex for 4 years. I can't take it anymore and have an affair. Marriage is over.

So now, I'm 36 years old. Out on the market again, and finding it quite unproductive to be a "nice guy". I started trying to figure out why everything I'd ever been told about catching women wasn't working and stumbled upon Seddit. Seriously, it's been about as mind blowing as finding out your religion isn't what it claims.

So now, I'm trying to reprogram myself. I'm in pretty good shape, I have a very comfortable level of income, I'm good looking (or so I've been told), average height (5'10"), and I have traveled all over the world. The problem is I think I'm just too nice and Kino just scares the living hell out of me.

I made a New Years resolution to start going out more, and I'll be posting some FRs of my exploits. I decided to start posting, because there seems to be a lack of us "older" guys posting on here.

I live in Shanghai China. So if any of you guys are over here, give me a shout and lets go out on the town.

Later!