Is anyone else perceived as "handsome", "attractive" by his peers/friends, but doesn't have any of the "attractive people situations" happen to him?

jujigame · 2020-01-26T20:12:33+00:00

I think in order to get girls literally throwing themselves at you, you really need to be next level handsome!

I have a number of good looking friends, but only ONE of them literally has girls opening him, rubbing his chest, telling him how handsome he is, flat out offering him sex etc within seconds of meeting him etc etc. It's kinda rare.

You'll likely have to do the heavy lifting, i'm afraid lol.

Be happy that you are obviously handsome, though. That's gonna make this all very easy for you

YwUt_83RJF · 2020-01-26T20:27:31+00:00

Have you considered the possibility that this question is silly?

drdavidbanner20 · 2020-01-26T19:48:07+00:00

however I've never had girls giving me the "look" in public, or approaching me at parties or clubs.

Girls are subtle. You probably missed "the look." As for approaching, it's exceedingly rare for a woman to do that.

I know I'm supposed to do some work to seduce on my part

You're gonna have to do the bulk of the work in the beginning. Things usually balance out when you've been seeing a girl for a bit.

but I'm too afraid to act on it if girls don't show ultra obvious interest.

I recommend acting on it despite what signs a woman shows. The reason being is you won't ever know for sure unless you make a move. Some girls will appear to be eye fucking you, but will reject any and all of your advances. Other women will be the opposite: look completely shut off but will do just about anything you ask. And the rest of the girls are somewhere in between. Make a move and let her be the one to reject you instead of you rejecting yourself by not pulling the trigger.

thedudesmashes · 2020-01-26T20:43:17+00:00

You carry yourself how you perceive yourself. A confident dude who's 5'10 will get "the look" before a hot guy who's 6'5 and has no confidence. Women wount give you the look because they can read your body language which indicates how you perceive your own worth. It's impossible to not project it without knowledge of how to do so. I'm attractive and all my "hot guy situations" began by doing things rooted in my confidence, not height or looks, just having my own style and fun/exciting personality.

Kentucky_Supreme · 2020-01-26T21:13:05+00:00

I've had plenty of people tell me I'm handsome/good-looking. But it's almost always much older women. Sometimes guys. But when it comes to women my own age or a little younger (i.e. dating age) I feel practically invisible and I never see girls give "the look" that they want to be approached. It's weird and confusing at the same time.

grrinchas · 2020-01-26T19:51:35+00:00

What a waste...

-Mavs · 2020-01-26T21:38:55+00:00

How's your confidence? Just because you have the stats doesn't mean you can neglect confidence; have to work at it to the point you become just under arrogant.

And also, just because women find you attractive, they still won't approach. Women are still chickens when it comes to that.

You're probably still young and people's opinion matter to you; when you get older that changes and you genuinely don't give a fuck.

Leo215 · 2020-01-26T22:10:10+00:00

If you are 6’4” and good looking you are probably intimidating to girls and they are probably think, he’s not into me.

High-__-there · 2020-01-26T22:28:58+00:00

What people dont seem to realize is girls arent that attracted to a guy just because his body type, its alot more the way he walks, talks, dresses, carries himself

scarrax · 2020-01-26T23:16:46+00:00

That used to be the story of my life. Older women would always say I was a handsome boy, people I met would always say how they bet I got laid a lot, girls would always tell me that “any girl would be lucky to have you” yet those same girls wouldn’t be interested in me. I did have girls interested in me but I wasn’t personally attracted to them.

I lost a bit of weight, cleaned up my appearance, started dressing better and most importantly I started putting myself out there more. Then everything sort of changed for me. I always just chalked it up to bad luck or some sort of curse, but really it was just me keeping myself back

SmoothPrimal · 2020-01-26T23:28:12+00:00

Don’t trust opinions of friends and older women when it comes to your looks. They will never say you are ugly even if your life depended on it.

Also attractive on paper “6’4 tall dark handsome” looks good on paper but it’s the small thins that matter.

I know girls care more about the face than the body. Unless they find your face attractive your body type is irrelevant.

Beginning_North · 2020-01-26T21:52:42+00:00

I can relate I feel like. I bet you catch girls attention but don't realize it. Just pay attention when you talk to women in your day to day life (etc. Gas station, mall, theatre, work etc). Also you definitely need to talk to more women.

STD_Tyler · 2020-01-26T22:17:27+00:00

Get a good hair cut, overhaul your fashion..

LegalPlug · 2020-01-27T01:22:24+00:00

It’s probably because we’re intimidated. If I find someone attractive I act like that person doesn’t exist out of shyness lol.

oldnewb999 · 2020-01-27T12:06:01+00:00

That's weird, it doesn't make sense, looks wise you have 2/3 ( height, muscles ). You should be drowning in pussy.

I have 2 friends who have 2/3 as well ( face,muscles ) they get appoached every time we go out, their type of " game " is to get a drink and stand casually around the bar, girls come and approach them like crazy, touching them, making out with them in a few mins time, etc, They never have to approach and they say are quite shy to approach.

FairAnalyst · 2020-01-27T16:16:29+00:00

Guys your family, friends will always have a higher opinion of you compared to strangers. Unless you're a total tool of course. Don't listen to what they say about how handsome you are, its bullshit.

If you're not getting attraction signals in real life from random girls - then you're not that good looking. I've seen guys go outside with filthy sweat pants and mess hair and haven't showered but girls still give them attention because they are hot and what they're wearing doesn't change that.

Once you realize you don't need to rely on your looks to get girls - you will have freedom. Of course don't look like a hermit when you go out - keep doing what you're doing and approach and work on game. Then those random girls will see you in the same light as your friends and family and like the real you.

beingaboi · 2020-01-26T20:34:31+00:00

girls are most attracted to energy. by handling your sexual energy and transmuting it even the most unattractive person becomes hot through his/her uniqueness. That gives someone the glow, liveliness, the presence when a room is entered.

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-27T03:02:29+00:00

This is happening to you for the same reason why looks aren't all that important: you aren't carrying yourself in a confident fashion. There are a bunch of body language cues we give off as men that girls pick up on. They're hard to fake.

axe122 · 2020-01-27T05:31:46+00:00

When you get more confidence with women they will perceive you differently. When I walk into a bar or mall a lot of the girls notice me, smile, make eye contact. It used to not be like that for me but the way you carry yourself had a lot or do with it. I’m 6’ attractive face muscular defined body and have been with more girls than I can count but they still don’t just come up to me. They have to be really really physically attracted to you to get this and they may do it when they are drunk and in an environment that it’s normal to talk and flirt with strangers. Even my best looking friend who girls would appear to throw themselves at would not get approached in general places only parties and bars.

Just learn game and accept that your attractive and handsome but not actor level handsome and have to put in work like 95% of other guys to get girls. Be thankful that your as tall and good looking as you are and move forward. Don’t bitch to your friends and family about girl troubles. Get a councilor or therapist for that shit cuz all’s your doing is making it so they never wanna introduce you to one of their girlfriends. If a girl makes eye contact once is worth approaching her. If it happens twice she’s most likely interested if it happens more than 3 times you better get over there and talk with her, after 3 times your basically blowing it.

Don’t look down or break eye contact first, just look at her and smile or smirk or eyebrow pump, anything but breaking eye contact and especially don’t look down. If you do break make sure to break to the side as of your looking past her if you look down your shooting yourself in the foot.

Title	Is anyone else perceived as "handsome", "attractive" by his peers/friends, but doesn't have any of the "attractive people situations" happen to him?
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Upvotes	18
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Date	January 26, 2020 7:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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