Ladies, when hooking up with a guy, what’re some tells/signs that he’s inexperienced?

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Junior-Sport7376 · 2024-09-02T15:20:53+00:00

Hesitancy to escalate.

WhereIsMyYacht · 2024-09-02T18:34:35+00:00

I do not agree with a lot of these comments at face value. Some guys are good in bed, but have anxiety. These guys may seem like they are inexperienced in the beginning but will 180 and show you they are. May not be the first time, but the second time forsure.

Some guys are inexperienced but talk alot of game. but when it comes to it, it doesnt equate.

Usually look for under or over compensation where the result after the second time is very rusty.

I've personally been complimented in bed by 90% of the women ive been with (Book rec: she comes first , available for free as a PDF).... HOWEVER I have gone through times where Im a jack rabbit for a few months and then celibate by choice focusing on self development (new job, new city). Usually I am a little rusty getting back into a groove but its not noticeable after the first time with a new person. Girls i've been long term with there is 0 issue.

If he is hesitating and prolonging even tho you are direct and obviously being flirtatious... then I would say that is a good indicator.

Clear indicators:

Doesn't focus on you

Doesn't ask what you're into (also if you prefer fingering or eaten out)

Doesn't compliment you (you feel so good, you taste so good etc)

Doesn't eat you out/bad at fingering you

Isn't receptive to feedback/guidance (i.e. right here, right there)

Rolls over after nutting without paying attention to you

Other women do not vouch for him in bed (girls love to brag or talk to their friends if you are good)

Low partners that were short term.

TreeHouseCartoons · 2024-09-02T17:23:31+00:00

You can’t. That’s why you need a test run.

HyperionGreySolomon · 2024-09-02T16:24:33+00:00

He won't talk himself up, as most of the time, that's overcompensation. Rather than boast, he will instead ask you what you like.

Look for a listener, not a talker.

ARRokken · 2024-09-02T20:35:38+00:00

Nah hesitancy doesn’t mean it. Could just be a thing external and not anything wrong downstairs either

finishthestart · 2024-09-02T18:04:14+00:00

If he brags about how he is in bed, he probably sucks. Shy, submissive boys are always better.

Fun_Angle_4929 · 2024-09-03T00:55:27+00:00

I don’t know what level you are but here is what I can think - how to caress a woman’s body- the pace, the dexterity. Not sensual- How to sensually kiss her mouth/lips and her body, how you use/ move your tongue. Not expressing yourself (what Feels good? What looks beautiful? ) Roughness, rush, uncertainty. What some porn, but real sex ones and learn.

HyperionGreySolomon · 2024-09-02T16:23:23+00:00

He will not boast, I don't anyways. It's usually the men who talk themselves up, that are overcompensating.

Warm_Paint2010 · 2024-09-02T23:55:25+00:00

Let me tell you... we ALL have something that makes us lose our confidence when we think about that thing or talk about it...

It can be yellow teeth, ugly toes, body hair (or lack of body hair), body fat, muscles,...

If you train your abs everyday and she makes a comment about them you don't like... your confidence in bed= gone

Ppdebatesomental · 2024-09-03T01:25:15+00:00

And what are some things a guy can do to show that he does know what he’s doing?

There are two things that a guy who is both good in bed and has been with lots of women knows

that no two women enjoy exactly the same thing.
What they like probably won’t look like how it’s done in porn.

So the first step is to acknowledge no matter what you think someone should like, or what you have had other women like, you are starting from scratch with a new partner.

Get to know the true, physical signs of arousal, not some caterwauling or screaming like an pornstar, but actual physical changes. And whatever she responds to…do more of that. And for the love of God, once she starts to really respond, don’t suddenly change it up.

CoconutHoney · 2024-09-03T01:52:52+00:00

If there is no foreplay

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-09-02T22:54:40+00:00

Dude asking woman for help on seduction Reddit dedicated to help men ?? Jesus Bruv you could do this in real life your cooked

ArmorAbsMrKrabs · 2024-09-02T18:36:46+00:00

Not knowing where the hole is, or where the clit is

When I lost my virginity I kept thinking to myself, she knows I have no idea what I’m doing

itbittitcommit · 2024-09-03T00:25:04+00:00

I can answer this one. I get the nervous shakes.

pnceng · 2024-09-03T00:26:26+00:00

His pistol goes off while still in the holster.

Minimum-Web-4508 · 2024-09-03T01:06:52+00:00

As a woman I would inexperience isn’t necessarily a turn off or an issue but it’s when a guy isn’t listening/reading the cues you’re giving him or showing interests in your preferences. My first partner had had a lot of partners whereas I was a virgin so at the time I didn’t realise he wasn’t great in bed at all but in hindsight I can see he was terrible in comparison to my other partners. Experience isn’t what makes someone good. Having the confidence to take charge, try things and communicate well makes all the difference

OkProfessional9405 · 2024-09-02T22:42:30+00:00

He asks you to dress as a pizza delivery girl or for you to get stuck under the couch.

Skinithooligan · 2024-09-02T18:46:32+00:00

No lube.

Ruin369 · 2024-09-02T17:33:15+00:00

He doesn't do anything to pleasure her. You should make her orgasm at least once before y ou even stick it in.

Obviously, all women are different down there, but the idea stands. Put her first. New guys get so excited they totally forget this step and rush to PIV

dahraziel · 2024-09-02T18:58:30+00:00

Finger blasting

epimpstyle · 2024-09-02T18:40:29+00:00

Why do you think it is better to show her that you are experienced?

You will just put pressure on the girl, which is not okay.

Title	Ladies, when hooking up with a guy, what’re some tells/signs that he’s inexperienced?
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Date	September 2, 2024 3:14 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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