Losing weight before dating again

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-02-27T14:59:32+00:00

Daygame wise, after you drop below 20% bf, it has marginal benefits. Just dont look fat (with clothes on) and you will be ok.

That also means appropriate clothing for your body type, have a saying to how you look. With the wrong top you can look fat even if you are lean

Doki_Doki_Doki · 2026-02-27T17:11:23+00:00

dropping some pounds isn't just about looks, it's about energy and confidence. fit vibes attract fit tribes. women notice effort and lifestyle changes. stay consistent, and the right ones will take notice. keep at it.

HumanContract · 2026-02-27T22:25:53+00:00

Don't represent yourself like someone you're not. If you're getting in shape just to date then you need to keep it up after. Otherwise, look how you plan to be in the future.

JackSquirts · 2026-02-27T17:39:53+00:00

The fatter you are, the harder it's going to be. Also, unless you're jacked as hell, you're probably not going to be 12-15% at ~210lbs.

Waiting to talk to women or try to date until you lose weight is the opposite of what I'd tell anyone. It's like saying you're going to wait until you lose a bunch of weight to start working out - workouts would probably be a lot easier, but you left months of gains on the table waiting. Start on hard mode, get good at it, and then get into normal/easy mode with all those skills you gained. You do have to keep your head in the game, recognizing that dealing with the mental toll of rejection is the whole thing so don't burn yourself out by beating yourself up.

SgtStryker34 · 2026-02-28T00:32:00+00:00

Ok, I'm 6'3" went from 237 to 187, now I'm at 195. Dating when I was at 237 was kinda rough, only chunky and ugly girls wanted me. At 195, I match with cute girls all the time and go on dates frequently. Its a night and day difference.

Total_Obligation_371 · 2026-02-27T15:19:16+00:00

This is just how I personally do things, but I don't even accept clients who are overweight. The conversion rates for overweight guys are so much lower that it's almost not worth it to even start until after they lose the weight.

What's likely to happen is the guy gets a disproportionate amount of no numbers or numbers that don't respond and then he gets demotivated and has a bad first impression of approaching in general. I like to start guys off on a good foot so that all of their first reference experiences are positive.

You can start approaching before you actually lose the weight, but just remember that you're going to have drastically lower responses and dates. If you're doing it just to build your conversational ability and the overall habit of approaching, then you're totally fine. If you're expecting to actually get a decent amount of dates and get laid before losing the weight, you're going to be disappointed.

Only start approaching now if you have a strong sense of self and are already pretty confident. If you're in a more vulnerable place emotionally or have a little bit lower self worth than normal because of being overweight, you're more likely to lose confidence than gain confidence, which has a high chance of making you think "dang what's the point of losing weight if this is going to happen". If you're solid and you can tell yourself "hey these results don't matter, they will get better when I lose weight" then you can approach no problem.

Pedro_Moona · 2026-02-27T21:06:35+00:00

Good Energy-Casey Means and it will melt off you.

FeistyRip9623 · 2026-03-01T03:17:32+00:00

running makes me feel better than anything else & crushes excess calories

Terrible_Assist_1345 · 2026-03-02T13:05:59+00:00

women don't care about looks. It helps with confidence and other things mentally for yourself.

au_fait_bromate · 2026-02-27T15:06:19+00:00

I’d recommend practicing game right now, but lose weight alongside that. I personally notice better results when I’m very lean.

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-27T16:16:56+00:00

I cant speak for all woman, but i imagine fitness women dont mind a guy who already is working on himself. Im not saying they wont look at your fat and think "umm no". They may need to see results.

but i feel like if you start talking to some soon and then start getting some results they may appreciate the results.

I've heard of times where guys start losing weight and women kind of are into the progress of it, because they saw you in the beginning of the journey and then saw the progress.

Now to answer the question, last time i lost weight i went from 220 to 185. I gained more confidence but my confidence was still low and i dont htink i saw much difference.

This was back in 2020, so mayb ethat affected it too. I gained all the weight bakc and then some and am on a current weight loss journey. so i do wonder how it will look if get lean again with some muscle.

Warm_Pineapple9440 · 2026-02-27T16:41:49+00:00

I mean what is even the point of this question. If you want to lose weight lose it. If you want to date while losing weight, you can do that too. You can attract hot woman even when out of shape.

vertascend · 2026-02-27T20:41:54+00:00

Firstly buddy, if you’re going to lose weight, you must want to do it for yourself…know that it’s a life’s choice…a marathon and not a sprint

Secondly, it’s not the main factor in getting girls, it is a factor however…your main point of improvement should be posture and confidence … abs later

You are correct in that you may be able to attract a wider demographic of women by being in shape…

I was skinny… zero girls, started working out still zero girls …. Learning female nature is what has helped me get girls, and how to talk and carry myself

I hope it all works out

Junior-Effective9179 · 2026-02-27T14:56:34+00:00

I have the same question. But I also feel like you shouldn't stop while trying to rebuild yourself because you might lose on experience points.

But still keep the possibility of more failures

Realwoujo · 2026-02-28T15:29:23+00:00

Getting in shape is good, but don't let "being fat" be an excuse to not go approach. In fact, you should never be thinking about yourself at all when approaching women.

Title	Losing weight before dating again
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Date	February 27, 2026 2:50 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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