My Text Game

Submaker · 2024-10-01T18:14:58+00:00

I liked the first portion of your conversation. You got her curious, asked a decent, light-hearted question, and then killed the conversation by changing the subject and asking another unrelated question.

Asking a woman what they're looking for in an app is pretty boring. It's like complimenting tattoos or dyed hair, they get it all the time.

If your intention is to go on a date, then continue that train of thought about wilderness escape planning.

When she said, "Her: oh god so badly" -- she's asking for help in a playful play and you caught onto that with your reply.

What your reply should have been is "Sounds like you could use some help. I'll bring over my rope, first aid kit, and a bottle of alcohol (as a disinfectant of course), and we can learn some new skills"

Maybe this reply is too edgy with the rope. But if this peaks her curiosity then she'll be engaged with the questionable rope comment, the alcohol, and you're eluding to seeing her soon.

A safer reply could be, "Sounds like you need some help. I'll meet you Saturday night at [cocktail bar], where I can teach you how to make a fire and find food in the wild city of [your city/town]

Bonus points if the cocktail bar has a fire pit.

My advice would be to never ask two questions in a row. There was a great post a few months ago that showed the ideal cadence of a conversation. The core of it was to NOT ask questions but rather make assumptions that get them talking.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-10-01T21:31:02+00:00

Imagine you are in line at Starbucks talking to a girl. She is responding and she might be interested. But here is a catch - as soon as she gets coffee she is out of there. What would you do?

A) would you quickly ask her out?

Or

B) would you meander?

That starbucks line is onlne dating. Text conversion game is stupid. The more you talk, the more clever you attempt to be the less her interest is going to be because every single chucklehead (see the dumb advice from "experts" proudly displaying cave trolls they landed after months of texting) scratching his balls with one hand and typing with another is thinking he is going to outmaneuver her defenses and eventually get into her pants. Thats because you ruin their fantasy. Their fantasy is having their back blown by an actually attractive guy (which if you get thag many likes/matches you are) if they cant boyfriend him. And there you are, behaving like a dork who never gets laid. And by god she knows how dorks who never get laid behave -- they are all over her inbox

DaygameCode · 2024-10-01T19:49:16+00:00

I’m a coach, I can tell you that you are forgetting the part where you need to build some type of connection. Because here it’s like you are in a movie, and are trying to skip forward to reach the climax as soon as possible.

You are stranger, why would a girl want to go out with a guy she doesn’t know at all just because she match with him? She matches with more guys, so it’s obvious she is filtering guys out.

Those who rush things before they are properly cooked, don’t pass the filter. And those who overcook it also don’t pass the filter because they took too long and the food burnt.

I thought I was doing things right: opening, vibing, foreshadowing a possible date, being upfront about intentions, etc.

You did not actually vibed with her here.

Trying to vibe with a girl on Tinder means establishing a natural and engaging connection by creating a comfortable and enjoyable conversation.

It’s about finding common ground, sharing a sense of humor, and making her feel relaxed and interested in getting to know you better.

Instead of focusing solely on impressing her or pushing for a date too quickly, the idea is to cultivate a back-and-forth exchange that feels genuine and easygoing. This can involve playful teasing, finding shared interests, or discussing topics that let both of you reveal your personalities in a fun, spontaneous way.

The goal is to create chemistry and build rapport that makes both of you want to continue talking and take things further.

So you cannot talk about logistics or foreshadowing a date when you haven’t actually vibed with her in any way. Here is different to start giving more:

Certainly! Let’s reframe each part of the conversation using different playful approaches:

• 1. Tease Her You: ”Hey, lovin’ the floral dress. Trying to distract everyone in the wilderness, huh?”
Her: ”What do you mean?”
You: ”I mean, the bears don’t stand a chance. One look at you, and they’ll forget they’re even bears.”

• 2. Mess with Her You: ”Hey, lovin’ the floral dress. But I gotta know something serious.”
Her: ”What’s that?”
You: ”How does it feel to secretly be a wilderness escape expert who keeps getting lost on purpose just to seem relatable?”
Her: ”Oh god, I wish. I’m actually terrible at it.”
You: ”Ah, the ol’ undercover terrible wilderness expert routine. Classic. Keeping us all guessing.”

• 3. Provoke Her You: ”Hey, that floral dress... is it camouflage for running away from all your responsibilities?”
Her: ”Oh, I wish I could run away!”
You: ”Uh huh, sounds like talk from someone who would trip over their own laces at the first sign of escape.”

• 4. Playfully Accuse Her of Things You: ”Hey, loving the floral dress. But I’ve got my suspicions about you.”
Her: ”What suspicions?”
You: ”I think you’re one of those ‘let’s plan a wilderness escape’ types that always ends up at a fancy cabin sipping hot cocoa instead.”
Her: ”Oh god, maybe...”
You: ”Knew it. Your idea of ‘roughing it’ is probably WiFi that’s a little too slow.”

• 5. The Narrator You: ”Hey, lovin’ the floral dress. Let me guess, our heroine finds herself ready to face the wilderness—“
Her: ”Ha! Not quite.”
You: ”Ah, of course, the plot twist! Turns out she’s more of a ‘pretend to plan, then nap instead’ kind of adventurer.”

• 6. Agree and Amplify You: ”Hey, lovin’ the floral dress. But tell me, how’s that escape plan from civilization going?”
Her: ”Oh god, so badly.”
You: ”Oh, I totally get it. You’re probably making all sorts of sophisticated plans... like escaping to the corner store and hiding behind the snack aisle. A master of stealth and strategy, really.”

• 7. Push and Pull You: ”Hey, I’m diggin’ the floral dress. You look like you’d be a pro at escaping into the wilderness.”
Her: ”I wish! I’m terrible at it.”
You: ”Hmm, I had a feeling. Guess you’d need me to save you... but don’t worry, I’d make sure we get lost just enough to keep things interesting.”

• 8. Role Play You: ”Hey, love the floral dress. You know, it gives me an idea... imagine we’re lost in the wilderness. You’re obviously the one who panics and thinks a squirrel is a deadly predator, right?”
Her: ”What? No way!”
You: ”Oh, absolutely. I’d be the one heroically scaring it away while you scream from the top of a rock. You’d owe me a coffee after that heroic moment, obviously.”

You don’t need to copy this specific examples as they can probably be improved. Focus more on what the technique is trying to do to make your own lines.

These examples bring a more fun, teasing, and dynamic energy to the conversation. The key is to playfully challenge her while keeping the mood light and enjoyable, which helps build tension and attraction.

If you need any help with seducing women, cold approaching them, just let me know here, so you can get more custom advice or tips for free.

cemj86 · 2024-10-01T22:27:37+00:00

Asking her what she's looking for lol. Instead of leading the situation, telling her what you want and making a plan to meet

vladiVP · 2024-10-01T20:13:11+00:00

Cuz u follow a f-in script

NChSh · 2024-10-01T19:58:33+00:00

Her: it’s just that I don’t have time. I work all week and do sports on the weekends.

Nothing else happened. She blatantly ignored my question, which signaled to me that she was not on the same page, so I unmatched.

Wait she wrote that and you didn't send another message, you just unmatched? If that is the case then I mean it's kinda on you

Wandering_Sage · 2024-10-02T03:32:49+00:00

You're trying too hard. Starting off with a compliment, "loving," "need to know," all sets a weak frame right off the bat. You're putting the girl on a pedestal from the get go and hoping that you get any response, can hopefully lead to a date, etc. Then, to make things worse you're probing for what she's looking for. It's way too early for that and, if and when that ever comes up, let her be the one to bring it up. Don't be in a rush to give away your freedom, certainly not for some rando you met an app.

Also if you're "a very good looking dude" I highly recommend getting off apps and getting good at meeting women in real life. Be relaxed and don't care so much about the outcome. Cultivate a strong masculine frame and it'll all feel more natural.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-10-02T05:31:10+00:00

There's a guy that posts here called u/FireTexts. His info is pretty good for this.

Dandys3107 · 2024-10-01T18:47:54+00:00

I think you may be coming too strong, investing instantly in her and pushing her to follow you. Instead at the beginning you can just try to get to know each other, have fun, be laidback, simple and relatable and then you can gradually increase tension and get direct. She needs that moment to take a closer look at you and check if you are a good match together. Treat it more like a fun game, from your texting it feels that you are pressured and you try too much.

ratfooshi · 2024-10-01T20:34:54+00:00

Don't let this one define your failure.

She may have been going through something.

Grain of salt.

cadguy62 · 2024-10-01T21:36:35+00:00

I think you started good. Just have to remember, they are probably going down the list of guys and giving a quick response. Some make it easy to respond, others just give the one word answer. I'm not the best at the online stuff but if you don't worry about asking about them but keep them wanting to respond to nonsense, you can usually stick out from other guys. Closing the deal though, I got some learning to do haha

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Jironasaurus · 2024-10-02T17:44:25+00:00

You did a few things right, and could have kept this going. I felt that you gave up a bit too early.

Personally, I wouldn't react negatively if she ignored my initial question. Her lack of response to your question just means "try again later". This is where I feel mindset is very important. While it can be true, I've never placed emphasis on women seeking attention on dating apps. If you let that get into your head, you're only gonna react negatively towards them.

So here's what I think you did right. I felt that with your opener, using "one thing I need to know though" always feels like it builds up anticipation with the other person. So when you come back with "how's the wilderness escape planning going?", it feels like a bit of a let-down. And that's because I reckon a lot of other people are going to ask the same question. If you're gonna get that anticipation going, better make sure the question is a better one then.

Otherwise, I believe you could have gotten something out of this if you had continued, instead of giving up so easily.

Here's one example of my Tinder conversation and how I tend to run my text game...

Me: Maybe you're not fickle minded, but just overly adventurous ;-)

(Her bio was a one-liner saying "Fickle minded me wanna do everything, ended up with doing nothing.)

Her: Hahaha smart
Her: Too many passions

Me: Can't help it that we're passionate people!
Me: Maybe the key is to have someone join you in an adventure...

Her: Hence I am here. Haha
Her: We shall see

Me: Sounds pretty cautious of you
Me: I like to dive into the deep end, and see what happens from there. Always more fun that way!

Her: Too many conman here in Tinder

Me: I don't feel like you're a con artist at all!

Her: Haha I am so not! I meant others...

Me: I don't mind if you're corny though...
Me: That can be part of our fun side.

Her: Lol not that corny
Her: How should I address you? Jiron?

Me: Jiron.
Me: How much fun can you bring to the table, <name>?
Me: I'm looking for someone who can make my adventures more memorable.

Her: What kind of fun are you talking about?

Me: Whatever you can conjure up. I'm always open to possibilities and suggestions.

Her: Hmmm I am not that crazy fun kind of person I would say. Just adaptable kind.

Me: Let's adapt to each other then.

Her: Sounds like a plan to me.

Me: Wanna do this on whatsapp and see where it goes?

Her: Sure. <Number>

The "format" is somewhat similar to yours. Open well, build togetherness, vibe well, foreshadow a possible date, and lead, lead and lead. Along the way, I also use the conversation to showcase my personality. As simple as that. Hope that helps.

jarrai8000 · 2024-10-03T14:43:31+00:00

My two cents: I think that minimalism in texting is the way to go.

I usually have one or two openings, one or two follow-ups (based on how they answered)

Then move towards setting up the date.

An example:

(In seeing her with a dog) Me - Aww 🥰 Her - Says some shit about her dog or whatever Me - I love dogs or some shit Her - asks me a question or something Me - Would love to tell you that story and more over coffee. Heres my number. Boom. Done.

Sometimes, I'll ask exploratory questions to weed out those who are not for me. Sometimes, I'll let them ask questions, to which I'll answer, but that seems less effective.

Ultimately, I think less is more, and context is king. I used to do a ton of copy paste bullshit, but honestly, if you know what you like, what you're into, you just have to move towards women who fit the bill. And if you're not sure they fit the bill, ask those qualifying questions.

Even now, I'm trying to refine my approach, because while I'm able to get numbers and go on dates, lately, I've found myself on dates with women that really weren't for me. Just gotta ask more questions I guess.

CratesAndToast · 2024-10-01T18:16:55+00:00

Your conversation skills look fine, she might've just not been feeling it. If she was, she'd have reciprocated some interest to your comment about having been in the wilderness, which could've led to a conversation about where you've been, how the experience was, etc. It seems like she knew where you were going but didn't care enough to bounce off it and just ignored it. Don't seem like you're the problem OP, online dating just do be like that sometimes

Title	My Text Game
Author	appolonysian
Upvotes	19
Comments	32
Date	October 1, 2024 5:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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