This is a followup to my introductory newbie guide.

Introduction

This instruction is the culmination of over 4 years of experience and training in the “seduction community”, my experiences before & after learning Game, and military training for leadership & public speaking.

Logistics & Investment

Logistics are the single most important aspect of finding success. It means having proximity to women you desire. Placing yourself in situations where you are around the women you want to be with, and in environments where escalation is possible, is what it’s all about. Just putting yourself into these situations, regardless of your skill with women, will improve one’s odds of being successful. Logistics can also make or break an interaction, and is one of the few things we have total control over in many respects. All it takes is a little foresight and preparation. However, there are situations where bad logistics can also break a perfect situation no matter what you do. This is why preparation is key, so to avoid problems in the first place as much as possible. Good logistics can also benefit you in a variety of ways, which is discussed in class. Investment is the second half of this equation in that the more you’re around someone, the more invested in each other the two of you become, assuming you are putting in equal effort in the interaction. The key here is that the person who is least invested holds all the cards. If you can get a woman talking and sit back and let her talk, yourself being minimally involved, she’ll be more invested than you are. This is great for men and it’s very empowering. Ideally though, investment levels should be about even. If you over invest though you risk coming across as needy or clingy, so for the purpose of training you should look to keep your investment level lower than those you are interacting with.

Comfort & Rapport

Comfort is key when approaching. If the person isn’t comfortable with your presence then you’re fighting an uphill battle. The goal when you first approach should be to make them as comfortable as possible. If you are nervous, they’re going to respond in kind. Rapport is comfort plus a level of familiarity. You need to build this before you can break rapport (not sever it) as breaking rapport is also known as something else….flirting. Metagame & Propinquity

Metagame is the overall framework of the social interaction at large. It’s the birds-eye-view, top level knowledge of the playing field, so to speak. Approaching the hottest girls in the club from across the bar, passing by other people you could have talked to, but then going indirect with those hotties simply betrays your intentions and makes you look wussy.

Propinquity is what gives us our perceived value to others. In the context of this course it can be best thought of as a mixture of preselection and social proof. Another factor in all of this is the mere exposure effect, which is why having good logistics (in the sense of being around the women you desire) is so much better than merely cold approaching all the time.

Verbal & Non-verbal communications

Verbal communication means your inflection, tone, cadence, and so on. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Being comfortable talking to strangers and “holding court” takes time and practice. I strongly suggest joining Toastmasters as this is what they’re all about.
Non-verbal communications are largely comprised of eye contact, touch, body language and positioning such as mirroring and matching head height. Non-verbal communications are far more impactful in social interactions as they convey our true interests and comfort level, as well as playing a part in building comfort & intimacy.

One of the biggest problems I’ve seen is that people have an aversion to making good eye contact, which is a shame because this is a critical key to attraction and escalation. If you have problems with this, again, check out Toastmasters. An easy way to practice on your own though is to force yourself to make eye contact when walking past people. Look at someone you’re passing as you walk in opposite directions at about 10-15’ away. Look at their eyes and try to note their eye color. Say hi or give them a head-nod and keep moving. After a while you’ll develop a feel for how much eye contact is too much or not enough, eventually getting it just right. Experience is the key. As a rule of thumb, until you find out what’s right for you, try to maintain eye contact for about 2-3 heartbeats.

When approaching, touch is also critical. Escalation starts from the moment you meet. When you approach, a touch on the woman’s arm before you speek, is an amazing tool for getting someone’s attention. 3 fingers on her forearm for just a moment to get her attention is all that’s needed. Another option is the back of the hand. I’ll go more into physical escalation later, but for approaching this is all that’s necessary.