Officially done with dating apps

charlizard1000xy · 2026-08-05T03:29:22+00:00

>worked so hard getting lean and muscular, fixed my style, skin care and hair

That's actually very commendable, more than any right swipes or dates. It was just a girl looking for a free meal, there are better experiences out there.

random_question4123 · 2026-08-05T03:26:24+00:00

Congratulations, you learnt the difference between looksmaxxing and game. Looksmaxxing only helps marginally widen the pool of women that are willing to give you the time of day.

And tbf she's likely just testing your boundaries because to be treated like a princess is what she believes she deserves (majority of women feel this way). She doesn't need it. She just wants it. Game is where you can lower her expectations of what to expect from you monetary-wise, while still increasing your perceived value to her. Of course, easier said than done.

Discopotatoz · 2026-08-05T03:23:14+00:00

Having success doesn't necessarily mean it gets easier. There's a reason even the most attractive people still have difficulty with OLD. My only advice on this is don't go for the hottest girl you can match with. Go for the ones that meet your attractiveness threshold and give you the least amount of friction.

FurrowBeard · 2026-08-05T03:38:17+00:00

Don't let one shitty girl be the verdict on dating apps for you. If you are now pretty good looking, you can pull from it with a little patience.

Remarkable_Outside67 · 2026-08-05T10:49:11+00:00

"But on her Instagram she's wearing revealing dresses, partying, drinking, etc."

Seriously, bro... you saw all of that and still expected her to be the kind of girl who just wanted to sit down and have a quiet coffee with you? Don't be so naive.

That said, dating apps are just one way to meet people.

Tomorrow you could meet a girl in a park, through a hobby, or by approaching her in person, and she could still have the exact same toxic behaviors people complain about today.

Apps, cold approaches, social circles—it doesn't really matter. None of them filter out bad people. They're just different ways of meeting them.

Traditional_Chino · 2026-08-05T17:33:16+00:00

Also, coffee dates sound, uninspiring and low effort. In my experience, it's best to have a few vetted nice looking bars with really good happy hours (that don't serve food), unique malt /ice cream parlors (with reasonable prices) or if you still want to a coffee spot, make sure it's a cute non-chain high end place that has a cool history or something different about that makes it stand out from a generic Starbucks. That way you can control the costs, yet makes it seem more thoughtful. Avoid restaurants.

You want to stand out and be different from all the other dudes (without straining your wallet). Going out for have sundaes sounds better and more romantic than getting coffee. It helps. Trust me.

mabden · 2026-08-05T12:51:46+00:00

Yep, wining and dinning is for after you fucked her. If the girl isn't interested enough to get coffee with you, then she isn't interested.

kintsugiwarrior · 2026-08-05T14:30:33+00:00

It’s good you didn’t simp out

iloveyoumiri · 2026-08-05T04:37:06+00:00

Dog you really can’t get mad at her for wanting that, there’s no question there’s anger dripping off what you’re saying lowkey. If you work sales, the quick nos are way better than the slow ones. She absolutely is testing your boundaries but let’s be real us men test theirs too now. To figure out how it’s going down! I’ve had women get mad at me for not wanting to argue with them, they’ll say it’s less attractive with their chest, but I just hate that picking fights stuff.

No isn’t a bad thing, it shouldn’t affect you like it’s affecting you, when you tell her no you’re probably helping all the other men honestly. Women have solidarity with eachother but men get so competitive with eachother they find themselves throwing money and stuff at other women that they lose their sense of self worth in a way most women don’t.

ForwardWrongdoer1819 · 2026-08-05T04:23:29+00:00

Dating is a numbers game, dating apps are even more of a number game I would recommend you keep going just for the sake of learning and understanding social dynamics (anything else is a bonus) just make sure to keep within your budget, we don't need expensive dates to be normalized.

Kylearean · 2026-08-05T14:34:21+00:00

I lowkey admire those girls that hustle free meals. I had one admit to me that she can eat free every night of the week.

brnbbd · 2026-08-05T03:48:40+00:00

Get a basset hound and just take him around town. It’s a cheat code

OGClouds420 · 2026-08-05T14:02:48+00:00

This is wild. If I talk to a girl I usually end up going on a date w her if I really want to. I’d bet you aren’t escalating fast enough unfortunately. Just get to know the basics on the app, a date laid out potentially, get the number and get out.

autodidacticasaurus · 2026-08-05T14:34:33+00:00

So what you're saying is you have no texting game whatsoever. Why did you think looksmaxxing would fix everything? This is such a bizarre trend. How did a whole generation unlearn everything we knew about women. If they wanted a pretty blow-up doll to put in the corner, they'd go buy one. Get a personality.

Aurora--Black · 2026-08-05T15:18:49+00:00

I'm not really sure why you're blaming the dating apps.

She was breaking a boundary you should have never gone on the date with her.

WhatsTheAnswerDude · 2026-08-05T16:10:44+00:00

Please don't take this in the wrong but you ONLY fixed the superficial items and then thought apps would help.

You didn't work on your personality or communication or like comedic ability. Nor did you increase your surface luck of activities and being out and about in the real world.

You kinda pursued this also in the opposite way of what you should have done and the results are basically showing it.

NOT trying to be a jerk here either but only fixing the physical and none of your social life or the internal, ain't gonna net you all that much man.

IamWisdom · 2026-08-05T18:13:06+00:00

Wait what?! I get yons of dates from dating apps. You weren't getting any??

stick_it_in_your_bum · 2026-08-05T22:48:36+00:00

Side note: I made an exception with her by offering a Ramen date.

Bro folded like a lawn chair smh

Adept_Librarian_7001 · 2026-08-06T01:02:23+00:00

You're in "r seduction" for a reason. Dating apps are waste of time for most guys, and a woman using a dating app is now a red flag. absolutely not GF material. Your replacement is a drunk swipe or fine dining offer away.

Dating apps can be fine for pipelining somewhere you're traveling to or as a backup source where you're from (mainly for casual stuff), but if you aren't socializing, day gaming, and hitting up your friend circles, you're gonna be limited to the quasi-sugar babbies and underwhelming and ran through options you get on the apps.

Solution: stay hitting the gym and uninstall that shit

onelunchman96 · 2026-08-06T03:45:23+00:00

What exercises did you do to get lean/muscular? I've been going to the gym trying to lose weight. Focusing more on cardio than lifting weights

Responsible-Storm-93 · 2026-08-06T05:14:12+00:00

Mate...just immagine that if a Brad Pitt type like you can't pull anything, what chance do us ugly ass MF's have ??

Matter_Still · 2026-08-05T06:15:02+00:00

So, her less-than-stylish presentation, which in hindsight you find cheap, was alluring enough to ask her out, but for something else than Raman she needed to look more classy?

Omniscientbystander · 2026-08-05T11:25:07+00:00

Try getting into a hobby group where you can make friends and meet girls, cold approaching 5-10 girls a week is a good place to start too

ExaminationNo4391 · 2026-08-05T13:11:24+00:00

Relationships are a scam anyway, go hit the club and get some fast, meaningless fun

Title	Officially done with dating apps
Author	No-Forever-7283
Upvotes	68
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Date	August 5, 2026 3:14 AM UTC (1 day ago)
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