One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 29 Progress Report

ForeverKarlMalone · 2020-06-26T15:03:56+00:00

What are you wearing in these approaches? You're still getting rejected way too much in the opening. Most girls aren't even willing to have a conversation with you so that's the sticking point that needs to be addressed first.

It would also be great if you could record yourself and PM me what you actually sound like in the approaches. Something is really wrong if you can't get the majority of girls to at least have a conversation with you.

youandyourscoaching · 2020-06-26T15:22:09+00:00

I admire your confidence in making these approaches! The first step is taking the first step. You don't know how the interaction will go until you give it a shot, and you wont learn how to improve unless you put yourself out there and practice. Major kudos to you, man!

I'd like to offer some support from a female perspective/as a Relationship Coach to help "up" your game a bit-

Don't make assumptions about people, unless you come up with something more broad, because when you're wrong, it is a major turn off. (Example- telling a woman she "looks like a student." What does a "student" look like? You can't possibly know something like that based on appearance.) Instead, if you notice, for instance, that she's reading a book, you could say "hello, I'm sorry to interrupt you, but what book is that you're reading? I had noticed the cover and it looked interesting/looks like something I read a while back..."
On the note of appearance- don't bring it up if you can avoid it. Keep in mind that anyone being approached by a stranger at random is going to have their guard up, and if you make a point to express that you've been observing a person by immediately sharing what you notice visually it may cause discomfort for them/may come across as shallow.
Try to work with what is available to you in the environment you're working with. (Example- At a coffee shop? Ask "excuse me, what coffee is that you're drinking? That looks/smells great! I've been wanting to try something new here" and then let the dialogue flow from there.) Think about the location you're in and the reasons as to why the person you're approaching might be at that location. Use this to your advantage to create a conversation regarding similar interest.
Be yourself! Establish what YOUR interests/hobbies are so that you can share a bit about yourself within your interactions. The goal of these conversations is to find similar interests and build a connection with someone, whether it be for a relationship or a hook up. If you want someone to feel comfortable giving you their phone number after meeting you out on the street, they need to be able to get a feel for "who" you are and what you represent.

These are just a few of the many tips/tricks I can provide, but if you have any questions or would like more info, feel free to reach out!

I know you mentioned in your post today wasn't your best day, but keep at it and you'll continue to gain confidence and momentum. You've got this!

training4wizardry · 2020-06-26T17:29:14+00:00

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throwawaygang21 · 2020-06-26T18:20:28+00:00

Good shit with the approaches man, but I personally wouldn't recommend the "are you into fashion?" line unless you really notice something about her fashion brand or something that actually makes you feel that way because you're making a really specific assumption about the girl that will most likely backfire resulting in a no from her and you're giving your power away by validating her and approaching her like a fan to a celebrity.

If she thinks that she looks meh or even bad and you walk up to her gassing her up and asking if she's into fashion then she's subconsciously going to lose attraction because you're coming from the frame that she is special and better than you and she would be doing you a favor by talking to you.

I prefer the frame of going up to her and communicating man to woman that you are physically attracted to her, but she hasn't won you over yet and the reason you're talking to her is because you want to find out more. She has to feel that she could potentially mess up and lose you. I do this by asking questions that make her qualify herself, I don't do it just to do it. I genuinely want to see if we're compatible, so it's a win-win. I'm into live music, nerdy stuff, and I like to party, so I might ask her about that because I could actually talk about it for hours. If she's into it too then we will click and if she isn't then she may qualify herself to me or show interest in me talking to her about it. Worst case scenario we don't click and it's on to the next. That's my take on it tho.

gomen01 · 2020-06-26T20:25:09+00:00

I love the ignorance of people that say that tinder isn’t reality but this guy proves it all alone by posting these daliy reports.

somedude9797 · 2020-06-26T15:59:53+00:00

Hey brother,

great, keep doing it. But I wonder - do you just approach them in your way or do you follow some plan by some popular pick up artists? (ToddV, dan bacon)

Cause if not, it would be a good idea to try out different things

training4wizardry · 2020-06-26T20:02:44+00:00

You have a lot of intense responses today so you might not get to what I am about to say, because it's not the usual by any means.

When I have several blow outs in a row, I noticed that I have to recover and maintain a certain composure, because the next girl you see might be The One (or A One) and you can't bring all that recent blow-out-overhang with you. You have to start fresh! once again and bring the Positive Vibe in with each new said girl.

So when you are like "no! no! something is wrong I'm not doing another one!" this is when you have to maintain solid composure with your body and inside your own head. THEN force yourself and do at minimum a passive approach ON ANYONE (female preferably). So chasing a girl down (unless you want) is not necessary here, just whoever is around.

You will find you are likely more real and authentic when you go the one-more-extra-approach just because you so-don't-want-to-do it. Like I said, make it a passive approach if you want. Like a rando girl right next to you.

This is part of the paradigm of any-time any-where game. I learned day game and night game at the same time, so I "saw" a lot more things that work because I saw the common elements in different settings. I also approached all kind of different girls, not just the ones I had a strong reaction to, so in that way I saw many commonalities that work in different situations and girl types. Keep this in mind, and KEEP GOING!!

7Saturn7Saturn7 · 2020-06-27T02:16:03+00:00

Assumption openers are good but they should be like a horoscope, always interpretable as right. Also you should put some micro openers in front of your real opener so that her brain can start tracking on the conversation with you before you put in any real content. Micro openers are like, "hey can i get to know you quickly?" The point is you set up a very basic frame which would be acceptable for strangers in public like meeting or getting to know or chatting, and you set up a basic time gate, "real quick" or "for a second" which is important to avoid those "I've got to go" objections. You should say the micro opener somewhat quickly. Most of the time she'll say "huh?" or "what?" then you repeat the micro opener along with your real opener. This strategy is good for situations that are high energy or distracting or which it seems like your approaches tend towards. Basically if she's trying to change attention and read your intentions and respond to your opener at the same time then something has got to give and it's gonna be her response. The micro opener tells her your innocuous intentions, tells her she need not change her attention completely, and demands only a binary response which is fine if it gets dropped. Of course it's also virtually no content so don't sit around waiting for her response, just say it and move on to a real opener which should have richer logical and emotional content, which you are already doing.

Title	One Year Cold Approach Challenge - Day 29 Progress Report
Author	Hanan019
Upvotes	23
Comments	31
Date	June 26, 2020 2:27 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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