Former Mr. Nice guy here.

You are a nice guy if:

  • you have being friendzoned by someone you care deeply about whose boyfriend treat her badly and comes and cry on your shoulder saying stuff like Why can't I find a nice guy like you?

OR

  • you were in a relationship (gf/wife/LTR) and you treated her very nicely, and she cheated on you with a jerk, or left you for a jerk, or both (doesn't matter if she came back to you. Extra points if she did, you took her back and she did it again).

A couple of things that make no sense whatsoever to you, but that if you ave the guts to go out there and try them, will work.

1) Goal: to have a woman who has demonstrated IOI to search for you. If you just met her, or you are meeting her for a meet or a date always be the one to interrupt the meet/date because you have something already scheduled. So if you just met her and you're talking to her, and she's into you, at the peak of the conversation, when she's engaged with you, look at the watch and say: Wow, look at the time, I have to go _______ give a reason, ANY reason, make it either interesting, important, cool or social, like: I have to go work out, meet friends, I have a party to go to, go to sleep early because tomorrow I am flying to Fiji for a convention.....

1.1) same if you are talking on the phone, always be the one to end the conversation, before the conversation dies down: I have to go, I have a client that's been trying to reach me for days to solve a crisis (never a boss, you don't have a boss); My friends are at the door we're going ... volunteering feeding the homeless..

1.2) same in chat/FB chat

2) text/email/IM/Facebook message: take the time it took her to respond to you, and double it before responding to her, or at least 1 hour, whichever is greater. So if it takes her 2 hour to respond to you, wait 2 hours before responding to her. If it takes her 1 day, you respond after 2 days, 1 week = 2 weeks. 15 minutes, = 1 hour; 20 minutes = 1 hour. You get the gist. Exeption: if you are trying to communicate something very time sensitive like: I am here I don't see you.. where are you.

3) Selecting a date/activity: You MUST be the one making the selection, and she has to be the one going along with it.

Activity: especially on a first date it must be something that YOU enjoy, and she's coming along for the novelty of it, the amusement, the discovery of you. Of course you MUST know enough about her that the activity is compatible with her personality. If she wants to go to a ballet or other crappy female activity.... refuse, it might be a dealbreaker as far as I am concerned.

Venue: this often goes with the activity, but if there are multiple venues (coffee, bar, club) pick one that's close to YOUR place. If there are no good coffee places, bars, clubs near you MOVE to a better location.

Day and time: again, you should know before asking the day/time that might be possible to her. If she works in an office, M-F 9-5 are not available times; if she's a bartender afternoon are good, or know which day the place where she works is closed (google it on your smartphone or discreetly go out the door or from the bathroom call, or... whatever). YOU MUST pick the day and time: How about coffee at Starbucks down the street Friday 5:30? If she says that Friday doesn't work, ask her This Friday or ANY friday? then go from there. If 5:30 is not good and she says 6:00 don't go for, it, change it a bit, 6:15 or even 6:05, make up something, agains something cool, important, social.. It's a psychological thing, whomever accepts the other's proposal will be primed to accepts other proposals, no matter what they are, and at some point you want to propose let's go to my place take your pants off take my pants off

At the date: BE LATE! Be always late. Don't text. Just show up late. Acknowledge it with a brief Sorry, Traffic! and then turn positive I am glad that you and I finally get to......

I Know, it does NOT make any sense, show this to ANY woman and they will tell you that it's BS. I want you to think about your past experience, if you are a Mr Nice Guy, you have done exactly the opposite of what I have outlined here, and... let me ask you: did you enjoy the results?

It gets better (or worse, depending on which way you look at it), at the same time, you have observed jerks who do exactly what I have outlined above and.... let me ask youL were their results better then yours?

So, you will agree that you got no risk whatsoever trying out what I have just outlined, make sure you try these with new women that you met (if you start showing up late to appointments with friends who know that you are always on time you'll be labeled a jerk/rude... don't ask me), and see if the results are any different than what you are used to, and if they are more to your liking.

TL;DR: If you are a Mr Nice Guy, do the opposite of what makes sense to you, in order to get the opposite of what you are getting now.

UPDATE: So I am getting a lot of heat about this, let's me clarify something:

1) Do I think the phone text thing is childish and stupid? YES I do.

2) Do I think it works? I KNOW it does. People, especially women, do this because of... I don't know why they do it, it just happend. If you follow this board you'll see on a daily basis posts by puzzled guys about the Text game where at some point in time she stopped texting.

3) I don't like it more than you do, but... IT WORKS, it solves a common problem out there. IF you have that problem, why don't you try it and see for yourself if it's working for you.

4) Source: I find out this method in the book He's Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys, it was an interesting read, there was some good points, some real BS, and.. this method, which intrigued me enough to use and.... it worked, it worked for me, most of the time. Better then the alternative.