Really nice rejection.

PublicStranger · 2011-12-09T18:45:51+00:00

I hate rejecting guys because I always worry that it will demotivate them. There are a thousand reasons why I may not want to carry things further with you, but none of them are that you approached me; that's exactly the right thing to do. How could you have known I have a boyfriend/I'm not feeling well/I'm attracted to a different kind of person/my dad's standing right over there/my friend already called dibs on you/etc.?

Master-Sayien · 2011-12-09T19:39:33+00:00

Ever tried. Ever failed?. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. -Samuel Beckett

So don't worry about rejection, they don't know you personnaly, so there is nothing to take personnally, it was only a beginning in your game, and after every rejection you adjust yourself, it is like play Angry Birds, you calculate, you shoot, you miss your shot, then try again until you get it. Nothing personnaly

AnAdventureCore · 2011-12-09T19:54:19+00:00

Failure is the ONLY way you can learn how to become good at something. Failure teaches you "oh, damn, maybe I shouldn't do THAT next time". Failure puts you BACK on the right course to success. Embrace failure. Create success.

seydar · 2011-12-09T21:24:46+00:00

What IS the proper way to approach a girl to get her to dance when it's too loud to really speak?

ATribeCalledGreg · 2011-12-09T18:16:25+00:00

Wish there were more girls like that. I've made it a point a few times after seeing a guy get shot down at a club or whatever to go over and give him the verbal pat on the back. It probably isn't as good coming from me though since it can easily be read as condescending which isn't my intent at all.

nycprowl · 2011-12-09T22:20:34+00:00

Nice rejections are nice... but it's the brutal ones that are hilarious and I always laugh about.

Awkward ones are my weakness, and probably most people's. Embrace awkwardness.

2011-12-10T01:18:02+00:00

Unless this guy isn't doing standard game, I thought the woman wasn't supposed to be sure if the man was gaming or not. Also, a woman consoling a man makes her the framer. Not that she is the target any longer, but you still have to keep up the frame, for your own psychological benefit.

amyers · 2011-12-09T22:16:04+00:00

When my friend get's a nice rejecton, such as "I'm so sorry but I've got a boyfriend..." he replies in a stern, but not assholish voice "Don't be sorry... have a good night".

That's not really my style... I'm laid back, like to joke and have fun, make people smile. Think 'Sasha DayGame' but not quite as goofy. I took my friends reply, and added my own twist. "Don't be sorry... unless he's really ugly or beats you or something, then you should totally be sorry :p"...yes I know, spousal abuse isn't something to joke about, but I've got the type of character where I'm capable of playing it off... It hasn't failed me yet. I'll let you know if I get punched out for it haha.

Oh, speaking of Sasha... I also like how he diffuses boyfriend rejections with his "On a scale of 1 to 10 how happy is he keeping you? :)" even if the girls aren't interested they usually smile, laugh at him for being goofy, let down their defenses a little bit and keep talking.

MARSpu · 2011-12-09T18:49:15+00:00

To be honest, the really nice rejections that I've found are really the meanest ones. Let's be real here: she rejected you nicely because you came off as a nice person. That sounds like a very considerate rejection but it doesn't sound like the ones you should be shooting for. Harsher blowouts mean ladies aren't going to sugar-coat their responses because they want to hurt your feelings. Plus they're more fun to bounce.

Title	Really nice rejection.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	85
Comments	36
Date	December 9, 2011 4:38 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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