Reddit, how do you get in state without alcohol?

nateking1 · 2012-03-20T21:51:31+00:00

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UnderstandableEnigma · 2012-03-20T22:03:05+00:00

Just don't force yourself 'in state.' If you don't feel like dancing and being obnoxious like you do when you drink then don't do it. If you can dance and joke around sober then well on you. But if your sober and you feel calm then act like it. No need to dance around and be an asshole, just be calm, cool, collected while displaying sexual intent.

Be congruent to however you feel inside and don't worry about state.

2012-03-20T22:52:35+00:00

Take short trip around shops and whatever, and just talk to people. Try to make jokes. Ask about stuff you might buy...etc.

Move from there to talking to random people at bus stops (what time is it? Have you waited long? nice shoes! Wow., I really like them..) exit sets the second you feel like it's going nowhere so you don't loose momentum.

Just escalate from there you know.

Some PUAs (daygame I think) calls this state-shifting. Think of it as warming-up before you do sports. You start off slow, and increase momentum until you are sprinting.

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-03-20T22:49:28+00:00

Cocaine.

gabriot · 2012-03-20T23:30:46+00:00

nofap

LurkForever · 2012-03-21T01:01:27+00:00

The Weeknd

2012-03-21T03:33:27+00:00

I do a few things over the course of my day.

1) I take care of my overall health. Eat correctly, light meditation (sit and stare at a wall), exercise, sleep well, etc. Keeps your mind clear, gives you energy, and just makes you feel damn good/happy.

2) If you're starting to get in your head, start bombarding your mind with positive thoughts. Instead of having anxious thoughts, start looking for reasons to be happy and pump yourself up. When I'm feeling particularly delusional, my entire thought process is "girls, party, music, dance, girls, friends, girls".

3) Talk to everyone. Start off with easy sets or guys, anyone really. It puts you in the mood and allows your body to remember what to do. It becomes a positive feedback loop. After your warm up sets, immediately approach a harder set. It really gets easier as you do it.

4) Don't jerk off.

I don't like drinking when it comes to picking-up girls. I'm not a hater and I love drinking myself. But I'm personally in PUA for the learning process, not necessarily to get laid as much as possible. Because I've never drank when I went out to pickup girls, I feel like my balls have been fortified. Whereas most of my friends need to drink to talk to people, I just simply talk to people.

2012-03-20T23:22:50+00:00

I'm not fond of alcohol, there are much better drugs. Look at the momentum post tofu posted, and talk to everyone before going.

Fred_Flintstone · 2012-03-21T01:29:54+00:00

A big cup of coffee can do the trick if your main problem is apathy more than anxiety

thejokermask · 2012-03-21T02:19:45+00:00

The bests way to get in-state in my opinion is to do warm up sets- when I do warm up sets though, I don't even think of it as sarging, i'll go talk to people I wouldn't sarge- old people, guys, etc etc. If I see a set I would approach normally while 'warming up' i'll do something ridiculous like asking them the time while holding my cell phone right infront of them, or go up to a group of girls and tell them i'm really bad at talking to woman and ask them for advice. When I was sarging day game really hardcore, like 8-10 hours a day, I would take an entire hour to warm up sometimes- when I did the results were SOOOO evident. Don't treat warm up sets like normal sets- be as authentic as you possibly can and be self-amused. This is the best way to get in state IMHO

Meditation can also be a good way to get in-state, couple this with success visualization exercises and its potent.

LibsrPus · 2012-03-21T04:47:27+00:00

Have a red bull or something similar.

ilostitattheclub · 2012-03-21T09:18:29+00:00

I feel like, as a big drinker, I should comment. I used to think that it was the alcohol that loosened me up and helped me enjoy a night out. Its actually not.

For me, when I would go out with friends, we would drink and have a good time. I only realized this recently, but all of the big nights I've had, the ones that I felt like i was just "in the zone" or the stories I'll tell my grandkids when they are old enough, those nights we were always so amped to have a good night, it was like we decided beforehand that no matter happened, tonight was going to be awesome.

That shit works man, especially when you anchor it all night. This happened just last weekend, and every slightly positive thing that happened, we were vocalizing it, like, "whoa dude this is so fucking awesome."

I know it sounds cheesy, but I'm sure this shit is legit. Decision, anchoring, positive reinforcement. Its not the alcohol, its the fact you are out with the guys that you love having a good time.

And it doesn't even have to be good friends. You can do this solo, just open some dudes at the pub and get all bro love on it.

Your friend organized a club event. That's awesome. That's your opener. Be enthusiastic about it, bounce off other people.

BurnerSkunk · 2012-03-20T22:41:17+00:00

5-hour energy ftw :P

Marsupian · 2012-03-20T23:35:04+00:00

Being dressed well always makes me feel awesome. Listening to music or doing a quick bodyweight workout also help a ton.

btw. icewahine's advice is really good, you don't need to be jumping around and have a ton of energy to pick up woman. If you are just congruent and approach calmly and with confidence (think Ryan Gosling in Crazy Stupid Love) you can pull chicks just as easily if not better.

Hauvegdieschisse · 2012-03-21T00:37:20+00:00

I'm mentioning this simply because I don't drink (I can't get past the smell. I can feel the vomit coming as soon as I put the glass by my face.)

1.)FR's

2.)Music-This is important, as you need to listen to something that isn't like pop or light rock. That is music people listen to when they need to relax. Go for heavier rock, dubstep (not a personal favorite), or metal. If you don't like the metal lyrics, go to a foreign band you can't understand.

3.)Nofap. Seriously.

kojopolis · 2012-03-21T01:59:49+00:00

focus on your body and how you feel, i find this makes doing anything 'congruent' and its very unstifling, this is one of the main topics on power of now

heckz · 2012-03-21T02:20:43+00:00

continuously approach.

revbobdobbs · 2012-03-21T02:55:44+00:00

I generally don't drink when I go out.

In fact, I generally don't drink.

Regular excercise and meditation help me keep in a calm, delighted state when I go out. Negative stuff just doesn't effect me most of the time.

buttresidue · 2012-03-21T04:14:13+00:00

I like to work out a little while before I go out, leave just enough time to shower. Especially upper body, arms. Makes me feel on top of the world, confident as ever and ready to chat up anyone I want to.

sillymallard · 2012-03-21T07:29:48+00:00

Here's a list:

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/lui5z/getting_into_state_two_kinds_of_approaches/

decapitate · 2012-03-22T18:55:21+00:00

Try this one: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-YPaPSyU-Vc

Title	Reddit, how do you get in state without alcohol?
Author	UnderstandableEnigma
Upvotes	21
Comments	48
Date	March 20, 2012 9:18 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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