Resources to help with converting dates into a relationship

PostAvailable9966 · 2026-03-25T15:10:29+00:00

Ok, here is your issue, you think you are attracting them. In reality… you are not.

3-5 dates and equal number of weeks… is just too much investment to get nothing out of it.

What happens is that you are probably over polite and not try to escalate on time. The girls play off your politeness and milk you for attention.

You need to test the waters faster and filter girls faster. You will see that it is much more preferable to have a 5 min blowout than 5 wasted weeks

“Attracting” means that the path to escalation opens up. If they dont allow sex (eventually) it means that the path wasnt open for you or closed.

wilhelmtherealm · 2026-03-25T14:59:08+00:00

I know the problem coz I'm kinda in this situation.

I'm good at attracting women because I've developed a good 'game' and have a great understanding of interactions.

Can remain present and calm all the time, etc, etc.

But relationships are a bit different.

It's about inviting another person into your life without the filters.

And if you're not secure about that, it's always gonna be a problem.

I have a great rapport and am in touch with all the women in my past ❤️

But I just can't get them to be a part of my life partly because I feel like I'm an imposter who has just learnt how to interact with women as a 'skill'.

They love to hang out and talk all day with me but I just cannot get myself to share my 'raw', vulnerable, unfiltered side of me with them.

Hopefully I'll be able to thaw as a person and bring down the walls around me.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-03-25T15:14:34+00:00

Did you sleep with the other 5?

Giving women orgasms is going to create pair bonding chemicals for her.

Otherwise just be non needy.

LofiStarforge · 2026-03-25T16:36:54+00:00

You’re probably coming off as way to needy. Woman have a 6th sense for this men have no idea how they are being perceived. It’s not something you can fake though.

That you are even worrying about something like texting frequency is a big tell.

drunkmers · 2026-03-25T21:00:40+00:00

You are doing something wrong or not very good at sex.. usually after you have sex with a girl you are dating 2-3 times and you do it well they start indirectly suggesting a relationship. Remember women gatekeep sex men gatekeep relationships, it's as simple as that

Euphoric_Spite8998 · 2026-03-26T02:21:16+00:00

You say you keep things chill and don’t text much. That can be good at first, but after a few dates people want to feel wanted. If it stays too “cool” ... it can feel like you’re not that interested, even if you are.

Lacunaethra · 2026-03-25T15:32:26+00:00

Did the other 6 give a reason for turning you down, and, if yes, were the reasons different/arbitrary or similar?

CandidSubstance423 · 2026-03-26T02:00:24+00:00

I have exactly what you need bro!

coochie4sale · 2026-03-26T04:13:57+00:00

Where are you meeting these women? Common issue with dating app girls or women you only have very limited interaction with. Women are initially interested because of look/game/etc but relationship dynamic does not emerge and chemistry is stifled.

Being able to go on multiple dates (5 dates with one person is a lot!) suggests that they at least gave it a serious try and you mentioned escalation. I'm guessing you had sex or at least make-out sessions with these women. (correct me if I'm wrong!)

If I guessed, you're probably keeping "chill" for too long and things don't progress emotionally so even though the girls are attracted to you, they don't feel like a relationship is viable. They like you, but you're too aloof and reserved...once women start to like like you they'll want a more relationship-y dynamic to emerge; daily check-ins, etc. 3-5 dates is when this dynamic starts to really percolate. You can get away with it for the first 2 dates, but it turns into a negative signal around date 3-4 imo if they're looking for a relationship.

Youcandoit-1111 · 2026-03-25T14:59:51+00:00

Don’t focus on them rejecting you and the number ratio. I got reject it last week for a girl I was fucking for 6 weeks guess what it did not bother me, move to the next.

At our last conversation I told her I fucked another girl.

Brother you need abundance. You need to choice them not the other way around. You don’t want to stuck with wrong one believe me

PUA_6EQUJ5 · 2026-03-25T15:10:18+00:00

You seduce them / escalate into sex
Keep seeing 2-3 people for 4-6 months
Pick the best one - this should happen naturally, depending who you vibe with the most
Girlfriend her up, keep seeing the other one(s) as fwbs

Excellent-Archer-238 · 2026-03-25T21:02:26+00:00

The way to get women want a relationship with you is you not wanting a relationship with them (but not saying it outloud).

Title	Resources to help with converting dates into a relationship
Author	Klutzy-Painting885
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Date	March 25, 2026 2:50 PM UTC (4 months ago)
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