Right Girl, Wrong Time

daudionut · 2019-11-24T11:00:04+00:00

Same thing happened to me last weekend. We danced, had a few shoots and by the end of the night she said "we should do this again, but not too often as I'm unfortunately with someone else"

DudleyStokes · 2019-11-24T14:58:41+00:00

Haha this never happens to me because i suck.

Chizerz · 2019-11-24T16:41:27+00:00

If that's your "right girl" I feel sorry for you. Shes clearly not a healthy person to be in a relationship with

KindNot · 2019-11-24T12:09:03+00:00

Ok man. I just want you to understand the behaviors you are normalizing... it can lead to home-wrecking and will likely hurt everyone involved. The girl may enjoy the conversation, but understand that everyone suffers from seeing the grass as always greener, so she might end up cheating on her guy for the night, and then realize that she still likes him, and everyone loses in that scenario, all because she was the one (that night)

This is probably the most likely scenario to occur

ImJustSo · 2019-11-24T16:48:22+00:00

Said it a hundred times. Ain't my job to keep a woman honest. Ain't my job to make a woman's decisions for her. I'm responsible for my own relationships and my own actions in those relationships.

I will fuck a cheater and regardless of your opinions on that, your morals don't sway mine. I will not investigate whether a woman is in a relationship, so if they're single, then we'd bone. If they're not single, they can lie to me, I would be none the wiser.

If I find out later that I've been lied to, then I will be offended.

If they're up front about being in a relationship, then I don't care, because I only judge people on how they relate to me.

So you have these possibilities:

You do not know and you choose to fuck her.

You know and fuck her anyways, despite being dishonest to someone you do not know.

You know and choose not to fuck her, for being honest to you.

Now then, I don't fuck my friend's girlfriends behind their back, because I have a relationship with that friend. It would be against my morals in this case, because I owe that friendship honesty.

I do not and will not ever owe anything to someone else's relationship. I made no agreement with that person. I made no commitment to that person. I made no promises to break. So, it is not my duty to keep a woman faithful to her man. I refuse to take a woman's choices away from her.

If my wife wants to go behind my back for some other guy's dick, she knows the consequence to lying to me is to lose my trust and then lose our relationship. I know that the same holds true for me, I would lose her trust and her.

I choose to not betray that trust and not lose her.

Another woman who chooses that her man is worth the risk of losing for me, then I agree. If she believes that her man is worth losing, then why the fuck would I disagree? I won't, I'm just gonna fuck her. I'll tell my wife about it, because that's my duty towards our relationship and my honesty.

I fully expect to get down votes and be called a bad person, probably by a bunch of people that have been cheated on. I've been cheated on and it sucks, but the guy who fucked my girl didn't owe me shit, unless he was a friend. I got to break up with the girl and that was her punishment for her decision. I don't misplace my feelings, I know exactly who is at fault.

Any white knights that are reading this have a tendency to think women aren't capable, responsible, reasoning, etc. White knights tend to see women as fantasy creatures, they picture themselves in fantasy relationships with women, they see themselves in that relationship and think, "I'd be a good guy for her!" and you will be the guy that gets taken advantage of, because you see the other men as perpetrators. Someone took something of yours. Someone deserves payback!

Sorry, buddy, but that woman gave something away that was hers to give away. If you don't like that, then take yourself away from her. It takes no extra thought past that and that's why I act with the morals that I do.

Women are responsible for their actions, not me.

judahman8 · 2019-11-24T17:56:38+00:00

Run into something like that at least once a night.

2019-11-24T17:44:19+00:00

“Maybe I’ll search you on Facebook.”

😂😂😂

GomboAndGimlee · 2019-11-25T00:13:43+00:00

I met one girl at an event and we hit it off. She had a boyfriend though. A couple months later I saw her again but this time she was single. We started dating.

chanceliketheword · 2019-11-24T18:13:59+00:00

I love the integrity this man has! This is one of the crucial mindsets that leads to success. God speed, Sir.

ezbeatmeat · 2019-11-24T20:23:48+00:00

Right girl? If she finds you again, agree to meet. And just continue to be who you are. If she is the right girl for you, maybe she'll begin wondering if you are the right guy for her. If so, continue the friendship without commitments. Who knows? Perhaps one day, she will tell you that she broke up with the guy, or that he dumped her. This because if she were already with the right guy, she would not have given you the time of day last night. However, CAUTION: She also may be the kind of girl who "plays" with boys when her regular isn't available. I Marked time on one like that because there was nothing better at the time. Thing is, we both had each other figured out and were OK with that for several months.

tender007 · 2019-11-29T23:03:53+00:00

Either go all in or forget her. There is no middle ground to this, go with your gut!

bemore_ · 2019-11-24T16:43:28+00:00

Haha that was the right time. There is no such thing as a taken women, humans can't be owned like possessions. Though I can appreciate a guy with values, for me unless they are married and have kids you aren't exactly making anyone's life messy. Your belief that you'd be going on a date tomorrow if she was single is just misplaced. Women are emotional, the moment you shared was just that. Beyond this you're just making assumptions, tomorrow she could behave as if you never existed because she is not yours. She likely won't make shit happen, she's likely sharing moments with other guys and they're all thinking "if she was single we'd be on a date tomorrow"

2019-11-24T17:04:12+00:00

Dude girls cheat constantly. She wanted you

aquarelablue · 2019-11-24T20:04:58+00:00

Thank you for being a respectful human and knowing that not everything (whether the chemistry is right or not) turns into a one night stand if you’re able to talk to someone.

Best of luck!

Dr-Death_Defying · 2019-11-24T13:04:04+00:00

you still could have exchanged contact details just in case something happens with her relationship with her boyfriend in the future.

grrinchas · 2019-11-24T11:09:53+00:00

What’s wrong with you? If you like her, then go for it. No girl which loves her bf and is serious about their relationship would say something “I will search you on Facebook” after she talked with some guy.

There were so many girls who had boyfriends. And usually if she says “I have a boyfriend” I replied “I am not looking for a girlfriend” and ask number again. Some of them give some of them don’t.

2019-11-24T19:07:54+00:00

this is a fairy tale about this situation that you’ve constructed in your head. she’s not the “right” girl, because if she we’re, the time would’ve been “right” too. this is just some chick that you have a crush on who was nice to you but you’ve made it bigger than what it was, thus, a reddit post about her. this is “nice guy” behavior.

you’ll have the “right” girl when you’re actually with her and not posting about her. keep approaching and talking but remember that whether you think you made a connection or not, if you’re not intimate with her in anyway at all, it’s the same as her straight up rejecting you.

farfromahead · 2019-11-24T14:05:50+00:00

you would've started drilling boy

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ProducerNYC90 · 2019-11-24T15:16:07+00:00

This is basic evolutionary biology. Message her, pursue her aggressively and take her out.

Title	Right Girl, Wrong Time
Author	mysteriousme90
Upvotes	551
Comments	99
Date	November 24, 2019 8:36 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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