This is something I've struggled with continually since I started studying pickup. See, this stuff is really powerful, and has literally changed my life. I've met and been with women that I never dreamed I'd be able to before I started studying.

Unfortunately, at times I find myself in a mindset that I can "make this happen." A lot of this is sold in pickup that you can do certain behaviors or say certain phrases and a woman will be magically into you.

So many times I've been interacting with a chick, be it in set, through text, or out on a "date", and if it doesn't go well, I blame it on weak game or not knowing the right magical catch phrase or whatever.

I think this is the reason why a lot of guys get addicted to books, seminars, and dumping out tons of money to "get better." But, if anything, I think what I'm finally starting to realize is that we're really just maximizing our efficiency to meet girls that were already into me. Basically learning how to get out of our my way.

I think since I've come to terms with this I'm much more willing to drop a girl when she's not giving some sort of reciprocal attention - especially because women are such validation whores, and they're more than happy to lead a guy on for months, while from our perspective, we're just trying to run different kinds of game.

How to test for this? If you have her number and she always has an excuse or reason not to get together, then just drop it, there's no "game" that can change that. If she's not willing to fall into compliance tests, then back off.

Of course there's a balance where you can't be strict about these things, and have to go by instinct, which is totally thrown off when a girl is an HB 8+.

Thankfully, after learning game its so much easier to move onto a girl that will play along, not just steal my time and energy.