First let me say this, you can pick up girls at parties or at clubs but this is more for picking up a girl you see at the mall, or a park, or just walking in your neighborhood.

Before you approach! Make sure she doesn’t look busy or in a rush, and don’t approach her in a vulnerable place like an alley or in the woods lol.

Step 1. Be Confident, walk up to her like you are the best looking man on planet earth (even if you’re not!). What do you have to lose, she says no? She says she has a boyfriend? So what you just move on to the next girl.

Step 2. When making conversation try to think of a line or a phrase before you walk up. One that’s worked for me is saying something like “oh wow sorry to bother you, you look just like my friend ____ from back home!” she always wore (cowboy boots, baseball caps etc). Immediately after saying this I will ask her name and introduce myself.

Step 3. When Introducing yourself DONT forget her name and if you use her name it shows you can listen in a conversation and it shows you care.

Step 4. If she can carry a conversation it should be easy enough to continue it. If you have trouble keeping conversations going just keep asking questions (what’s your major?, where are you from?, what are you studying?) this is for a college environment but if you want you can even just memorize a set number of questions to ask that can be applied to different situations in order to be better at conversations. Sometimes you can immediately tell by her responses that she’s not interested in this case I will just abort because 1. She’s probably not interested and 2. I probably don’t want to take her out anyway.

Step 5. Keep a good amount of eye contact. If she’s looking right back at you, you know she’s interested. I can’t tell you how many times I could tell I had bagged a girl before she even said yes just by her body language. Eye contact also shows confidence and poise.

Step 6. This is easier said than done but don’t show nervousness. This ones hard at first but even if you say something stupid or there’s an awkward moment don’t breakdown!

Step 7. Go for the close. Ask for her number/snapchat and suggest plans. Something like “hey mind if I get your snapchat maybe we could go out this weekend?” Or “hey let me get your number let’s get drinks this week!” Plus this will give you something to talk about when you text her next.