The Fake Alpha Males

takatori · 2011-08-11T18:10:58+00:00

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BMGfan · 2011-08-11T20:05:07+00:00

I've been subscribed to seddit for almost as long as I've been a redditor. And I rarely if ever post. Mostly because the general attitude here is a lack of respect (both for themselves and others), and a general objectification of women.

The object around here seems to be about "getting results" rather than building healthy relationships of any sort.

This article hits the nail on the head. You have to be confident in yourself with a TRUE abundance mentality in order to be truly sucessful in the long run. Oh and those of us who truly don't give a fuck don't run into LMR or bullshit games or "qualifying" or shit tests or ANY of that SHIT

BE YOUR FUCKING SELF. Seriously.

Grow some balls and approach women, have interesting experiences and stories to share when you do (that are real and not exadgerated, blown up or bullshit), and show off your best side. YOU'LL GET LAID, and you might even meet someone who you'll explore the world with. Then when it ends you'll have even more stories to share, and the cycle repeats!

"Being alpha" (god I hate that term) is truly not giving a fuck what anyone thinks...

EDIT: to clarify you can have healthy relationshipsthat last one night (I have no problems with SAFE casual sex), or healthy relationships that last for the rest of your life....manipulating someone and playing on someones lack of self esteem through "negging" (which is how I've seen many FR's use it) because you want sex is doing a great disrespect to both yourself and the other person.....

testmypatience · 2011-08-11T23:44:35+00:00

Vulnerbility - being open to rejection and failure

How you deal with the rejection and failure however is what sets beta and alpha behaviour apart.

Alpha behaviour is not reactionary and will accept rejection and failure with open arms and with the sense of happiness regardless of it and will try again.
Beta behaviour is reactionary and will accept rejection and failure with closed arms and with the sense of sadness and defeat and will generally stop trying again and will be hardened against that in which rejected them. This also comes along with trying to bargain to gain acceptance and love.

This is one hell of a eye opener. Thank you for posting.

no_dating · 2011-08-11T19:23:41+00:00

Ross Jeffries has been talking about "vulnerability" for years. To summarize it, it's the ability to be the real you, to give others the opportunity to judge the person you really are, with no apology, no cover story, nor a macho act to protect yourself.

That's the kind of strength that all of the guys you see putting on a hard act wish they could have.

nappythrill22 · 2011-08-11T19:48:16+00:00

THIS IS THE BEST OUTSIDE ARTICLE IVE EVER READ ON SEDDIT!!!!!

My argument has been, and still is, that a man’s greatest strength comes through his vulnerability. Every time a man approaches a woman, he’s making himself vulnerable. Every time he tells a girl she’s hot, he’s making himself vulnerable. Every time he cracks a joke and shares his opinions he makes himself vulnerable. A man’s ability to express himself and his assert his desires grows and expands in proportion to his willingness to make himself vulnerable. To put it another way: a man’s ability to be an alpha male is proportional to how willing he is to make himself vulnerable.

This concept is so integral to my own game, its always been a mystery to me why it's seldom if ever addressed here.

EDIT: another thing.... some women in particular are especially turned on when they see an alpha be upfront open and confident about things they should (read: most betas would) be embarrassed about. It's not the same with every girl, obviously, but if you pay close attention during this interaction, it will be clear as day.

AboveThee · 2011-08-12T01:02:39+00:00

"Alpha Males typically behave the following ways: - Go after what they want without shame or apology. - Are comfortable with opposition or rejection by others. - Prioritize their own needs over others, unless they choose otherwise. - Are willing to take risks and stand up for their own values and beliefs."

can someone make this into a desktop background? lol

EggLampBasket · 2011-08-11T23:27:03+00:00

The use of alpha and beta are a joke in the PUA community. Anyone who is an "alpha" doesn't go on a message board proclaiming he is one. I think we can all agree on TofuTofu having some nice game, now go notice how often he uses the word alpha in his FRs.

It's pathetic when some posts alpha tips like "Don't be the person who laughs the longest." That shit is just silly. Girls look for men, not boys who are trying to look like men with the help of some internet bullshit.

lolwhatsausername · 2011-08-11T20:41:44+00:00

VERY VERY enlightening.

RobJudge · 2011-08-11T21:42:56+00:00

Great material from a great mind. 10/10

malfy · 2011-08-12T10:21:52+00:00

I always thought this is what real seduction was about, but most of seddit goes against this article. Maybe I'll stick to /r/ForeverAlone and be beta.

Title	The Fake Alpha Males
Author	unsexyMF
Upvotes	118
Comments	40
Date	August 11, 2011 2:48 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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