Turning 30 soon and absolutely clueless and sexually frustated after attempting cold approach yesterday for the upteenth time. As a 6'4" slightly nerdy black dude who has embraced the blackpill and lives with his parents, finding women into me is near impossible...

No-Preference8767 · 2024-05-19T15:04:42+00:00

It sounds like you took the victim complex of inceldom and applied none of the self help stuff from looksmaxxing. You're not blackpill. you're just a whiner looking for a way out.

I'm prejudging you based on your post but most guys in your scenario have bad fashion, a boring unflattering haircut and don't go for trendy facial hair

As a black man ,you can grow dreads, get braids and even wear different styles outside of collared shirts to upgrade your aesthetic.

ACTUALLY take the blackpill and improve your life

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-05-19T15:09:31+00:00

I'd forget about all that black pill stuff, I can almost guarantee that looks isn't your problem. Height is a hugely attractive quality for many women so pretty much regardless of your facial proportions you're attractive enough.

I have to be honest though it sounds as though your personality is the issue, you describe yourself as nerdy and socially stunted. I've met guys who struggled with cold approach and did 1000 approaches with no results and it was usually a combination of their personality and their style that were the issue.

I'd try and focus on improving your social circle and get into the habit of socialising more. Try to join groups where you'll meet more people and work on flexing your social muscle. Things like social dancing can be good for this, Bachata, salsa, kizumba etc. This helped me personally 8n building a good social circle from scratch after the covid lock downs.

CoffeeandMJ · 2024-05-19T15:12:19+00:00

Based on this post, you really are repellent to women. I mean think about it bro and be honest, what woman wants to be with the current version of you? Sleeping with escorts? Really? Have some self respect man!

Accept that you don’t know shit. Embrace it. You don’t know how to act around women. It’s ok and there’s strength in that, many men are not taught for various reasons. But have some dignity first guy. You’re in a sad state and making things worse. Full stop, full reversal right now. The informations is out there go find it.

Neloangelo1814 · 2024-05-19T15:21:15+00:00

I went out to a bar last night and saw many black guys with cute white girls and in groups socializing so it’s probably more of an issue of needing to boost your social skills and having more confidence in yourself.

LaloTwinsDa2nd · 2024-05-19T14:53:07+00:00

(a) stop sleeping with escorts you’ll catch something, everyone I know Who’s slept with escorts now has herpes cause you can’t stop that with condoms. You also need that sexual energy.

(b) I’m hearing you’re 6’4 cool, what’s your body fat percentage, ru in the gym?

(c) sounds like your sticking point isn’t opening per se or overwhelming approach anxiety but just conversations. I’d focus on just talking to people and attractive women with no other agenda other than talking to them and having fun. You’re there to give fun positive vibes and if she’s not having it sucks for her on to the next. Practice holding eye contact, go stare at yourself in a mirror for 5 minutes, blink sparingly, even tear up, you’ll find it much easier to make eye contact with other people.

When making eye contact have your eyes kinda narrow, people new to making eye contact have them wide open and that’s off putting as hell.

bas4784 · 2024-05-19T15:44:27+00:00

being that tall is a big advantage. consider posting pictures and asking for advice on how to improve appearance.

LordPrettyMax · 2024-05-19T18:39:16+00:00

Maybe instead of daygame and nightgame have you tried to just learn to socialize and talk to people without the goal of trying to pick them up or sleep with them.

Fantastic-Life-2024 · 2024-05-19T18:37:12+00:00

I am generally unable to have a fulfilling dating life off the apps

What exactly does this mean?.

What experience have you had wiith women so far?.

Objective_Ostrich776 · 2024-05-19T19:43:33+00:00

You have women who like you already. You are 6'4 get out and meet new people

WinningCommunication · 2024-05-19T21:18:39+00:00

In your situation I have a CRUCIAL recommendation. Focus on the process for awhile, when there is so much emotional baggage everything can feel so extreme.

What I mean is, just focus on the effort you put in and being happy with it and not thinking about results at all.

I would, for example, pick a TECHNICAL style of game and practice it for a pre determined amount each week. Say a few hours a few times a week or an hour everyday. Just do that and aim to forget about yourself and what everything "means" about you.

This'll take you out of yourself a bit and allow you to make some progress.

Kobe_curry24 · 2024-05-19T21:50:03+00:00

Bruv 1st advice stop being a victim 2nd advice move out your moms crib as quickly as possible if your broke take this time now to stack your bread start online biz or get a degree do all you can to move out of the crib , 2nd thing is to find a spot close to down town or college town , find a friend who gets pussy and just run sets with him all day it’s not hard man

mcchigguns · 2024-05-19T22:00:03+00:00

Black pill is the biggest bullshit ever dog. Getting jacked and better looking can help, but won't solve the problem. If you get that 1% genetics and spend years getting to the top of the looks pyramid, you'll miss out on hundreds of girls. Imagine you don't focus on your game during that time, even the good looking dude from "You" creeps ladies out.

Just focus on your game and you'll get better. Build a healthy lifestyle for the sake of it, but don't rely on it for game. Take your rejections like a man, you'll end up getting really good stories from them.

Silly_Randy · 2024-05-19T23:14:07+00:00

Brudda you are beautiful. Don't put yourself down. Opinions are subjective.

You become what you think. Legit.

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Dependent-Audience46 · 2024-05-19T23:20:54+00:00

Bruh i am 15 5,7 and have about €20 to my name. Nothing is impossible just put on a charm and let it do the work

southparkslope · 2024-05-19T20:11:43+00:00

Sounds like you need to find yourself now.

Lord_Asmodeus93 · 2024-05-19T17:30:51+00:00

What is your game plan? Are you opening Direct or Indirect? What do you do to DHV? How do you build comfort after that? What makes you unique?

What's your weight? It's going to be far harder to game if you're obese. Talking from personal experience. To pull while obese, you need a perfect game.

You say you're nerdy. In this day and age, it's nothing. I used to game when being nerdy was social suicide. And I was, and still am to this day an avid D&D, pokemon, and Yugioh player. That has never affected me in my game.

It's good that you have the courage to actually approach. Most guys don't. However, without technique, you won't see results.

My advice is, to read a book or two about seduction (preferably in a style that suits you, but definitely read "The Game" by Neil Strauss; it's a great read, and will give you hints about upping your game, but most importantly, will give you motivation), maybe hit the gym, and once you do that, approach with a mindset of taking feedback. You'll focus on results later, once you master the basics.

I really hope this helps you out. If you need some advice on what books to read, my DMs are always open.

matrixunplugged1 · 2024-05-19T18:32:18+00:00

Are you ripped? Gymmaxxing along with your height is like a superpower imo

Casanova-Quinn · 2024-05-19T19:53:36+00:00

Since you self described as "slightly nerdy" and "socially stunted", your social skills are probably the issue. Start talking to women platonically and just focus on having a good conversation. See if you can make her laugh and make her invest in the conversation (i.e. she starts asking you questions). Don't even worry about getting numbers and dates until you can do that. If you need detailed guidance on specific social skills, check out Charisma on Command.

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