I heard of the phrase incel a couple of yrs ago and instantly thought it was the dumbest thing ever. Just because you're an adult male and you're still a virgin, or you're unsuccessful with women, creating a label and ideology behind it is dumb and unproductive, and can probably even hold you back.

To begin, at some point, most guys were technically "incels" right? All it means is that you suck with women and you are not getting laid. By creating an identity and ideology around this, it just makes you think in absolutes, and conditions you to believe that you are just essentially meant to be doomed when it comes to dating. Instead, just observe the reasons as to why you suck with women and solve the issue.

This really annoys me, because I lost my virginity at around 19-20 yrs old, before I even knew what the word incel was, and tbh, if you saw me during that time, I pretty much was one of those guys. I was fat, ugly, had no social life, stayed locked in the basement, had no social skills. All I did was play videos games and jerk off. It's not like I'm some stud now or something, but I just knew I had to get outta my bubble and comfort zone if I wanted to grow.

I see all these posts about guys talking about how they're incels, and I feel like if this type of content was around back then, I would probably follow it and gain zero progress.

So for all those self proclaimed "Incels" reading this, just throw this stupid ideology and word away and just focus on what you need to do.

I would honestly say, just stop carrying about women and dating entirely. Discover what you wanna do with your life, and don't allow fear to control your actions.

What does this mean?

Focus on the things you life, become good at it and find your career. If at any point you block yourself from taking action, as yourself if this passivity is coming from fear, and simply ignore the fear and attack. This will carry over to everything.

You'll notice you are no longer going to be avoiding social events, and will be leaving the house more. You'll meet new friends and interesting people. Organically, you will actually start become better with women. Next thing you know, you'll get a gf, and realize this entire dating thing is really not big deal. You'll even laugh at how you used to think.

I highly recommend you guys also get into FITNESS. Fitness is the ultimate courage builder. The concept of adding weight to the bar every week at the gym tests your courage and transfers to other aspects of life. I know if it wasn't for fitness, I would be doomed in life lol.

Anyways, good luck!