I’m sure you’ve been in a situation where you knew a beautiful woman who you got along with very well, and you had a lot in common. I bet she was super attractive, had an awesome personality, and you enjoyed spending time with her, but for some reason she only saw you as a friend.

I’m also willing to bet that the guy she chose to get with probably treated her like shit, or at least not as good as you would’ve treated her.

I mean I see this all the time.

Most beautiful women seem to feel attraction for men who don’t treat them very nicely.

And the guys who treat women like princesses get put in the friendzone at the speed of light.

So, I guess mom was wrong when she said to be nice to women….

I mean I’m not trying to sound like a bad guy, but I’m interested in what works when it comes to attraction and not what sounds good.

So, here’s the truth. Being nice is never the primary reason why a woman will feel attraction for a man. Being nice is only effective as the icing on the cake. If you have all the other traits that a woman finds attractive, then being nice will help increase the attraction, but only if you use it in moderation.

The majority of women do not want a guy who is nice all the time, because that will get boring fast. And most women are not looking for a boring guy.

Women are attracted to men who have strong social skills and an awesome personality. Women are attracted to funny guys. Women are attracted to confidence. Those characteristics are valuable and being nice is not. Anybody can be nice, but not everybody can be funny, confident, and fun to be around. Who tends to have the characteristics above?

Bad Boys.

Bad boys aren’t always funny, but they tend to do a lot of funny shit (or crazy shit), and they tend to be confident, and they’re certainly interesting to be around.

Bad boys are really good at creating an emotional rollercoaster for women to experience. The “Bad Boy” is anything but boring.

Now, I’m not saying you need to be a bad boy, but you certainly can learn a thing or two from them about attraction. And if you extract the right characteristics and leave out the negative characteristics, then you will become a nice guy with an edge.

That’s what you want to be.

Here’s the thing…

Beautiful women have a ton of options, and if you want to get beautiful women, you must create the perception that you are one of the better options.

Why?

Well, women make quick decisions subconsciously about whether a man is going into the friend zone, the provider zone, or the lover zone. And once that decision is made it’s almost impossible to change it.

So, you have to create the feelings of attraction and not the feelings that make women want to put you in the friendzone. Being nice around a woman, will create the feelings that she associates with a “good friend” and not a lover.

Instead of being nice to women, focus on displaying confidence, humor, and an air of mystery.

For example, you could try treating women like your little annoying sister. I believe this is a good example because most beautiful women are used to guys putting them on a pedestal and trying to impress them by being nice. You will separate yourself from other guys by treating women in a manner where it doesn’t seem like you’re trying to manipulate them into liking you.

So, instead of complimenting women all the time, try teasing them. Teasing women shows that you’re not seeking validation from them, and it also shows you have a sense of humor. An example of a tease would be something like, “Look at you, you’re like a little teddy bear, I could probably carry you around in my pocket”.

However, the key to successful teasing is to make sure that the woman is laughing. If you tease a woman and she is not laughing, then chances are you’re teasing a little too hard and it may come off as an insult. The example I gave above is a good tease because most women will be able to tell that you’re teasing them but it’s cute and not insulting.

When you’re around beautiful women, stop being so stiff and just let go and be care-free. Detach yourself from the outcome of sleeping with them or dating them, just focus on enjoying the moment, and having fun.

Stop taking your conversations with women so seriously. Most men are very logical, and I personally used to struggle with this a lot. I would get into these boring and logical conversations with women and I would never get a call back for date number two. So, I learned to stop being so logical in my conversations.

When a woman asks you a question, you don’t have to answer it all seriously and intelligently. Sometimes you can answer it in a humorous way. For example, if a woman asks you where you live, you could say that you live in your parents’ garage. Or you could say that you’re actually the real-life James Bond. It doesn’t matter what you say, but the point is you don’t have to give the obvious and boring answer to her questions all the time.

So, as you can see I’m not advising you to be an asshole to women, I’m just saying that being nice is not something that turns women on. You can be nice in moderation, but you shouldn’t be using that as your primary strategy to attract women. Instead rely on characteristics such as confidence, humor, and a little mysteriousness and you’ll find women responding to you a lot better.