You know you’re making enough approaches when your brain can’t fathom why you wouldn’t be doing it.

IllustriousPepper8 · 2019-06-02T14:01:10+00:00

ABSOLUTELY agreed. It's second nature to me. At this point I find I am limited by seeing women that are attractive to me.

But when I see, I open, no hesitation and no questions asked.

The comfort comes from the previous 500 times that I did it and didn't die.

TaeKwonPiccolo · 2019-06-02T15:12:58+00:00

Very cool. I got a lot of numbers last night. The more you approach, the more you kill the approach anxiety.

Unlucky_winner · 2019-06-02T15:18:04+00:00

As a guy that has just got out of a relationship, has oneitis and granios andiety of approaching women. Can you give me an example of a day approach that goes sussessfully for you? I cant imagine it

recyclablebanthas · 2019-06-03T02:43:55+00:00

It's definitely possible to muscle through it like that through cold approach, and build up one's social skills. It suits some people's personalities.

But it's not the only way, to be sure.

There are plenty of ways to take one's baby steps into "game." One could try to muscle their way into change by cold approach after cold approach. But there are other ways like:

Joining a regular social event or group to join in. Like social partner dancing, hash running, co-ed beach volleyball, whatever. It can be a great way to normalize the idea of talking to strangers and get used to the mindset of being warmed up socially.
Or building up one's observation skills while you're out doing mundane things like running your errands, and then not so much approach, as dropping hooks based on what you observe, without expectation that someone needs to follow up. Interested parties will often bite on that hook."
Or striking up conversation with the so-called "point people" that you interact with every day at regular gas stations, banks, grocery stores, etc. Interested parties will often join conversations you start with point people.

There's more than one way to skin a fish. Just cold approach is fine, but there are other tools in the arsenal, so to speak.

vvvrath12 · 2019-06-02T16:19:26+00:00

How long it take you to get into this mindset? What was it like starting out? How did your first few approaches go? (sorry for too many questions I also want to start approaching soon)

DezaNoPersona · 2019-06-02T19:02:52+00:00

I fucking love cold approach. Just yesterday got a same night lay that I’d never be able to if I didn’t approach. The freedom to do whatever feels good.

merunas · 2019-06-02T15:31:57+00:00

I happy to hear that my brother. Today I've approached 4 girls, 3 of them insta rejected me while the last one was fairly engaged. She was hot as fuck tho too and I got her intsgram so that's great.

2019-06-02T23:59:02+00:00

Inaction is a cause of overthinking

auxdub · 2019-06-02T15:14:38+00:00

I love having this consistency as well. By doing this I stopped blaming myself and stopped getting obsessed with why some girl flaked on me or whatever.

I know that I'm getting better every day and it feels great to be detached from any results.

DajuanKev · 2019-06-02T22:31:34+00:00

The possibilities and potentially new memories. These benefits I'm now established with since I started approaching.

FatedMoody · 2019-06-02T22:39:58+00:00

Man this is exactly where I want to be. Would love to get to the point where approaching becomes 2nd nature. After getting laid this is probably what I want most of all. Just be able to conquer my fears.

Thanks for reminding me why I’m doing this and my big picture goals!

Whiskey-logic · 2019-06-03T10:21:14+00:00

I’m a girl and in my entire life of 23 years only 2 men approached me.

lItsAutomaticl · 2019-06-02T18:20:41+00:00

What do you do about women who are bad at carrying a conversation in this setting? From my experience it's a high percent, or maybe I just suck.

st0nervirginsunit3 · 2019-06-03T01:19:04+00:00

I’m at the complete opposite end and I can’t fathom why I ever would. I’m 25 still a virgin and I just feel like my time has passed. It’s to the point where I’m accepting my fate already. I’ll die this way and I think about that a lot. It’s a topic I’m kind of fixated on and it’s such a strange thing. Being an organism that is literally made to reproduce that never will. It leads me to wonder does it even matter? The man that fucked 100 women and the virgin will both end up turning into dust eventually. Believe it or not I don’t always get this negative but I have to express it sometimes.

ifitdontmakedolla · 2019-06-03T04:13:01+00:00

How long ago did you start approaching and how often have you been doing it until you started to feel this way?

HostileErectile · 2019-06-03T07:41:45+00:00

Whats wrong with approach anxiety though? Even professionel actors gets anxious before stepping up on the stage.

Going through a daily grind to remove something completely normal.

I don’t get this mindset... seems tedious and annoying to me. You have become a slave? Are you so anxious when approaching someone that you felt it was a legit problem? Is it better now? Are you hopeless with women? What makes someone pursuit something this objectively pathetic?

chickenshitmchammers · 2019-06-02T15:51:50+00:00

approaching is beta

Title	You know you’re making enough approaches when your brain can’t fathom why you wouldn’t be doing it.
Author	thewrestler
Upvotes	316
Comments	78
Date	June 2, 2019 1:54 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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