I'm currently in the process of splitting up with my wife of 14 years. We have two kids ages 3 and 7. I caught her cheating again. I did my best to keep the marriage together for the kids but she was checked out and I wasn't going to give anymore of myself to someone who wasn't even going to try. We had a consultation with a mediator the other day. The mediator suggested we stay married until the end of the year for tax purposes. I was fine with it because we'd be living in separate places. She was not. When I inquired why, her response was "Well what if I meet someone??!" I responded with "Meet someone?? That's not even a thought that has popped into my head, my focus is on the children and making sure they're getting adjusted and taken care of." I was so put off by her response that it took me days to process it. The one good thing I took from her comment was that it affirmed I was making the right decision.