Being dickmatized doesn’t exist. A majority of women think sex with a toxic man is so great because what they’re experiencing is actually trauma bonding. Water tastes like heaven when you’ve been thirsty for days.

souredskittles · 2020-12-24T18:31:51+00:00

Someone said in order to feel these intense highs you have to have some extreme lows. I try to look for peacefulness in relationships.

vmuzondi · 2020-12-24T17:11:34+00:00

I think it’s important for women to stop romanticizing abusive dynamics. I’ve seen a lot of women say they stay with men because the sex is “great” but remembering the toxic situations I was in made me realize I was dramatizing those relationships. The best sex I’ve ever had was with a man who cared for me and truly loved me. We rarely fought and had a real connection. We broke up for different reasons but after experiencing that I realized most of the sex I was having was terrible. You only get a rush in these situations because you’re getting the validation you’ve been craving, not because the sex is so “amazing.”

CountingDownTheDays5 · 2020-12-24T18:01:35+00:00

I always wondered where this idea came from. The first sign of a toxic person is extreme selfishness. So speaking freak they probably be too busy getting themselves off to even care about your needs.

EurasianEmpress · 2020-12-24T22:16:21+00:00

So it’s like thinking a mediocre meal is the most amazing thing you’ve ever tasted only because you’ve been starving for too long.

2020-12-24T21:42:50+00:00

This is soo right! My NVM ex was like you probably won’t meet someone as freaky as me — uhm I don’t even want to???

FireflySky86 · 2020-12-25T03:29:17+00:00

I dated someone when I was very young and very in love with at the time. I felt accepted, I felt passion, I was coerced into some sexual things that I wasn't ready for, I was alone when I needed him most... you get the drift. He was the first and probably only person who could consistently make me cum and at the time I thought that was damn near miraculous.

We broke up for a bit, I was even with someone else that I was crazy for, but eventually our paths crossed again and I'm a moment of weakness and nostalgia we briefly got back together.

The sex was meh. He hadn't changed very much in that time, and everything was familiar. I thought the mechanics of it should have worked but I just wasn't about it. At the time I assumed maybe I had changed, or was still hung up on the other person. Both are probably true but, now that I know better it was irrelevant. I was addicted to him when we were together and after I wasn't, I just didn't feel the same. It was never about him at all, just the way I had felt about him.

Maude2010 · 2020-12-24T22:39:29+00:00

Also, if you need to fight all the time because you think makeup sex is so great, you’re not really having good sex.

level_up_always · 2020-12-24T23:08:23+00:00

it's also encouraged in women by men talking about 'crazy' women giving the best sex the hot/crazy index etc. etc. so much gaslighting it's unbelievable.

atreegrowsinbrixton · 2020-12-24T18:34:41+00:00

This is hitting me where it hurts. The best head of my life came from a guy who’s such a piece of shit. Really fucks with the brain

poody456 · 2020-12-25T07:22:57+00:00

I had a fwb that was mean and emotionally abusive. Sex was the only time that I was experiencing any kind of positive dialogue and touch from him so of course I went around saying that it was the best sex I’ve ever had. I also felt addicted and it was a massive struggle to overcome that feeling and leave but it was worth it.

thepanichand · 2020-12-25T17:04:27+00:00

Like I always say, if you're in some sort of BDSM relationship, you're just not brave enough to perform self injury and are getting other people to do it for you. It's a sign you have poor mental health, not that you're open minded or in touch with your body. An affectionate passionate slap on the behind is one thing, someone whaling on your ass is just an emotional disturbance. And also, it's really fucking cringey, that you'd participate in such nonsense. Grow up and get therapy.

Eat_Pant_b0ss · 2020-12-25T02:41:15+00:00

For me, it was an addictive erotic feeling that he knew me well enough to fuck my feelings so hard and completely devastate me, just to save me from the pain he caused. He had complete control over me--my state of mind, my sense of self, my arousal, my emotional needs--and as much as it hurt me, it was intimate like nothing else, it turned me on. The sex was amazing because of that. That relationship truly brainwashed me.

QQueenie · 2020-12-25T03:16:04+00:00

Oof, I’m going to need to read this a few times. Truth is hard.

vmuzondi · 2020-12-25T02:44:32+00:00

It's "positive" (in that case)? Lol

rjweingar · 2020-12-24T23:16:36+00:00

Idk the most toxic dude I've banged had trash dick, but the mid-toxic guy had FIRE D 💥💥💥

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