Petulant vulnerability. A newly coined term, it seems, to describe the behaviour of emotionally manipulative men.

coldfoot23 · 2022-01-24T18:43:36+00:00

This is why men think women are being manipulative when they cry bc they’re projecting.

Fun_Sherbet · 2022-01-24T20:00:57+00:00

lundy bancroft talks about this exact thing -- that nearly all abusers in abuser recovery programs will weaponize their treatment and say whatever they need to say to appear like they've changed and have remorse - but the abusers' testimonies rarely line up with the testimonies of their female partners!

aquietsword · 2022-01-24T20:06:47+00:00

Wow. This makes so much sense. I've always wondered why so many men throw a tantrum online about how they were "vulnerable" and it got them nowhere in a relationship. It makes so much more sense when you realize it's because they see the whole exchange as transactional. Which wouldn't even cross our MINDS because how often are we vulnerable with men who just gives us a "that sucks" and a subject change? So. Often. They're so fragile that they honestly can't handle a fraction of what women just see as normal.

sleepysiri · 2022-01-24T20:53:57+00:00

this is pretty much what happened when women asked men to fix the problems they caused by creating the patriarchy and they decided to paint their nails and cry more. like, men crying more is not the amazing thing they think it is. women are still dying at the hands of your bros.

whiskey_and_oreos · 2022-01-24T18:52:23+00:00

Calling it petulant vulnerability is just chef's kiss. It's so accurate.

I love that these discussions are happening in places like TikTok. Sis came armed with receipts and I don't know a single woman who can't relate to any of the examples given about this behavior. Men really seem to think vulnerability is transactional and they've weaponized it.

Apprehensive_Ad_7917 · 2022-01-24T19:04:51+00:00

This is great but be careful sharing directly from TikTok. We can see your username there!

starlight_sequence · 2022-01-24T22:15:45+00:00

The rise of the “Mr. Sensitive” abuser.

DoversBlue · 2022-01-24T18:53:31+00:00

Link to the article referred to: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/01/13/opinion/toxic-masculinity.amp.html

Antique_Fortune6974 · 2022-01-25T01:02:34+00:00

I just came to the realization that men will use anything to weaponize... Even something as simply as one word,like "thank you". To shut you up and dismiss what you say for example... I could go on.

2022-01-24T19:26:13+00:00

I wish I had this term when I was dating a porn addict. This was exactly the perfect description of his manipulation and abuse tactics. So glad women are becoming more and more aware of these kinds of strategies.

2022-01-25T03:47:39+00:00

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Title	Petulant vulnerability. A newly coined term, it seems, to describe the behaviour of emotionally manipulative men.
Author	DoversBlue
Upvotes	282
Comments	24
Date	January 24, 2022 6:37 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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