On being "marriage material."

Blake55 · 2014-06-26T00:52:06+00:00

"You're marriage material"

---translate---

You can be relied on to be there. You have limited options. You give no tingles. You might be a good provider one day. That special girl is currently on the carousel at the moment, and she will find you when her options dry up too.

IllimitableMan · 2014-06-26T02:11:53+00:00

If I was "marriage material," and marriage should include sex then why not "sex material" too?

Well you see, most marriages consist of dead bedrooms or once a week/month duty sex. That's the unspoken but implied caveat, that marriage material means you are sexually serviced beneath your actual requirements in return for providing and not because you are actually sexually desired by the woman who gives you trickle pussy.

Now a woman being marriage material on the other hand conveys a completely different meaning.

The irony in a woman telling you you're marriage material is that it's women who have to lock down men into marriage as it serves their need to attach themselves to a man and derive commitment/security from that man in the first place, so telling a man he's marriage material is kind of a way of saying "you'll be no challenge to shackle, and you'll be good enough to be useful whilst you're at it."

The ultimate under-the-radar insult in my opinion, one that often isn't even consciously meant as an insult. In a different era it was a compliment, but not in this one. Use it as an unintended barometer of your SMV. If women are calling you an asshole saying they would never want to take you home to meet their parents, you're on the right lines. Fucked up how counterintuitive dealing with women is but eh, women are where logic goes to die.

trajanconquers89 · 2014-06-25T23:11:53+00:00

In another time, this might have been a good thing for you, but with the break down of society here in the West, people like you unfortunately get passed up.

'gina tingles > stable, healthy society

2014-06-26T00:07:19+00:00

Well done sir. Take it a little further and you will begin to realize that the male equivalent is calling a woman "a great cum dumpster."

PragmaticD · 2014-06-25T22:29:57+00:00

The link in the side bar called "Michael's Story" goes into this.

erqos · 2014-06-25T23:14:54+00:00

I used to get that a lot and my response was pretty weak.

Today I just agree and amplify:

"Thanks. You'll make a great housewife"

If it comes from a woman my age:

"I think you'll make a great husband as well"

exit_sandman · 2014-06-26T01:25:07+00:00

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Overkillengine · 2014-06-26T05:45:45+00:00

Just smile and say: "I'm sure I'll be busy making some young lady very happy!"

Ormild · 2014-06-26T07:23:57+00:00

I've never been told I'm marriage material, but a coworker once said, "You're the type of guy girls date after they are done dating the assholes." I'm sure she meant it as a compliment, but even before I discovered TRP I knew that the comment fucking sucked. It messed with my head for a few weeks after I heard that.

popthatpill · 2014-06-25T22:22:00+00:00

Probably the greatest public service redpillers can perform is hammering this explanation of what "marriage material" really means into the public consciousness (in particular, men under 40).

(This would have the side benefit of getting the rest of society to hate us even more than they already do, lol)

tallwheel · 2014-06-26T02:02:40+00:00

marriage material = beta provider material

30303030303030 · 2014-06-26T03:15:37+00:00

Very true, men need to remember that being a "marriage material" means kiss on the cheek after few wine and dines while "lover" or "asshole" gets his dick sucked after the first "date".

I too once thought it was a good thing, to be called that. It isn't. Almost "you are such a nice guy". You get absolutely nothing for it but blue balls.

1NV0K3R · 2014-06-26T14:07:12+00:00

I've had this said to me before. I usually respond with something along the lines of "Marriage material? Last time I checked, I was going to get married to [some age significantly lower than theirs]."

This usually get's them pretty upset.

HeadingRed · 2014-06-25T21:46:04+00:00

I used to get that a lot. Didn't figure out until I was about 30 what that really meant.

loin_fruit · 2014-06-26T06:21:15+00:00

Was told by plate that I'm not long term relationship material after I fucked the shit out of her.

I'm slowly swallowing the pill.

2014-06-26T04:16:59+00:00

I've never been called marriage material. Being a 22 year old unemployed college bum has its advantages.

Liftitrealgood · 2014-06-25T22:15:06+00:00

Marriage material is like the term for pawning you off on her poor sad barely functional friend. "ooohhhh you'll like him, he's marriage material!"

2014-06-26T10:50:53+00:00

Yup! Been there done that.

In high school all the mothers wanted their daughters to date me, but their daughters wanted nothing to do with me except for Let's Just Be Friends and I love you like a brother and I like you, but not like that. Of course as the worst version of AFC I was proud of it.

And then it continued into adulthood, I liked to be referred to as Marriage Material thinking that I could have my pick of the litter, but reality was quite different.

PUA/Seduction saved my life, TRP is taking it to the next level.

Take the Red Pill, life will never be the same.

2014-06-26T01:22:28+00:00

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CapitalG · 2014-06-26T02:25:20+00:00

Can't tell you how many times I've been told this. This offers an incredible amount of perspective. Well done.

2014-06-26T04:28:38+00:00

This is why I tend to be an asshole to the few girls I know. Maybe I won't get in their pants but I sure as hell won't be their shoulder to cry on.

Hayek_ · 2014-06-26T04:12:57+00:00

Question for OP:

Was it your career success, beta demeanor (no insult indented), or something else? I'm curious when and how this becomes a thing.

ccoorryy · 2014-06-26T16:49:20+00:00

I have had the same realization, but with if "we are a 30, and both single then we should get married".

Occams_Shiv · 2014-06-26T08:49:18+00:00

The next time a girl tells you are mariage material, you can say:

"Wow what a coincidence! I was just thinking you are really great whore material." It's so great we're such good friends that we can be honest.

or

"You're the type of guy girls look forward to marrying"

A: "Wow! That's amazing. You're the type of girl guys look forward to fucking and never calling again."

"I guess that's why we never got together."

NOT_MEEHAN · 2014-06-26T01:30:49+00:00

I once had a girl stop seeing me because she said, "you're out of my league." I tried to tell her that status doesn't matter to me about you because I don't need you I just want you. She was looking for a guy who needed her. Plenty of blue pillers out there for her but, man is she missing out.

It was sort of the same thing, I'll always be reliable and attracted but, I'm totally not.

TangoAlphaBravo · 2014-06-25T22:24:14+00:00

Very good reflexion, a big part of this game is figuring out semantics

emein · 2014-06-26T05:13:55+00:00

The carousel doesn't have to stop for either of you guys. Swinging bubba

CarlsPudding · 2014-06-26T03:17:09+00:00

Yuuuuupppp.... Join the fucking club, man.

boscoist · 2014-06-26T12:56:47+00:00

I am here as a girl who is curious to know what this sub is about. So here is why I dont understand why you are so disgruntled about your interpretation of being marriage material, and if you disagree please kindly explain. It has been shown that men like busty and blonde women more for having sex with, and they like more petite brunette women for getting married . I think in their mind busty and blonde signals 'fun loving but untrustworthy', and brunette and petite signals 'sophisticated and trustworthy'. So why cant women also have the same thing with men? What is wrong with that? A girl telling you that you are marriage material means that you are not only attractive, but also seem sophisticated and trustworthy. Also you say that women want you to be their provider. I dont think there are many women left in this day and age who think of men as providers. Women are rising fast in the workforce and actually unmarried women in their 20s are earning more than men.

babybelly · 2014-06-26T15:43:05+00:00

i hate to say it but marriage is probably outdated taking entitlement and male biology into account

VoyPerdiendo1 · 2014-06-26T11:19:54+00:00

a guy that could fuck any girl he wants but doesn't because he's chosen her

Get rid of this romantic bullshit. No offence op, just a blindside you have. Stop thinking like that. BP remnants if I'm not in the wrong. If I am, disregard :)

Title	On being "marriage material."
Author	pjewa
Upvotes	316
Comments	123
Date	June 25, 2014 9:29 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
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