Seriously, the dudes in TRP that actually spin plates (all 6 of them), how the fuck do they do it?

I'm not a player, the most i did was to briefly date a couple of women at the same time and everytime i did something akin to "Spinnin Pl8zzzz" it was always AWKWARD as fuck. First things first, virtually always someone catches feelings for the other. Even if you're explaining from the very beggining it's only sex or if you try to "Hold Frame™" and imply that it's a casual relationship, one of the parties always catches feelings, which leads to a lot of awkward moments. Just last night i spoke to this girl i was seeing since march telling her for a SECOND TIME that i did not want a relationship and she preety much started crying and saying she feels empty since we stopped, saying she still has hopes, and i'm listening to all of that and feeling really BAD for her, guilty even for no reciprocating her. Mind you this was the SECOND TIME we had this convo, with the first time being quite identical. Scenarios like this always happen. And It KILLS me inside to hurt someone like that.

And it's not just that, i myself also found that i catch feelings to some degree if i sleep with someone for an extended timeframe. I guess it's just a brain conditioning, the more you have sex with someone, the more chemicals in your brain start making you bond to the person after a certain period of time, leaving me ALL CONFUSED. If i start seeing some other girl while seeing someone else, i can't help it but also feel like i'm cheating on someone, even tho i'm not and i'm not even doing anything wrong.

The only way i see "spinning plates" as an actual doable thing is if you're sleeping with someone once or twice and ditch them before any sort of relationships starts taking form but EVEN THEN IT'S AWKWARD. Most of the time i have a Same night lay or something, i can't help it but to feel like i used the girl a bit. After it's done you see in the woman's eye that she has mixed feelings about what just happent and kinda regrets it even if it was a good lay and she wanted it from the beggining. I'm not even going to comment on what happens if you see someone you had a same night lay with in public.

So my point is: SPINNING PLATES IS A FANTASY. TRPers have this weird conception where you can have an harem of your own and it's all good, women just have sex with you and are kay with sharing you and go their way. There's no drama, no feelings involved. And that's just a plain LIE. It doesn't work that way at ALL for the little i could see.