Hi Seddit!

I've been lurking here for too long and while I've been making subtle (and some accidental) approaches while drunk, I've actually never made a cold approach during the day.

Earlier today I was at the gym with two other friends. Super confident with my newly cut hair. Saw this solid HB8 brunette working there, smiled and said hi to her whilst waiting a few minutes for my friend on the treadmill. I'm thinking: "I'm at home super confident saying to myself that there is nothing easier than to approach a random stranger and give them a compliment, why am I so nervous now?!". AA kicks in big time and my heart starts beating faster. A few minutes later she goes back to what I think was a supply room on the way towards the second floor where the weights are.

Fuck it. I'm doing it. Look in to her eyes. Smile. You're the king of the world. It's go time.

Me: Hi. I would regret not talking to you. I think you are cute.

She smiled or said thanks or something, can't really remember.

Shook hands, exchanged names. I repeated hers (THANK YOU MYSELF, super good advice for people who forget names easily). I asked her if she worked there often, since I haven't seen her there before. She told me she actually was the manager of that gym, but since I often work out at 22.00~02.00 (10 PM -> 02 AM) I don't often see people working there. Staff is only there between 16-19 (4-7 pm) 4 days a week. I should have negged her in a funny way "wow, do I get the pleasure of talking to the big manager".

She said she was 22. I asked her how old she thought I was. Good work me! It made the conversation sooo much more smooth and funny. She guessed 25 and I played a little with her "a liiiittle lower". When I told her my age she said: "Wow you are not old!".

Sorry if this is incoherent, I can't really recall the whole conversation. But I felt we had good energy and I asked her if she wanted to go take a coffee sometime. She was smiling and somewhat blushing. She didn't say anything. I responded playfully with "hmmmm, okay let's think of excuses why you can't. You have a boyfriend aaaaand unfortunately you are super busy!". Boom, was super efficient, she thought it was funny and replied with "I actually do have a boyfriend..". (Might have been a shit test). My response was "you know pretty girls are allowed to have two ;)". "Ohhh haha, in what bible does it say that?". "Haven't you read the universal book of rules?".

The interaction ends with her asking what my name was again and says "Let's do it.. maybe. I will look you up in the system ;)". I noticed she was interested. I laughed and called her out on checking my personal info. I went to take a swim with my friends but I noticed she messaged me on facebook (nooo! # < fb) almost instantly. Haven't read it. Quite interesting as she only had my first name, looked me up in her computer system and found me on FB (I have a quite common name).

Reading through my own post gives me the impression that I was quite needy, but I wasn't. 10-15 seconds into the conversation I was super confident and talking like I was the boss.

Things I'm proud of:

  • Doing an approach.

  • Doing a cold approach. Damn even if I was going to be rejected, I'd be super proud.

  • I looked deeply into her brown eyes during the whole conversation (It gave me so much power in the interaction. Try it. It's crazy.)

  • I was talking slowly and confident

Things I should have done better:

  • When I was walking away I should have taken her number!

TLDR: Overcame AA for the first time in my life during day game. She had a bf but she looked me up and contacted me on facebook.

Update:

I'm beginning to thinik I'm being played with. Not sure I'm just being paranoid.

She read my message the same night as I sent it, but she hasn't answered it yet. The thing is that I was contacted by a girl who had previously seduced me (like 6 months ago), the day after my interaction. We haven't really talked since, but we have seen eachother a time or two in the local supermarket. The creepy thing is that she is the only mutual friend with HB8 on facebook and she's being super on. On the other side, HB8 seems to be a type of person who has a million friends. My first thought was that her friend asked the seductress if she would test me out or something. I don't know. Perhaps it's just a coincidence.

Oh and by the way, HB8 is single according to facebook, hence it was a shit test. I'm going to go work out in 3-4 hours or so, perhaps she'll work there and I'll try to seduce her.

My question to you is: If she's not there, should I contact her in any other way or should I just let it go? Right now our conversation is at this.

Update 2

Was there, saw her, negged here a little on the terribly obvious boyfriend lie. But it felt she kind of used it to say "I'm not interested" or it could be because she already said it, she wanted to hold on to it because of embaressness, much like a child is never wrong ("I totally wanted this read this magazine. I totally didn't want the toy that came with it!") .

Said good bye when I left casually, she responded casually. Pretty much it. Better luck next time!