The sad reality of dating low-value men, who will make a woman’s home life miserable

Sage_Planter · 2021-08-22T03:12:43+00:00

My NVM was like this. Either I was a "nag," or I had to just accept whatever needed to get done was my responsibility.

When I kicked him out of my house, I felt relief and peace. Life felt easier when he was gone. Were there still dishes in the sick? Sure. But they were my dishes from my meals, and I got to them when I wanted. There was no longer this resentment of feeling when I was constantly cleaning up after someone else.

shockingupdate · 2021-08-22T04:12:24+00:00

Some LVM are smart enough to whip out weaponized incompetence after months of seemingly good, high-value behavior, but when the mask falls off, you see this shit for what it is. Dated a guy who tripped over himself to wash the dishes and sweep the floor for the first month, but after he asked for us to be exclusive, suddenly he needed to be told what to do for any and all household tasks. Suddenly he can’t possibly imagine that washing the dishes in my apartment is exactly the same as washing the dishes at his! How could he, when my detergent LoOkS DiFFeRent from the one he uses!

The moment he shifts from competent, adult human to swooning, forgetful child, you’ve finally met the real him and can now escape accordingly.

huevos_and_whiskey · 2021-08-22T04:13:38+00:00

It will be done badly and late. Even if the timeline was their idea. Even if other important things are contingent on it. And don’t you dare bring up the fact that they said they’d do it by whatever time, or that other plans fell apart because of it, they’ll just start shouting about how they did the thing, even though it was half-assed and the whole point of doing it at all was rendered futile because everything else riding on it fell through. Future faking and malicious compliance make for one hell of a combination.

You cannot be in a partnership with people like this. It’s not a partnership. Just walk away at the first sign.

yoursultana · 2021-08-22T01:52:45+00:00

Not narcissists. Men do this. Lmfao like the average man does this constantly. People need to stop throwing the word narc around.

Thattonertho · 2021-08-22T01:49:56+00:00

And this is why I'll never live with a man again.

Painfulmenstruation · 2021-08-22T05:02:03+00:00

My NVX was like this. He used to always “accidentally” break things when doing household tasks he didn’t like.

ashcantcatchabreak · 2021-08-22T15:07:14+00:00

Yeah average men do this, not just narcissists

SpiteTomatoes · 2021-08-22T01:59:47+00:00

As a closer at a restaurant... Apparently, I work with a bunch of narcissists.

hopeful_flounder93 · 2021-08-23T15:01:17+00:00

Dang ladies, I've got to be honest, I'm starting to think I'd like to live apart from any man I date ever, because I just CANNOT be arsed dealing with this shite.

Read near the start of the pandemic that 3% of men share chores and childcare equally. 3 PERCENT. Too goddamn stupid to load a dishwasher but smart enough to proclaim themselves the logical sex? How have we enabled this fuckery

LateDiagnosedAutie · 2021-08-22T10:07:21+00:00

WTF!

Title	The sad reality of dating low-value men, who will make a woman’s home life miserable
Author	Serious_Papaya8615
Upvotes	434
Comments	18
Date	August 21, 2021 10:33 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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