My Observation: M*n who glorify low maintenance women are always the first to leave you for the same women they claim to hate. Being called high maintenance is always a compliment to me, like yes, I enjoy taking care of myself. You should too 🌸

ChixCzech · 2020-03-25T07:50:45+00:00

They will also simultaneously tell women to take care of themselves but complain about makeup, nails, hair etc being fake and when we take "too long" to get ready. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. Less than perfect nails? Gross cow who doesn't care about her appearance. Perfect nails? High maintenance and fake.

GRCA · 2020-03-25T01:57:29+00:00

The biggest pitfall of being a low-maintenance cool girl is that his effort and consideration will just keep decreasing over time until it finally wears you thin. It might take months, it might take years, but it will happen eventually.

And when you try to introduce the most basic standards or expectations at this point, his spoiled, stubborn ass will just ignore you.

Try again, and he’ll throw up his hands in exasperation like you’re asking him for the moon.

Being a cool girl is thankless, and there is no such thing as “cool girl credit.” No matter how much shit you let slide, he’ll just resent it all the more that one time you call him out on it.

Yianna_F · 2020-03-24T23:29:08+00:00

"High maintenance" (as seen or accused to be by men) = high standards, high quality, high self-esteem, high self-respect, in other words, High Value Woman

nosynobody · 2020-03-25T02:06:12+00:00

I completely agree. I used to think this was a compliment till I realised it was not. I might get flack for this but if you are "difficult to love" you know the people who stick around actually love you.

People who put in consistent effort into the relationship are the ones who stay. That's why the woman playing mommy/wife to the manchild cooking and cleaning has difficulty leaving while the dude who plays videogames and forgets his GFS birthday does not have difficulty cheating bor leaving.

DelicateDream · 2020-03-25T06:49:31+00:00

“High maintenance” is a neg. They’re insulting you to try and get you to lower your standards because that’s the only way they’d ever have a chance with you.

coolestgirlyoueverme · 2020-03-25T13:00:46+00:00

Yeah, I also noticed that the qualities in woman that men say they like are often NOT what they choose and persue. It's like they aren't fully aware of what they actually want or are lying.

Pleasant-Complaint · 2020-03-25T07:49:24+00:00

Tbh, the whole concept of "maintenance" insults me. I am not a machine to be kept in working order; I'm a human. The fact that this high/low maintenance shit became so well-spread only shows how much women have been commodified.

But yes, I do agree with the sentiment here.

Dismal-Storm · 2020-03-25T08:19:55+00:00

I think there is a lot of middle ground between high and low maintenance. Also high maintenance does not equal high standards. example: a girl who demands that her lvm boyfriend pays for lavish vacations and expensive gifts but who stays with a cheater with bad body hygiene. I don't think being high maintenance is bad per se, but I don't only see it as a defining or positive trait either.

helena939392 · 2020-03-25T15:34:26+00:00

Actually a very accurate observation. My NVM was glorifying me about not being a "shallow bimbo and like the other girls". I had hobbies, a good job, a uni degree and loads of savings. I'm also pretty, in the natural way. I didn't spend money on stupid things. I was a good choice to bring home and ofc approved by his mother. He said I was wife material and that he wanted to marry me. Then he cheated on me with a small town beautician, with peroxide blonde hair, fake nails, fake lashes and no education. Among other girls. Like his ex who was also his baby mama, an uneducated single mom living on welfare. What a clown I was 🤡

throwaway23004345 · 2020-03-24T23:52:06+00:00

Did you guys see this post on twitter where this girl was sleeping in her tong and a guy posted it next to an ALDO bag? 😂😂😂 Like don’t wake me up unless it is a Chanel, ysl etc and then guys were like “ungrateful” and I’m like you want me to get excited over $50 shoes 😂😂

youcantucan · 2020-03-24T23:29:17+00:00

Yes, this is why married men used to love me.

2020-03-24T22:43:31+00:00

PREACH SISTER. ❤️🙌🏼

12sushi · 2020-03-25T18:23:03+00:00

People who never had anything don't even know what are they missing they just adapt.

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