False allegations from women need to be taken seriously like any other crime. I was falsely accused of drugging a girl without her consent and then raping her. Everybody believed her, and it drives me nuts that this still happens.

HeismanLock · 2021-09-15T12:59:56+00:00

Damn. So police never got involved.

I would mention that part to everyone. Like, tell her to go to the police if it’s true. She won’t bc it’s not true. And show the texts.

KneeDeepThought · 2021-09-15T13:32:43+00:00

Women don't get prosecuted for false allegations because any DA or judge who dares to entertain such a case can kiss their career goodbye. The sisterhood just circles the wagons and claims they're persecuting victims and that person is OUT. The politicians just claim it would have a "chilling effect" on other victims coming forward so it's justified in the bigger picture that this woman's crime go unpunished.

Zipdox · 2021-09-15T14:15:50+00:00

I'd have filed a cease and desist letter right away, informing her that slander is a violation of the law and you can, and will sue for damages if she does not issue a public apology. Also add that you have evidence to counter her claims.

EnvironmentalWar4627 · 2021-09-15T12:02:28+00:00

Much like rape, false allegations are incredibly difficult to prove. It's often he said vs she said in private. Obviously neither party can go to jail in the majority of those cases which is why people just believe who they want to believe.

alclarkey · 2021-09-15T20:25:25+00:00

You were drinking and partying with another girl while you had a GF? Not the smoothest of moves bro.

VincentZ6 · 2021-09-15T13:08:17+00:00

Best way to avoid false allegations is to avoid women unless in a public place with cameras or your state allows you to record someone in your own home. Relationships feel like a whole other animal in current times. You never know when they'll turn given the incentives they receive in turn ranging from attention (almost always everyone supports the woman even if she is lying or the problem), money to in some messed up cases pleasure at ruining your life.

Swingstar731 · 2021-09-15T21:33:13+00:00

I'm in the same situation and I'm so confused... Is it that people don't care about false accusations or is it that they don't care about me? Everyone just turned their backs on me and le my life fall apart and it's like no matter how much I write about it its just in one ear out the other with people

Qdragon1369 · 2021-09-15T14:03:41+00:00

Alcohol and benzos usually cause blackouts,

Either way, She had every intention of getting drunk as fuck and high with you and having sex with you.

You had 110% intention of cheating on your girlfriend or you wouldn’t have planned to get drunk and use benzos with a girl somewhere privately.

Your both in the wrong here.

Rape? No.

Stupid ? Both of you.

greenhawk63 · 2021-09-15T20:56:49+00:00

Innocent until proven guilty clearly isn’t a thing anymore.

cuteman · 2021-09-15T22:45:53+00:00

Just remember!

False accusations are rare!

... Because they rarely get charged let alone prosecuted!

GltyUntlPrvnInncnt · 2021-09-15T15:54:53+00:00

It's crazy how many feminists think that every accusation of rape is true, because women have no reason to lie.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-09-15T21:17:34+00:00

It's a very dangerous environment for men. Apparently false accusations happy SO OFTEN but it's almost never reported.

My OWN WIFE accused me of rape (got criminally charged) during our custody dispute. No proof, just her testimony. I, on the other hand, had photos and texts of her saying "love you" to me but I still had to go to trial.

I estimate 90% of rape accusations as being false, but nobody dares to speak of it unless they're willing to lose their jobs.

I have met countless husbands who have said they have been falsely accused of rape as well during custody/divorce proceedings in order to gain a huge advantage in family court.

805falcon · 2021-09-15T17:56:35+00:00

Bro, I was falsely accused of physically and mentally abusing my child, which included multiple reports filed with Child Protective Services. Allegations included punching my kid in the face (like seriously, WTF?). I was accused of being a raging drug addict and dangerously neglectful as a dad. Never mind that I take being a father very seriously and love my child with everything I have. All of this was in an attempt to take custody away from me and force me to pay large amounts of support.

Well, we went to court and had a grueling trial that lasted several weeks. The outcome? I won. What did I win? I won the ability to maintain my rights as a father. I also won the chance to spend thousands in attorneys fees to protect myself. But here’s the real kicker: nothing changed. Had I lost, everybody’s life would have been uprooted including my child. And I’d still be stuck with those attorneys fees, trial fees, etc, all while paying massive support.

But because she lost, guess what? Nothing happened to her. She gets to go on living as if nothing happened, and I’m forced to move forward like nothing happened while co-parenting with the woman who attempted to destroy my life and take my child away.

The fact that these women can carry on with no consequences for their heinously false allegations is a massive stain on our society and it will never stop until some repercussions are established for telling lies.

It’s a disgusting state of affairs. My advice: don’t get married.

BlackBoxInquiry · 2021-09-15T14:37:40+00:00

#NoMorePP #EqualRightMeansEqualPunishment

RoryTate · 2021-09-15T15:28:00+00:00

There is a crucial part of the "Believe all women" mantra that is not said, but that you absolutely need to consider. Here's what is actually being spoken in full:

Believe all women. Don't trust men.

The second part is of course unspoken, but it's there regardless. Society has been conditioned to not trust anyone born male, and that is essentially what you are fighting against. If you ever find yourself confused why many crybullies claim that: "No one believes me just because I'm a woman", in spite of all the immediate support they receive and the obvious reality otherwise, it's because they are projecting their complete distrust of men onto everyone else. It feels natural to them to think of every man as dishonest, deceptive, and a potential threat, and through the phenomenon of projection they believe that all men must feel the same way about all women. When someone makes sweeping, generalized claims about how everyone else views the world and sees the people around them, it's very likely that they are just telling you their own attitudes about those things, rather than giving you genuine insight into how the world operates.

For those of us who take a more evidence-based approach to any important question, where we consider accusations seriously by patiently trying to sus out the truth, this general attitude of immediately jumping to conclusions is hard for us to understand. Again, because we project our own logical approach onto others. However, once you can learn to recognize this highly emotional and ignorant behaviour, situations like yours become easier to avoid and deal with.

I made a detailed post on this subject a year ago on this sub, if you're interested in exploring further how the two statements "Believe all women" and "Don't trust men" are conjoined – whenever one is said, the other can be presumed – and are basically equivalent to each other.

ronj89 · 2021-09-16T02:35:29+00:00

If they had to serve the same sentence that the alleged perpetrator would serve, this garbage would end tomorrow.

pfizerface · 2021-09-15T12:43:08+00:00

Yes very dangerous behaviour from her. Even though you cheated, it doesn't justify her false allegations.

It's like she got out of jail card whilst throwing you under the bus

Glum-One816 · 2021-09-15T14:52:26+00:00

I was in your trueoffyourchest and I'm sorry about your experience. She needs to be in jail now. You don't deserve it at all. And, yes women need to be taken seriously about this issue. Furthermore I have to comment this u/Warm-Distribution375.. She just denying the falsely accuser and go for the female victim side.

Glum-Pen-728 · 2021-09-15T12:12:38+00:00

sounds like a bill cosby story.

Women only come over to MY place with booze if they want to fuck too. She knew exactly what she was doing.

She's a danger to your life. She clearly wanted to fuck you, because that's how women do. Once you're hooked with one, the others want you. There's some kind of molecular odor guys give off when they're in a relationship. And it makes bitches crazy.

Burntchildrens · 2021-09-15T15:35:51+00:00

Had a very similar situation happen to my but thankfully I had multiple eye witnesses of her drunk ass throwing herself at me repeatedly. I had no idea she even stared saying that, the only way I found out was some kid driving by me and screaming “fucking rapist” out of the window.

SaphirePrincess · 2021-09-16T02:04:21+00:00

Since it's almost impossible for false accusations (in general and not just rape) to ever carry the same sentence as the actual crime, let alone the difficulty of making those ideas into laws may I suggest an alternative?

Since the law is so fond of putting people on lists make a 'false accuser' list. A list to report or put those reports for those with a history of 'crying wolf' and have a more credible claim to those being accused. It may not be as satisfying as a jail sentence but long-term more effective defense and giving men some safety against this. As a side benefit it would also make it really easy to check to see if the girl you want to start a relationship with has a history of false accusation.

Hang in there OP. The truth always comes out.

coercedaccount2 · 2021-09-16T20:02:12+00:00

Women stick together, Men don't. Men have sympathy for women. Women do not have sympathy for men. We'd better start adopting their tactics.

michaelpaoli · 2021-09-15T13:43:47+00:00

Save the evidence. Can legally fight false allegations. Get a lawyer/attorney.

Good luck!

Southerndude62 · 2021-09-15T14:25:18+00:00

Sue her for emotional trauma. The laws in America are quite strong for this.

HolaFromElOtterSlide · 2021-09-15T17:49:48+00:00

So there's a big argument to this I keep seeing that "A person with multiple credible sexual assault allegations became president and a other got off scott free"

Those are rich bastards, don't compare them to normal everyday folk. A rich man who would sell you and your family for $100 a soul and get away with it would in a heart beat, a rich sack a shit would argue people don't deserve food, water, or shelter to include clothing, that such a thing isn't a human right.

These disgustingly rich fucks, "the patriarchy" doesn't represent anyone but themselves, and don't misconstrue that as to say All Men are bastards, all men get away with sexual assault and rape claims. That's horse shit.

Before legal action is taken, even if it's ever actually done, before filing with HR, before documenting any evidence...

All it takes is the rumor, said once, to one person, and once that rumor mill starts churning, the Alleged Perpetrator is already being destroyed. White knights, flying monkeys, and people who don't want to be associated will cast down apon this person with some pseudo righteous vitriol, they might be fired, they will lose friends, family, and their social life. They will lose their job, they will be assailed constantly.

And after the smoke clears, whether proven innocent, even get an outright admittance to the false claim, or without any action ever actually attempted that person will still be ostracized. They wont get back they're friends, relationships with family will be strained, work will never be the same if they kept their job, and everything they lost, including sanity, will never be returned or repaid.

A rich man will buy his way out of murder.

The average man will have to claw his way to an unneeded redemption.

False rape claims hurt the alleged, they hurt their family, and they hurt actual sexual assault victims, preventing them from coming out.

And the perpetrators almost never see retribution or punishment for it.

MagastemBR · 2021-09-15T19:32:58+00:00

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MonserratLoyola · 2021-09-16T01:19:43+00:00

I dont know how people can enjoy benzos, since you cant remenber shit.

maskednil · 2021-09-16T04:13:30+00:00

I don't wish her any ill will

That's the problem. They know that even their victims will try to be chivalrous and not turn vengeful on them. I once had a mentor in my 1st job who I think had a crush on me. Always staring at me, bumping her hips against me, letting me drink from her water bottle. I enjoyed her company but did not see her in a romantic way. Later, when she had become an assistant manager and was getting into the office politics, she did not "have" time for me, but would frequently be seen with other higher ups, especially the males. Became rude to me one day too. I stopped all contact that day with full ill will on her life. She apologized to me later and I told her my anger will be with me until the day I die, but I'm will to still be friends. So we carried on for a while. Then one day she replied back to my email asking her to hang out that she doesn't see why she must waste time with me and asked me what do I actually want? She had also started dating a manager, and ended her cutesy attitude with me. Big red flag.

So I immediately shoot off an email thanking her for her friendship and mentorship and that I will not disturb her anymore. The ill will was 100% on. All future interactions I had with her only dealt with the matter at hand and was always preceded with the most formal of emails. No small talk, no friendly banter, no alone time. Full of ill will, but with a mock civility. Like she and I both knew that I was suspicious of her and had all my guard up. Whether she liked it or not. Whether she had remorse or not is not my problem, but I do hope that she realized the BS she pulled had consequences.

Very_Cool_Man · 2021-09-16T05:41:52+00:00

the same thing happened to my friend, not as serious though

akzhol1 · 2021-09-16T08:55:17+00:00

Aren't benzos illegal if not prescribed? Wtf

Big_Shot12 · 2021-10-03T00:35:20+00:00

People here trust you

Big-Result-3160 · 2021-09-15T17:11:46+00:00

How do you know it is a fake.

hunnerbunner2000 · 2021-09-15T20:05:39+00:00

Just like saying that a girl in a short skirt is asking to be raped, drinking with a girl is asking to be falsely accused. Unfortunately in the modern world the stakes are too high to simply enjoy the company of a woman.

MagastemBR · 2021-09-16T14:50:17+00:00

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