Harassment by ex

toooldforthisnonsens · 2021-09-17T14:32:31+00:00

Define boundaries, apply consequences. Until you do, you're a toy in her sandbox.

I told my ex, very plainly "we aren't friends anymore, you had an affair, you ended the marriage, go live the life you wanted and leave me alone."

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-09-17T14:57:03+00:00

In your parenting plan orders, have all communication go through Our Family Wizard. She has some type of personality disorder and must remain entangled with you. The only way to stop that is to set strict boundaries and enforce them.

If she texts or emails you, ignore it. They are never urgent. If she calls you, let it go to voicemail. Unless it's something urgent about the children that requires your immediate response (ie, they are in the ER), then you wait 24 hours to respond to her. If she comes by your residence, then don't open the door. If she sends you message in OFW that doesn't involve the children, then ignore it.

playerknowmore · 2021-09-17T16:26:51+00:00

I took a look at your profile, and as a layman I'm developing a a theory I'm calling "The Narcissist Picasso". Their actions hurt you; nearly destroyed you, and their narcissism is drawn to that pain. Like an artist admiring his greatest work.

This will continue as long as she knows it bothers you. The moment the hurt, pain and anger is gone; she will go with it. You have to stop feeding the beast. I believe apathy will be more powerful than a restraining order. If you get a restraining order; she will start to push boundaries with her flavor of the month and your children. Personally I'd rather my wife cheating on me than my children calling man dad.

She hurt you, but she didn't break you; two years later you are still here. Get a poker face, and drive her crazy with no fucks given. Hope this helps.

Feinixaway · 2021-09-17T17:22:17+00:00

First of all: she's your enemy, not your friend.

I told my ex that not just my house but my whole property is off limits for her. We do drop off and pick up and my son's school. I told her she's is not to interfere with my parenting time.

You have to be really firm and assertive or it's going to damage your relationship with your girlfriend. Women are protective and jealous.

Adorable_FecalSpray · 2021-09-17T15:14:49+00:00

Start telling her she must want your dick since she is coming around so often. Offer to sploooge on her face if she continues to come into your private property.

No, just kidding. Tell her to please leave your property. Lock your doors, don’t answer her. If she is actually harassing you call the police and tell them you asked the crazy homeless lady to leave and she won’t.

HelixFish · 2021-09-17T18:59:01+00:00

Change all your locks. Don’t give her a key.

henrysmyagent · 2021-09-17T19:24:19+00:00

"Honey, I can't miss you if you never leave."

But seriously, draw hard and bright boundaries for her. If she crisses them them apply for a restraining order.

She didnt respect you during the marriage so why would you expect her to respect you during the divorce?

pegleg_legal · 2021-09-20T02:46:14+00:00

Does she still use your mailing address? What could she possibly be coming by to pick up?

Title	Harassment by ex
Author	trampledrosetrampled
Upvotes	9
Comments	18
Date	September 17, 2021 2:03 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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