The truth.

c4944e830acd · 2021-10-08T22:43:16+00:00

100% agree on not marrying and combining finances.

Having children is a tough one ... if you want them, that's great, but you also have to recognize the severe risks that they create. I have three children, and my ex has weaponized them against me, made up false accusations against me, and so on.

Unfortunately I have to agree with not committing to women either. They statistically will leave you eventually, and it's just a matter of how long, and how badly you want to be screwed over.

Oh yeah, and don't forget about this little thing called "common law marriage." Look it up in your state, please.

WartimeDad · 2021-10-09T01:24:15+00:00

I’m currently in a tent with my kid and although my divorce was / is heinous, and brutal. My kid is the best thing that ever fucking happened to me and this is so so cool to be sharing something I love with my child. I don’t know the answer, but kids aren’t so bad.

Protomize · 2021-10-09T00:01:53+00:00

Totally agree. Thankfully, I can see my daughter despite her mother filing a restraining order against me with fake accusation that eventually got thrown out. Then she tried to keep me from our daughter by blocking communications with me. The court system thankfully saw through her BS, put me on child support and gave me the right to be a father. As ridiculous as that sounds. Sadly, not all fathers can enjoy the same fate. I absolutely love my daughter with all of my heart and she’s the only good thing that came out of my failed marriage. Marriage and anymore children is absolutely out of the question. I will never commit myself to a women who will be incentivized on my dime if she decides to bail. I don’t even want to date anymore because that opens up the possible risks of unplanned pregnancies, false rape accusations and wasted resources. Just me and my daughter from here on out.

mr_pro_con · 2021-10-09T02:38:00+00:00

Hear Hear. Out if dozens of couples I've met exactly 1 where the guy was happily married. Modernity strips away all the necessity leaving fickle emotions without limit.

akihonj · 2021-10-09T05:33:41+00:00

This is only what us mgtow have been saying for years now.

Brues · 2021-10-08T23:46:36+00:00

Good advice in todays world.

25_years · 2021-10-09T12:09:52+00:00

Do not combine finances with anyone.

Said another way, at least in my case, two drowning people is not an improvement over one drowning person.

disjt · 2021-10-08T23:30:52+00:00

For most men love is unconditional, permanent and without the need for reciprocity except in the physical sence. Men bond physically.

This REALLY resonates with me. Thank you for the validation. My marriage may have survived if my STBX understood this. Instead I was the weirdo/ sex freak because I wanted to have sex twice a week.

tbebestisyettocome · 2021-10-09T10:49:18+00:00

Can you expand on "men bond physically " ‽? I understand in theory, but is not the sexual act simply the route to the emotional? That is, women seem to think its all about the orgasm for men, but i think its the only way they know how to show / accept love.

warrior_up · 2021-10-09T21:56:53+00:00

Should be taught in schools, college course at least. Divorce rates and the potential risk, emotionally and financially are abundant enough to prove. Suicide rates amongst us must go down and that means living well, being financially fit and having a life that doesn’t involve living with constant emotional ptsd, lost kids and fathers not in the marital home. Is simply not a matter of if but when these days and sadly it’s almost factually impossible for me to show congrats to any man signing up to get ruined, marriage that will last only until his turn is over. Social media phones, thirsty men that have no boundaries, instill lust and temptation by the hundreds and if you’re not a social media elite addict like she is, you don’t even have the ability to know where to even start. Woman know that within a mice fart they’ll be onto the next, moving into the house and giving another man all those same Blow jobs she used to give you only dirtier - never to even think about you again other than another necessary resource. To see the stone cold face I once married not be able to muster up so much a tear while she watched and observes her kids live without their father changed me and hurt me in ways I didn’t know was possible

I’ve got a new girl too, she’s cool - but young and HIGhLY addicted to her phone and social media . There’s dozens of guys asking her out constantly as she makes posts for her business, she’s not responding to them and I can’t stop it nor be jealous at almost 40yrs old - I just know that 2 years in, exactly what’s coming around the corner - once she gets bored with the single dad she’s gone. She’ll never skip a beat. You can almost taste it once you’ve gone through it - either marry a fat hog, that’s deaf and blind or bang hotties here and there and get comfortable being alone - protect your hearts men, we are the ones that still love our exs even after what they did to us, sadly we still kinda think about the what if’s the how Could shes - just sad.

Kingofpain84 · 2021-10-09T00:32:58+00:00

TBH for me, at 36, I can’t imagine not sharing my life with someone. Not a friend, but a mate. Someone that I can wake up to and make coffee or tea for. Someone that can share all the ups and downs and knows my deepest thoughts. And I want to know someone that closely. Yeah, things happen and people get hurt, but I also know that I get stronger by having a person that can challenge me in ways that even the closest friend can’t

Fragrant-Paint-1572 · 2021-10-09T22:55:08+00:00

That’s a fact.

RaccoonGrowing · 2021-10-13T14:21:00+00:00

I am at the edge of divorce after 6 years of marriage and two kids (toddlers at the moment). I recognized my marriage’s issues through the time and spoke with my wife, but changes did last 3 weeks as much and then back as it was. We lost intimacy as it was and if I don’t look for it, she neither. I know we both love what we,ve accomplished and created, but non of us is really happy.

Noobie-Doo · 2021-10-09T11:54:09+00:00

It's as told from long ago... Women were created to compliment men. Women should be controlled and managed by men not allowed to do as they please, never hold positions of power or decision making and certainly not put on pedestals above men. But with technology, drugs, chemicals, brainwashing, low testosterone, men have become a shell of our former selves. Everything is run by women, weak arse men, fags, trannies and pedo's. As soon as a man stands up for himself he is instantly torn down by everyone around him. In the not to distant future it'll be taught in schools about this evil trait...masculinity to all the effeminate boys that are raised by single mothers..oh wait, too late.

Yeah women hold the reins backed by this horrible society. Don't marry, no cohabitation and the hardest one to miss out on... no children, unless you find a fake unicorn.

Mynewadventures · 2021-10-09T13:17:18+00:00

Looking through your history, there is no way that you have "learned through decades of being a psychiatrist and psycho therapist".

Say what you have got to say, but don't lie.

Everything you have written here is boilerplate MGTOW (which I have no problem with), but don't pretend to be original or an authority.

Feinixaway · 2021-10-09T22:43:41+00:00

Evolutionary psychology has proven beyond a shadow of a doubt that, for women, so called "romantic" love is conditional, transactional and transient.

I've been reading the subreddit https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/

Like other resources, it mentions "life long dating". Basically treat your partner/wife as you would a girlfriend.

Do you have any recommendations for long term relationships?

oldschool818 · 2021-10-11T12:25:21+00:00

This is the way.

The truth.

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Title	The truth.
Author	pvd183
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Date	October 8, 2021 10:08 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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