What if I don’t want a “traditional woman”?

Naus1987 · 2022-03-06T19:59:19+00:00

You’re not a beta for knowing what you want, and going for it. Ambition is an alpha characteristic. Not that I really like the labels, lol!

The important thing is knowing what you want, and working towards that goal. People are different. Your goals don’t have to be the same as others.

Double income, no kid couples tend to do really well. It’s mostly about finding a person who believes the same things you do.

When you recognize that you’re after a personality and not just a pretty face — you allow yourself to find much more compatible partners.

And finally, if you can break the mold and be different, then so can any other person, including women! Just gotta find your soulmate. The person who matches your energy and passions.

Again, don’t get hung up on lust, sex, or looks. Go for personality, goals, ambition, curiousity. You want someone who meshes well with you!

you got this, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. Stay firm in what you believe in, and you’ll never be a beta. You’ll always be your own man.

Carloverguy20 · 2022-03-06T20:58:26+00:00

This is a huge issue in many conservative type of societies, where the man is shamed because "he is supposed to be the man of the house."

I do hate how if both spouses work, or if the man stays at home while the woman makes lots of money is stigmatized. It's dumb, outdated and stupid.

We don't live in those times anymore where 1 income can support everyone.

Sea_Marzipan_6158 · 2022-03-06T21:03:56+00:00

The strongest men I know, are those who support and encourage a strong woman. They're secure in themselves and their own masculinity that they're not intimidated by a strong successful woman. It's one of the things I loved most about my husband.

EveryStrategy4918 · 2022-03-06T20:34:25+00:00

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Rimavelle · 2022-03-06T22:11:00+00:00

The old system worked coz men could support entire family on one wage, and women had whole days worth of housework. Now two people have a problem to support their family, and housework is less complicated (better house devices, cleaning products, smaller houses etc).

Supporting the old system is just something people do coz "that's what should be done" for no real life reason.

dumsaint · 2022-03-07T05:54:48+00:00

We're not wolves. Alpha. Beta. Gamma. Sigma balls. Wtf are men on? Weak-willed and allowing sociopaths to determine their futures!

azucarleta · 2022-03-06T19:47:24+00:00

I really wish I had inherited some beautiful, sacred traditions from my ancestors.

But instead all I got was this fucking patriarchy.

Opt out. Right on dude.

live_long_n_prosper · 2022-03-06T21:22:35+00:00

One income doesn't work with modern times, and it seems so unfair that one partner gets to lounge around at home and fluff pillows

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2022-03-07T02:41:00+00:00

Outside ultra conservative households, I don’t think any man wants a traditional woman in the modern world

miyagikai91 · 2022-03-06T23:59:50+00:00

Then don’t get one. It’s your life not theirs.

It’s a concept steeped in insecurity and pitiful entitlement that I have no personal use for.

jejuned · 2022-03-06T21:15:12+00:00

a lot of the shit you're describing in the op is part of why polyamory/communal living in general appeal so strongly to me for sure! it's borderline impossible to function on one income, not to mention dangerous, like you say. with only one earner, what if they get sick or injured, etc? it's a racket. you absolutely have the right idea

Sabrepill · 2022-03-06T21:56:48+00:00

Do what works for you, then learn from your mistakes. Or better yet, learn from other peoples mistakes. Observe the world around you, see who is thriving, and who is not. Model yourself after those you wish to emulate. Perhaps during this process, odd inconsistencies will arise between what you think should be (idealism), and what actually is (reality)

r2401 · 2022-03-07T01:00:50+00:00

Then go get one? There are more and more every day. This is like asking if you want to eat mcdonald's instead of X.

Are you having trouble finding a mcdonald's or something?

Alive-Personality713 · 2022-03-07T13:34:58+00:00

Problem is yours 🤷‍♂️

At the end of the day, no one cares who you're engaged with, just live your life.

Randomguy34455 · 2022-03-06T20:05:16+00:00

You’re right. Redpill is just toxic and fake. I found a strong and indipendent woman very hot. The idea of the alpha male is a false mith. Incels will call you beta or cuck just for treating women with respect

Comicsans7612x · 2022-03-07T08:43:41+00:00

smart

dunndundun0601 · 2022-03-07T12:53:22+00:00

And you can only support a family of 4 if you're an athlete that is either top performing, REALLY good with money or you have other streams of income! If not, they're broke too.

I agree! Always different strokes for different folks. But when it comes to "traditional women", the way RP describes it, they don't want wives, they want pets. They way they describe it is like a need to be needed so that THEY can save the girl and wisk her away and give her the best mediocre life he can afford. All so they can say "I'm the man, I provide everything."

I remember when my ex started RP and went from "I absolutely love your future plans" to "I don't want to come home to an empty house", "I want a wife, not a business partner! I want someone to come home too", to him LITERALLY attempting to compromise when it came to my dreams with " you can have your businesses and stuff, but you need to be hone before I am so you can greet me because I want a wife, not a friend I live with"

(Ironically enough, if you have a great wife, she is all of these things and if you're a great husband, you are all of these things! ESPECIALLY a friend!)

Dont compromise your happiness and future for random goofys that can't keep a belief without immediately contradicting themselves!

ispariz · 2022-03-07T15:08:01+00:00

Redpillers always forget that traditional marriage sucked for men too. Constantly working, intense pressure to keep working, never getting to see your wife and kids, no time for hobbies, etc. Women and men were both fucking miserable in traditional nuclear family marriages. The redpill is a total fantasy.

RealRussShackleford · 2022-03-07T18:21:11+00:00

This reminds me of that time CRP proudly proclaimed on a video “the only men who don’t want kids are gay.” I’ve laughed at a lot of RP content, but that one really hit me hard. Almost ruined a perfectly good laptop.

Title	What if I don’t want a “traditional woman”?
Author	EveryStrategy4918
Upvotes	81
Comments	40
Date	March 6, 2022 7:45 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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