Trigger warning: rape and abuse

This is the story of Carla and her pickmeishaness:

I was with a guy 9 years ago. We were in our teens, together for 2,5 year and he was manipulative, constantly pressured me into having sex and mentally abusive especially when drunk.

We were in a big friend group. He was mostly nice to me around them but sometimes he shouted at me and somehow talked himself out of it, played the victim etc. It was normalized that by boyfriend did these things in our friend group, but obviously the shouting was just the tip of the iceberg and I held my hand over him because of stockholm syndrome.

However, I told my closer friend Carla everything about how he treated me. She knew it all, but she would constantly doubt me, see tHe oThER sIDe and place blame on me. We were both pretty desperate for male validation and when I finally got out of the relationship my ex boyfriend made everyone "pick side" and manipulated everyone to pick his side.

I would tell about his violence in the beginning and a little later when I realized him pressuring me into sex was actually rape I would also tell everyone about that. But nobody believed me.

I ended up finding new friends, change school and never look back. Whenever I met people from the past I would just not bring it up. Until recently.

Years later I got a phone call from Carla. She reeeeally wanted to reconnect, it would be so fun! I didn't know where it came from and I of course said no way never. She had caused me so much pain, she had made me doubt my own story because she always shrugged when I told her the truth back then. I didn't give her a reason, I just said: "I'm not interested" and put down the phone like she was some kind of annoying phone seller.

This spring I started hanging out with an old friend. He asked if I had heard that my ex was completely cancelled. It turns out Carla went into a relationship with him and had been trapped in it for years. I understood that she called me after getting out of it and that he has been treating her exactly the same way as he treated me. I think people believe her story because she has been in the friend group for so long, #metoo and the fact that we're older now. This has lead everyone to remember what happened to me and now they're all crawling back and saying sorry.

Ladies and gentleladies, this pickme ended up getting raped and abused because she chose to not believe what I told about this monster. She was warned, she even saw a fraction of what he was capable of with her own eyes. Nobody is responsible for getting raped, but let this story be a symbol of how illusional pickme's can be.

Tl;dr: pickme doesn't believe my ex is an abuser. Ends up in a relationship with him. Gets abused. Now she believes me.

Edit: Thank you so much for the comments. You're all very kind and gentle. It's strange how I wanted people to believe me back then but had to accept that they never would. Now when I'm on the other side, healed, found peace with it and overcame the sexual trauma they start to come back. I don't need this anymore, but it doesn't bother me either. Many of the people in my old friend group are quite naive and suddenly realizing they've been enabling a rapist for years has shaken their reality. I hope they take this lesson with them in life.