Do appearances encourage commitment?

aussiedollface2 · 2022-04-14T21:29:15+00:00

A better appearance isn’t just about sex, it’s also about being more presentable to his friends and collegues and boss and family. It presents him in a better light that he can get a nice looking woman. So I think yes you should see some improvement in that regard.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2022-04-14T23:47:43+00:00

Yes looks inspire commitment. If you are below a certain threshold, no amount of other factors will make him commit.

If you are above a certain threshold he will overlook red flags to commit.

swimmingindaisies · 2022-04-14T22:06:18+00:00

Yes, in a way.

A big chunk of your appearance is connected to your lifestyle and communicates your values to men. Do you eat healthy, exercise, care for your hygiene, and groom yourself well? Those all show in how you present yourself in not just your weight, but your skin, hair, nails, scent, clothing choice, posture, etc. I know this reply probably wasn't what you were expecting, but these things do matter to HVM and could become a dealbreaker for some in particular. All of these things combined communicate things like how much you respect yourself, your mental health as well as your physical health, how you spend your time, if you carry diseases, what you prioritize, how fertile you are, and more.

SMV and RMV aren't necessarily two separate things. They can be intertwined in this way. Your SMV can tell a man a lot about your RMV before you even open your mouth, which can affect whether a man chooses to commit to you or not.

NicoleInBlue · 2022-04-15T05:33:21+00:00

Marylin Monroe in Gentlemen prefer blonds sums it up very well: "Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?"

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-04-14T20:48:40+00:00

Hard to say.

Improving looks is more a SMV (sexual market value) rather than RMV (romantic market value) trait.

But SMV isn’t completely untied from RMV.

Men would rather not commit to an ugly bitch, if they can. Even an ugly fat neck beard would rather a hot supermodel than his current obese girlfriend.

But that doesn’t mean the more you improve your looks, the more commitment worthy you become either. There’s a link but it’s not a 1:1 correlation. Far from it.

saddensgirl · 2022-04-15T03:47:06+00:00

Appearance gets your foot in the door, but I don't think it seals commitment. Commitment is gained by things like building trust and being viewed as your man's haven of peace in this crazy world.

But yeah, appearances definitely can help get you on the road to commitment, but a pretty face alone won't make a HVM commit.

live_long_n_prosper · 2022-04-15T01:20:21+00:00

There has to be a baseline physical attraction before anything else is relevant, harsh truth but better than denial

gd_reinvent · 2022-04-14T22:13:25+00:00

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LightOverWater · 2022-04-15T04:37:40+00:00

Do appearances encourage commitment?

On its own, no. Appearance draws in a man, but personality and feminine qualities keeps him around.

To your second question:

If a man is already attracted to your non-physical traits then appearance can encourage commitment because the physical part is important for the long-term as well.

goldenappletits · 2022-04-14T22:28:09+00:00

Hi! I'm on some meds that made me gain a looooot of weight (over 100 pounds). I used to be 120 pounds, curvy, long blonde hair, cute face, blue eyes... but I was a bit wild and kind of weirdo leftist feminist and not very nurturing or feminine, or kind to men!!! I naturally just grew up and chilled out a lot in my twenties, and that's when I met two wonderful HVM, my first long term relationship of two years who I am still friends with, and my husband of six years - and I was a size 16, not 4! I do think, up to a certain point, looks matter, but it's more about being feminine, wearing flattering clothes, light makeup, keeping fit (I may be curvy, but I love to bike, hike, and weightlift - plump and buff!), getting your hair done well - but beyond that personality really is key! Marriage is through thick and thin! My husband and I met when we were both young... as the years have gone on, we've gotten softer, rounder, and more wrinkly, so personality is even more important, and every day, we are hotter to eachother... as that is what true love does! I think when I "chilled out" on all that hateful feminist stuff (I'm still second-wave, just not all these weird directions it has gone in!) and started being more relaxed about politics (picture me early twenties and teens in a pussy hat, lol) and friends with all types of faiths, people, classes, and politics, your soul shines through. Also, I always found a marker of attractiveness that boosted my luck is kindness, character, good deeds of faith and charity, and just being a good listening ear! So now, at 200+ pounds, I still get hit on a lot (shameless men who can clearly see I'm married) and my husband can't keep his hands off me! I may not be "classically" beautiful now, but I dress nicely, wear perfume, groom, and have nice conversations and work out! Please don't think appearance is most important for male attraction - I have several chronically single friends who are size zero bombshells, but treat men terribly. It really is all about inner beauty.

pieorstrudel5 · 2022-04-15T10:19:48+00:00

I think you are looking at this the wrong way.

Losing weight has a much bigger impact than just looks. Which does help! Caring for your appearance is as feminine as it gets. Additionally.... It shows him you have discipline - quality needed to maintain a home and raise children. It shows him you understand the value of health - so you'll hopefully take care of yourself while pregnant, birth strong children, and then raise them to be healthy as well.

Many many other things I am sure I'm forgetting that makes a trim woman a better long term partner.

sinisterforces · 2022-04-14T20:40:55+00:00

Interesting. I also had the opposite ish happen though. Men sometimes mate guard or hide women from their friends, men don‘t want to introduce women to their friends not because they are ashamed but to guard her. Men want mothers to approve and mother’s sometimes don’t want a woman that is too attractive. Attractive people are judged as less loyal by appearance so nah. Of course attraction gives commitment to some degree but not linear imo.

Dazzling-Importance1 · 2022-04-15T08:05:55+00:00

Yes men care about appearance but so do women. Would you rather marry a fat guy or someone with a 6 pack everything else the same.

YomiSeno · 2022-04-15T11:21:43+00:00

You losing weight has something to do with you, actually caring about your diet and exercise. Also, you, getting to the bottom of your problem, because there are many reasons why someone has gained weight or is someone gaining weight. I think it will motivate him to commit. But sometimes, things like people choosing us, or commiting to us, it's really out of our control, no matter how much we try. Just do your best to look after yourself. Who's truly for you, will appreciate you doing that.

If it still doesn't work after some time..

It's his faulty morals
He's not really into you, and you shouldn't base your value on that
He didn't like the weight lost (some men like heavy women, cultures and preferences affect it)
He feels insecure of the drastic change you did

And alot more..

Remember that no matter what your weight is, you deserve the best treatment that's according to your values.

Catherine772023 · 2022-04-15T17:19:45+00:00

Despite what the fat acceptance movement pretends being fat is unhealthy so the most important thing about your weight is BMI, height to waist to butt ratio and being toned so you can BE HEALTHY. Eat healthier for you and your health first regardless of what any man thinks. Men come and go but you have to live in your body for life. BTW Healthy women tend to be hotter anyway.

Ok so if you’re healthy you can then care about the slightly less important issue of how your man feels about it (any decent high value man wants the woman he lives to be healthy). Looking hot can make a man more enthusiastic about you to commit to but could make a guy over emphasise you being sexy and be more likely to use you for sex. So don’t bother with this unless you’re convinced you can get closer as people. Being loving towards each other helps.

But if he’s got no intention of commitment whatsoever it’s better to cut your losses and look for a more relationship orientated man.

SnowOnCinders · 2022-04-16T15:27:14+00:00

I definitely agree appearances encourage commitment! There is a certain way I dress femininely which my boyfriend LOVES and can't believe that I dress exactly in the way which he finds sexy. He loves that I do my hair and nails and have good skin and also am slim and eat healthily, he has specifically said that the fact I put so much effort into those things makes me more feminine and womanly in his eyes and triggers his protective instinct.

Though, I have to say that the day my man asked me to be his girlfriend was when we had a delicious meal I cooked for him, bantered for hours about important and unimportant things, did an active hobby together and then went to a dinner with his friends where he said that I looked like a million bucks (lol... I was just wearing pretty simple "nice dinner"!). Later that night he asked to be bf/gf and really wanted to "claim me" as his. So personality/mutual activities was about 50% of that, while the other 50% was doing feminine duty and looking pretty/being poised. It's a balance.

NeinLive · 2022-04-17T18:38:10+00:00

I've known plenty of gorgeous women who were cheated on by someone's dusty son, so no. It takes mental domination.

kitterkatty · 2022-04-15T08:24:28+00:00

People marry because of how their partner makes them feel. Looks are part of it. If you’re proud to be seen with someone that contributes to commitment. But it’s also a general feeling which can be maintained or lost over time, beyond simply appearance.

Glad-Discount-4761 · 2022-04-15T02:31:29+00:00

Do appearance encourage commitment? Yes,there has to be some certain amount of good look.Otherwise you will probably will be replaced by prettier girl even if guy is below average looking because guy don't need to be pretty and they age well.I am saying this as ugly woman with masculine like or square face

live_long_n_prosper · 2022-04-15T01:19:29+00:00

Title	Do appearances encourage commitment?
Author	Moooooodringlorde
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Date	April 14, 2022 8:29 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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