What are some hard truths you have accepted about life?

achyshaky · 2022-06-28T04:46:53+00:00

Some people just won't like me back. Doesn't matter how well I know them, doesn't matter whether or not I'm conventionally attractive, doesn't matter if I've got a six figure salary or I'm unemployed. Sometimes - most times, actually - it just comes down to chemistry, and if it doesn't match, you're shit out of luck.

Thing is, though, I couldn't care less anymore. No one should, really.

I've reached a point where I am more than satisfied with just being someone's friend if romance doesn't work out. If I liked them enough to want to date them, there's no reason to bail out entirely just because I was rejected romantically. Strong platonic relationships are severely underrated.

If, for some reason, it'd be too awkward to continue being friends, then that'd be that. It'd suck, yeah, but I won't ruminate over it like I used to for years. I won't blame myself, and neither will I curse them.

Ultimate point: "I'm not attracted to you" is not the same as "you're unattractive", and "I don't want to date you" is not the same as "you're undatable." It just means this single person wasn't interested in me in that way. There's nothing more to read into - I just take people at their word now, and I'm immensely better off for it.

unlivedbread · 2022-06-28T12:05:04+00:00

If you don't become brave you won't live a very happy or meaningful life

Impossible-Two4184 · 2022-06-28T09:19:48+00:00

First thing I notice is that I'm starting to draw parallel between men and women. Both are equally capable of evil. This alone already clear out a lot of RP mystic and stress around women.

I am also becoming centrist in view of society. Instead of trying prevent evil like typical RP, I find easier to say that "as long as people are accountable for their choice, it's not my problem". This is second game changer that put my mind at ease when hearing news about someone.

vcreativ · 2022-06-28T08:42:41+00:00

No dread, but that the answers and the meaning lie within, not outside of you. As soon as you understand that, all of this just goes away.

divingrose77101 · 2022-06-28T13:40:04+00:00

I had to accept that there is no god (that was actually a relief) and that I may live the rest of my life without a fulfilling romantic relationship. I’m okay with that but it does make me a bit sad.

xvszero · 2022-06-28T04:30:18+00:00

That life holds no inherent meaning and most people don't really care what I do or don't do with my life so it's on me to figure it out.

sparklingwinepapi92 · 2022-06-28T19:41:44+00:00

That you're not entitled to shit and the world owes you nothing. Just because some people were cruel to you in the past, it's not someone else's responsibility to compensate you for it.

People often think that deserving is synonymous with entitlement, but that isn't the case. To give an example:

You aren't entitled to sex from women nor are they obligated to give it to you. You are allowed to believe that you deserve to be with a woman who will have sex with you, but it's not one individual woman's responsibility to just sit on a silver platter and spread open her legs for you.

It is your responsibility to put yourself out there so you can find a woman who will become an enthusiastic and willing sexual partner. It's your responsibility to do your due diligence in making her happy and being an equal partner in your relationship, or whatever. It's your responsibility to figure out what you are and are not willing to compromise on.

With that in mind, another hard truth is that you ultimately cannot control other people and what attitudes they form, how they act, etc.

Wild_Quantity_6631 · 2022-06-28T23:11:19+00:00

Dying alone is a possible and it’s ok

Academic_Type624 · 2022-06-28T10:42:26+00:00

Accepting what is in my control and what isn't. It done wonders for my anxiety but it was a hard road.

I can do my best to be a good person, I can work on how I respond to a situation. I can't control other people.

thom92Pf3105 · 2022-06-28T17:55:18+00:00

Hypergami Might not be real. But as a man in a relationship you Cant just be loved for just who you are. Getting children is expensive. It is all about status and wealth.

wasted_basshead · 2022-06-30T05:38:08+00:00

No one will care if you don’t with yourself. But even then, there could be some people who still care while you have absolutely no clue that they do.

incredulitor · 2022-07-01T02:34:11+00:00

I don't determine how other people act, but I do bear responsibility for who I surround myself with, for what I tolerate, whether my expectations are reasonable or realistic, and for the consequences of choosing to hold a boundary.

5MinuteMentalFitness · 2022-06-28T08:10:47+00:00

This world is not meant to be perfect because nothing is thus imperfection is perfection here.

I have yet to meet a human who if given the proper circumstances would not commit the most socially deemed heinous acts on earth which is one of the reasons we vilify and try to eliminate evil which is really just the essence of the human condition.

If you sit and empathize with a person long enough, they will not only show you their cracks but allow you to fix them provided you don’t judge condemn or criticize.

Most people are not confident enough to truly think for themselves and have their own views and thus think mostly what their closest friends parents think which is usually a reflection on what society thinks.

If aliens exist they don’t come to earth because on the cosmic scale of things we are about as exciting to them as ants are to us.

I could keep going.

js34lee · 2022-06-28T07:27:01+00:00

Here are some of my experiences and thoughts I sincerley hope it helps you in some way :)

Accept yourself everyone for who they are and never judge them. You are just as disgusting.
Don't talk about your problems with anyone. They are glad you have them or they don't give a shit.
Let go of all fears worries and anxoety if they happen it happens. It sure is not the way to live life
No one is coming to save you. Just put your head down and work like an animal
Biologically women are incapable of loving men. They cant help it dont take that shit personal
Only seek and take advice from people that have what you want.
Even though you work hard you still may not get the things you want in life, its unfair deal with it.
The world only cares about results.
Your life is happening now not 30 min later or 5 min later stop staying in lala land
Never talk about your dating life
failure, rejection, dissapointment, anxiety, heartache, pain, tiredness, loneliness, depression are all part of life accept it.
remove your ego, self pride, sensitivity and listen to good pieces of information
seperate the time for thinking and execution
act indifferently towards women
Women are never something to be truly in love with. They will always leave for something better. Date Love! but dont ever fall in love.
Learn to be happy alone.
Nobody will love you unconditionally except god and your mother
Always remain as a mystery with women
Keep your talking small and listen more (This is very hard.. trust me)
Just like you everybody is only thinking about themsevles.
Lastly, this is not easy to swallow. I don't think it was for anybody who would agree with me. Just know that you don't have to like it and have no control over it. By Accepting it life will be alot better😭

Title	What are some hard truths you have accepted about life?
Author	Brighr51
Upvotes	10
Comments	27
Date	June 28, 2022 4:04 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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