I love this subreddit. It’s been great to read in the wake of an ex redpill dude. Transparently speaking, I didn’t know what any of this was until I started dating him. I’m surprised he dated me at all given that I’m 31 and he’s in his late 30s. Still, every day he reminded me that because of my age I had no value. That men would not want me because of that. That no one would ever be able to love me the way he could.

It’s weird that we ended up together because money has never mattered to me. When it didn’t appeal to me, he found that offensive. Then he’d cut down my appearance or backhandedly comment on my intelligence (I went to college, which I guess also works against me).

He told me if we were going to end up married I’d have to quit my job. I’m a freelancer with a few bestselling books under my belt. He found my independence really threatening.

By the end the situation was escalating to physical violence and abuse so thick I could hardly see myself anymore. Meanwhile, I started coming to understand the RP more, and wondering how on earth we ended up together, as I don’t fit the profile really.

He accused me of cheating delusionaly so many times I just felt numb. He treated my body like his property and demanded sex even when I was sick or grieving a death in my family. He’d call me names, swear at me, slam doors, and yell.

I’m so glad it’s over. But his words about my age and appearance still ring in my head constantly.

The thing is—I spent my 20s dancing, learning to paint, reading books, and pursuing hobbies. I waited to have sex until I was 31. I think he had a hard time understanding me and that people are nuanced. Women don’t just want one thing. And not all women cheat. It’s just not true.

So many RP tendencies align with domestic abuse red flags. I’m proud of every man on this sub who is fighting against the narrative. It affects the women you date. Grateful for the work you’re doing.