I'm jealous of White Guys. I don't know how to stop feeling this way.

xvszero · 2022-10-24T23:42:19+00:00

My cousin is a short brown guy and he pretty much never doesn't have a girlfriend. Usually longterm stuff so he's had like 5 girlfriends in the last 8 years or something. But whenever he has a breakup, bam, new girlfriend right away somehow.

Meanwhile I'm a tall white guy and let me tell you, if you think we just walk outside and get swarmed by women, well... we don't. I failed miserably with women most of my life and didn't kiss a woman until I was 30.

Basically, there are a lot variables here. It's not just white and brown. Most brown guys do date, at some point.

Grappleheart · 2022-10-25T00:29:47+00:00

First of all you are right. Dating is hard being a minority. I am a 5'8 Black man living in the suburbs with my single mother Aunt. I am from a conservative family. However let me quickly explain to you why RP will not solve any of your problems regarding dating.

RP will give you a reason to cope. RP allows you to take the blame away from yourself everytime you fail at dating. When I was in RP I just kept thinking all the girls were shallow sluts ignoring what a good man I was. Instead the reality was I was an overweight, boring dude who could hold a conversation with a woman to save my life. I had no hobbies and I only met people through Tinder, which I paid for.
RP doesn't build confidence. RP will make you feel like you have to be millionaire Jeff Bezos with abs to attract women when the reality is you don't have to be much of anything to do that. Watching RP content will destroy your confidence with constant reminders of how you are not a 100k, 6 foot tall, handsome man, and about how those men have a right to treat you poorly and how you might lose your girl to those men. When I stopped watching red pill and started having more hobbies my self esteem sky rocketed.
RP will make you obsessed about women. Despite all the discussion about RP men being above women they talk about them a lot. Everyday in fact. RP content will make you needy and obsessive as if you spend everyday speaking about women, thinking about them etc you become more unattractive. It also gives women undue power over you as you are constantly trying to win their approval or disapproval.

Now what would I do in your shoes? I would understand why women might not find me attractive and try to fix it. Are you overweight? Are you a good talker? Do you have interesting conversations? Is your fashion sense good? Do you go out enough to meet new women? Do you walk straight? I would assess myself to see what I was doing wrong and try to do better. Not for women but for myself. And overtime you will get better at it.

I also learned to stop looking for women. I no longer go out to try to find women. I go out to have a good time. And the women come my way because they sense I am not trying to impress them but rather have fun.

Since discarding the RP I have actually had much more luck with women. I made out with a woman at a bar 3 weeks ago. This weekend a guy tried to fight me because his girl friend was attracted to me. I had an 2 hour conversation with a woman who really wanted me to go home with her. I attribute this success to increasing confidence and a lack of care for societal expectations. Over the last 2 months, I have started working out again which has really made me look and feel better overall. I have finally gotten a hang of my job so confident in that as well. I have started working on my acne and I have reduced it significantly to a point where while there is still scarring I look much better. I am now trying to pick up new skills and eat better. I am by no means a Hugh Hefner but compared to where I was a year ago I feel great.

So what should you do? Evaluate yourself find your insecurities and address them.

PutsWomenOnPedestal · 2022-10-24T22:31:47+00:00

But how would getting into RP solve your perceived problem? RP cannot change one’s race

Maddzilla2793 · 2022-10-24T20:57:41+00:00

I am a WOC who doesn’t date white men typically. We exist.

TeacherYankeeDoodle · 2022-10-25T00:56:20+00:00

Things are definitely easier being white, yeah. There’s no real way to sugarcoat that. That doesn’t say anything about women though. That says something about the culture where you are and the culture where I am.

GeorgeWashingtonKing · 2022-10-24T20:34:29+00:00

There’s niches for other races man don’t worry about that shit. There are women who are into specifically Latino guys, black guys, Asian guys etc.

SoDarkTheConOfMan · 2022-10-25T02:04:03+00:00

It's the same the other way around. Most men, including POC men, have a thing for white girls. Especially blondes. It sucks. The guys I go for don't go for girls like me because I am not white. I don't have those desirable white features.

mann1123 · 2022-10-25T00:29:53+00:00

Probably some sampling and confirmation bias. Shit ton of lonely white dudes sitting at home that you don't see

incredulitor · 2022-10-25T00:56:02+00:00

OK. Seems like a vent. There's no direct ask for help there, even though there are lots of points we could read into it. What kinds of help would you ideally be interested in, if help at all is what you're looking for?

Drougen · 2022-10-25T01:57:09+00:00

To be fair I'm an average to barely above average white guy, I don't get out much and when I do I'm not very sociable. You have better chances if you're more sociable / friendly than purely the color of your skin.

tinasnow-poty · 2022-10-25T08:50:02+00:00

How does the black pill figure any other race has survived if according to them every girl likes white guys? As far as I can tell brown people aren’t on the brink of extinction

SuchReflection5921 · 2022-10-25T09:07:39+00:00

I don’t think it has anything to do with the color of your skin…

goblitovfiyah · 2022-10-25T11:21:12+00:00

If it helps, I'm a woman lurker and I've never had a thing for white guys, all my exes were some sort of mixed or other race. It's just personal preference, I can embrace that caucasian men are gorgeous without feeling any sort of attraction on my end.

Although my latest crush is white-passing so who knows, race isn't everything.

umersajid12 · 2022-10-25T10:46:18+00:00

Had the same experience last night, felt shit all day today.

Basically the girl I'm seeing looked at me and said oh you're so brown, then I sensed something intuitively and asked her what are you thinking and she goes on to tell me that she never thought she'd be seeing a brown man and that she was in love wjth guys who were blonde/blue eyes and pretty much dated everyone who looked like Daniel Craig.

I know intuitively since that moment that the relationship/thing will end soon. Looks matter, being the best person to a girl does compensate but not as much imho.

hostility_kitty · 2022-10-25T02:47:53+00:00

I don’t like white men. Most of my partners have been Hispanic.

skon7 · 2022-10-25T02:50:15+00:00

I am a white women who prefers men of color or exotic men.

I def have also seen a huge huge upswing in interracial couples since the Kardashians took over the media so I highly doubt most women only want white men even if it seems like a lot of women do.

zapadz · 2022-10-25T02:58:01+00:00

I’m assuming you live in America. That is probably because the majority of the population is white.

Georgie--George · 2022-10-25T12:33:38+00:00

I guess it would help knowing what type of brown you are? It's definitely harder to date as a minority, I'm a black woman and we aren't on the radar for what seems like 99% of males.

SheepBantz · 2022-10-25T13:14:41+00:00

remember that self hate is the real estate of racism
it works on yourself

NoFirefighter6542 · 2022-10-25T14:36:28+00:00

The problem is your watching other men too much and getting envious. Focus on your self

Nightchanger · 2022-10-25T16:10:49+00:00

Asians are attractive in Europe and Israel, Europeans are attractive in US. US and Europeans are attractive in Japan but not China, South Koreans are attractive to most ethnicities (Plastic surgery does that), Black guys were attractive in UK for some reason, would have imagined them attractive in South Africa and LA. And it changes all the time, and gets more complicated.

Yeah, racial fashion is changed via it's geography. It's weird to follow it.
You can try looking up those things and change locations.

2020mademejoinreddit · 2022-10-25T19:21:46+00:00

I'm mixed. I never had any problems.

Plus it depends on where you are.

In fact, in some places, you'd have an advantage, especially if you're doing well and taking care of yourself.

You want to Red Pill yourself? Well, red pill yourself in a way that makes you see the actual truth about yourself.

Red Pill doesn't mean go out and hate women. That's what the grifters want you to think.

Red Pill is knowing the truth for what it is.

See within yourself. And see how you can improve your life first. The rest will come and if it doesn't, well, at least you have a good life that you made for yourself.

Now you are happy either way and can live a satisfied life.

Your life is not about women, it's about you. Make it so.

Amgaa97 · 2022-10-25T21:49:58+00:00

It's true that they have the competitive edge but as a 165cm Asian guy with a German gf, I say you stop feeling this way by getting a white girl haha

Keezymac34 · 2022-10-26T14:21:39+00:00

Its location dependent bro, go to a diverse place like new york or any major city everyone dates everyone there. Improve your grooming.

Title	I'm jealous of White Guys. I don't know how to stop feeling this way.
Author	Farm_Efficiency_9768
Upvotes	23
Comments	47
Date	October 24, 2022 8:10 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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