I think I am ready to give up. Over a decade ago, I met a girl and we fell in love. We spent years where she was pretending to be interested in my religion, culture and friends. She said she wanted to convert and she agreed to raising our children in my faith. I proposed and we got engaged. During our engagement, none of her friends were their for her. None of her family members were there for her. Customarily she should go dress shopping with them and her mother should pay for it. They refused because her other sister got engaged too and they wanted to focus on her sister. I went with her dress shopping which is a taboo. I paid for the entire wedding as a fresh graduate, taught her to drive, helped her establish a credit history. Took her to job interviews in the middle of the workday. When she got a job as a teacher, I helped her with her work and stayed late in school with her. When we got married she lost interest in everything except work. She wanted nothing to do with the things we shared in the past. House work? I did it. Cooking . I did it half the time. I scheduled her doctor appointments which she refused to do and insisted to find one’s open in the evening after work which limited is to just one doctor. She complained and said I did not put enough effort and should do better. She was messy, sloppy and dirty. Didn’t like to shower or brush her teeth, hated doing laundry and always left wet clothes in the washing machine for days. Left over food? She would take it to work and leave it to rot and bring the containers to me to clean. I drove her everywhere, paid for everything. Every time I tried to talk to her she repeated thing see hear from toxic feminists. She is strong independent self loving woman and will not submit to a man. If I push the she starts to cry and say i hurt her feelings, if I push the matter still she start to say she is scared and the she doesn’t love me and will leave me so I drop it.

6 years after our marriage she confessed, she lied and she never wants kids. I felt outraged. I was not getting anything out of the marriage and I was doing it all and now no kids too. I did not get married to carry two people all the time. I said I wanted a divorce and I will give her all her rights but first I will move out. We sat down and agreed to the terms of separation. As soon as I left, she filed alone with an attorney accusing me of all sort of things that can get a man in trouble. No evidence. This was during COVID, so I got a major pay cut. I asked her to alleviate her demands during the divorce but she won’t have it. She filed motion after motion always accusing me of things. Most ridiculous of them all was saying I was not complying because I am refusing to give her all my passwords. $10k later in legal fees we discover that this was all because she lost the Netflix password, was too stubborn to ask me for it and did not feel obligated to start an independent account now which she will have to do in 5 months. The divorce drained all my money and it was finalized she was shocked when she realized I had no money left and now she had to give me some of hers. She accused me of fraud and went to the judge. We presented detailed evidence and the judge ordered her to comply. She refused. Judge threatened her with jail time in contempt. I ask judge to amend divorce to instead of giving me money, which we did.

3 years later and every woman I met, wanted a man to use for money while she keeps her stuff, wanted to be pampered and offer nothing in a relationship, wanted fancy stuff all the time or to dictate what she wants on me all the time. When I refuse they go on the attack calling my cheap and not man enough. Talk about toxic feminism. On a couple of occasions I got to talk potentially getting married with their families. Turns out they want to take me to the cleaners by making ridiculous demands including writing undated checks in case I decide to divorce her. Not falling for that again! 3 years and everyone just wants to treat me like less than a person and just a wallet with no opinions. What is wrong with women and their families! I am done trying to be in a relationship.