How can a man keep a relationship healthy/loving/happy?

RocinanteCoffee · 2022-12-11T20:39:39+00:00

Ask her. 😑

_revelationary · 2022-12-11T20:51:28+00:00

Reasons my husband and I have a pretty great relationships:

-adventure. We do day trips, weekend getaways (we have one coming up next weekend at an off season resort on the coast that’s all decked out for Christmas), date nights. Finding ways to enjoy each others company. So talking and planning things like that to look forward to is helpful.

-fitness/health: we both prioritize our own health and exercise almost every day — AND we help each other do the same. I mostly work out in the morning before anyone else is up, so that I can be home with our kid after work and my husband can do his own workout. This helps us look good, even now in our 30s, feel better/manage stress, and helps with attraction.

-don’t neglect physical intimacy, and when it’s an issue just bring it up gently from a place of caring (ie, not accusatory).

-communicating well just generally, doing small things to help each other, etc - just showing you prioritize each other.

Birb-brained · 2022-12-11T20:56:25+00:00

Find out their love language. Sounds a bit pop psychology-ish so take it with a grain of salt, but honestly, knowing HOW someone feels loved is so important and if you are both on the right page to start with that’s never a bad thing. Not everyone has just one, I have two and a lot of people have combinations. But that doesn’t really matter because the important thing is that you are having a conversation about the things that are important to you in a relationship.

Can’t remember everything off the top of my head but here’s a few:

Physical touch /affection - feels loved when being touched - strokes, cuddles, kissing, massage etc etc

Words of affirmation - compliments, specific and meaningful praise,

Gifts - small or large gestures , buying treats or larger presents for them

Quality time - long conversations, being listened to and giving someone your time, romantic dinner out , trips

Acts of service - doing things that are helpful to your partner, for example, making them a hot drink or washing up the dishes, running them a bath

belachewhm · 2022-12-12T03:27:12+00:00

You can’t. It’s in a woman’s nature to be dissatisfied. Don’t try. Save your energy

avoiding_a_stalker · 2022-12-11T20:45:50+00:00

Depends on the woman, just like what men prefer in relationships depends on the man. Generally, communicate, be kind and attentive, and take care of them as you would hope they’d do for you. Trust, respect, loyalty, all those good traits are pretty important in all relationships but specifics depend on the person

MistyMaisel · 2022-12-12T02:51:43+00:00

Honestly, I think a lot of this is simple stuff

Don't

-Express regular derision towards her

-Express regular negativity of any kind towards her

-Constantly threaten the relationship

-Show lots or really even any interest towards other women

-Be critical towards her in a public setting

-Exploit vulnerabilities of hers when angry

-Treat her as a problem requiring your solution

-Belittle her or her things

-Expect her to be your mother or chore-mule

Do

-Communicate regularly in a variety of ways including the mundane and the deep

-Show non-sexual affection regularly or even constantly

-Have exciting or adventurous plans regularly of varying degrees (Not every day has to be a massive vacation to the moon).

-Try to be constantly curious about her, her life, and how she's changing

-Try to keep her in the know about you, your life, and how you're changing

-Express gratitude and appreciation for her and the things she does and just being in your life

-Laugh Together as often as humanly possible and try to keep her laughing

-Be available to her

-Take Care of Yourself

-Bedroom stuff - be a keen, generous, and eager to please lover. Keep her cumming, ya know. Like, I think women forgive a lot in this department especially early on in relationships, but after a certain point, if you aren't giving her ham wallet the gooey good feels...it's probably going to spell death to things eventually.

-Flirt a lot. Like a lot. Don't stop just cuz she's yours. Keep flirting.

-Be her biggest fan in a room.

-Seek her attention above that of others.

-Carry your own weight.

-Address problems as if they are things you're dealing with together.

-If they're problems you think you have with her, try to reframe them in that way therapists teach couples, "The story I'm telling myself is".

CruelAngelGradThesis · 2022-12-11T22:21:49+00:00

Remembering the small things. My BF is so good at recalling important dates/tiny details about me after hearing them only once it's kinda scary. I fucking love him for it.

JixDiz · 2022-12-12T02:09:54+00:00

Be best friends, communicate, and listen.

suj1290 · 2022-12-12T09:32:15+00:00

You can't. Men initate relationships love but women are the ones who leave their men

CimZim · 2022-12-12T14:16:33+00:00

A man can keep his relationship healthy, loving, and happy by treating his partner like a cherished person who treats him like a cherished person in return.

Khanluka · 2022-12-12T23:13:26+00:00

Put in effort. Even if there are moment when you feel the other persoon is not.

Sophiatab · 2022-12-11T21:57:32+00:00

Be honest. Don't cheat. Treat your girlfriend or wife with at least as much courtesy and consideration as you do your male friends. Basically men can just be decent and maintain a relationship.

NJFlowerchild · 2022-12-11T23:38:05+00:00

Never stop dating your partner. You shouldn't change your behavior or how you treat someone if you're in a relationship. Keep putting in the same effort.

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waffleznstuff30 · 2022-12-12T18:53:09+00:00

Give consistent effort and communication. Attention and affection Be understanding Make her a priority Be adventurous with her Keep up physical intimacy/sex or just cuddling and holding Don't be overly critical of her Motivate her Grow with her as a partner Don't make her feel like a burden Be playful with her Help her out with stuff.

howdoiw0rkthisthing · 2022-12-11T22:01:46+00:00

If you’re going to seek out relationship advice on the internet, make sure to listen to Jordan Peterson and not r/marriedredpill.

2022-12-11T22:32:45+00:00

Rock my world in the bedroom (there's so much info online..)
Don't start drama and keep your mental health in check.
Flirt with me all the time.

Title	How can a man keep a relationship healthy/loving/happy?
Author	auteurfantastique
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Comments	41
Date	December 11, 2022 8:25 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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