The Rational male

dday_throwaway3 · 2023-02-13T22:00:47+00:00

You've spent your entire life accepting what everyone else tells you is the truth - society, media, religion, etc. That includes irrational beliefs like "happy wife, happy life". Challenging those ego investments is dirty work. Most people do not want to be told what they know is wrong. It's the equivalent of an extinction-level event for them to have their entire world turned upside down. The Rational Male challenges your limiting beliefs, and provides you with an explanation why women behave the way they do. The explanation is backed by evolutionary biology and psychology.

Before you read The Rational Male, I highly recommend you read two books in this order:

No More Mr. Nice Guy to help you identify and jettison the covert contracts you've put in place.

When I Say No I Feel Guilty for obvious reasons.

There is an excellent chapter-by-chapter breakdown of both books on Rian Stone's YouTube channel. Read a chapter, then watch the corresponding episode to help you internalize the material.

Ncfc48 · 2023-02-13T21:56:36+00:00

Good book goes deep into intersex dynamics the more I looked at how i had become during my marriage the more I've changed into the man my ex wife wanted back but couldn't have

derelictherds · 2023-02-13T21:28:56+00:00

It's considered as crucial for males by the red pill community.

Viz2022 · 2023-02-13T21:43:45+00:00

I think the book you're actually thinking of is No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

hikeruntravellive · 2023-02-14T12:03:03+00:00

I was raised to be the ultimate simp and so I was for my entire marriage until one day the wife who had everything she wanted decided she changed and we’re no longer compatible.

At some point I was introduced to the rational male and read it. While I don’t subscribe to all he says it definitely was a game changer in how I view relationships with women. I only wish I learned this at 20 rather than 40.

The basic principle is that while you might think women like the nice guy, they don’t respect it at all. It’s against their nature. We also have expectations from women that are unrealistic.

Ever since implementing the techniques I learned my game has gone up a bunch of notches. I don’t waste time in women like my ex and I don’t get attached to Hollywood fantasies either. Always more to learn but life is a journey and I’m trying to better myself as much as I can.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2023-02-14T20:47:30+00:00

Is it useful? Yes. There's a lot that society conditions you to believe that's absolute garbage, and this book can help you see past that.

Is it also pseudo-intellectual, thinly veiled sexist toxic garbage? It can be if you take it as anything close to gospel.

The one I'd consider essential reading for anybody, though, is No More Mr. Nice Guy. The book breaks down what you may have been secretly taught by society -- that things run on 'covert contracts' and that doing a favor for someone obligates them to do a favor for you, i.e. that if you're nice to a woman you're entitled to date her -- and helps you break yourself out of that mindset to become a genuinely nice person and not a "Nice Guy."

glassofwater05 · 2023-02-15T13:41:59+00:00

It was incredibly helpful for me to help me understand what I did wrong and not to do it again. It can be a bit misogynistic, so you should take it as gospel, but I think he regularly states that things are a on a spectrum, and outliers exist. For example: I do think I lost a "high quality" woman. Still, the book helped me realize that there is no "one". There are some good ones and some bad ones. Things I did wrong:

I gave up my passion to be with her. I put her on a pedestal to satisfy my ego. I failed to be the leader of my family, forcing her to take on the roll. I stopped performing as a provider.

Now, how do I move forward? Make myself the center of my life. The right woman will lean into my life. Not the other way around. I need to get in better shape physically. I need to date a lot of women and approach all women from a standpoint of abundance. In the past, I approached women with a scarcity mentality, making myself look desperate, and many times scaring them away. There are no soul mates. There is no "one". There are some good ones and some bad ones. My personal favorite: women have girlfriends and women have boyfriends. If you are not fucking her, you are her girlfriend. This is to help you avoid ending up in the friend zone.

CleburnCO · 2023-02-16T20:26:28+00:00

Why was the Rosetta Stone important?

It allowed people to understand other languages...to read and understand...to learn and know...to apply knowledge.

Same deal.

Title	The Rational male
Author	Malaine1
Upvotes	6
Comments	10
Date	February 13, 2023 8:21 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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