Hi all,

I’m about 9 months out from my divorce. We separated 9 months prior to that, but then got back together to try.

I’ve been dating almost since divorce.

Gone on a lot of dates, was with one person for almost 2 months but still dating (I checked in with her weekly to make sure she was okay with that).

I have not cared about outcome of my dating life. Until now. I’ve met someone that I really enjoy being around, and match with really well. We’re about 2 months in, exclusive, committed, communicate well…

But I feel fear. Like she’s too good for me, or that I’m going to fuck it up. I have not felt this way before while dating others. Because.. I didn’t care about outcome.

I workout, run 18 miles a week, full time job, have a house, I enjoy playing video games, 32, and have been on my own for a while now.

What gives? I feel weak. My life energy feels sapped… I feel almost depressed. And how do I show up in the relationship with this human I do care about a lot?

Be myself? I’m feeling sad. Feeling overwhelmed.

How do I communicate without sounding needy?