Can’t do this anymore

Sensitive_Silver8530 · 2022-04-12T14:16:41+00:00

Wait a day, and if you still feel like this tomorrow, wait another day.

I promise you won’t always feel this way man. DM me if you want.

ijustdontcare74 · 2022-04-12T14:23:34+00:00

Don’t go through this alone, and remove that gun from your house. Give it to a trusted friend to hold for you. Ask friends if they can take you out for a meal to discuss what you’re feeling and seek out some professional help. It’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help, rather it’s a strength, it shows that you know yourself and your limits. I’m sorry that you’re going through this, having been there myself I know the inner demons that talk to you in the middle of the night and how tough it can be. Just know that it does get better with time and you can pull through this. Reach out for help in this community, the group has covered all experiences, good and bad within its ranks.

ready_4_the_mayans · 2022-04-12T14:27:03+00:00

Hang in dude, you got this. You're still young and have a ton of runway ahead of you. Lots of guys starting over in their 30s, 40s, 50s, fighting through, and finding their best tines ever. It takes work cuz it's worth it, and you are too. Stay strong. Vent here when needed. You got this.

Mavik52 · 2022-04-12T14:31:43+00:00

You are not alone, even if it feels that way. We all spent time in the hole, some holes are deeper than others. But this too shall pass. If your current life is not working for you, then this is an opportunity to make it what you want. It's not a race, and there is no rush. One step at a time. Get the emotions out, post a response, dm one of us. Take a small step. It doesn't matter how small, progress is progress.

OKIESMO · 2022-04-12T14:39:55+00:00

Bruh, DM me. This shit is so hard but it slowly gets better.

Pluto_ismy_planet · 2022-04-12T15:38:36+00:00

Don’t do it your cats will be sad

Hope_And_Heart · 2022-04-12T14:56:58+00:00

Reach out to a friend, call a suicide hotline, do a small step away from the wall, and then another, and then another. There is always hope. You’re life will look drastically different a year from now if you take just a tiny step in the right direction today. Peace to you today, take a deep breath and take that tiny step.

akihonj · 2022-04-12T15:03:44+00:00

I was where you are my man, a bridge for me.

It gets better, that feeling goes, in some cases it takes a little help, antidepressants if you're struggling, please speak to your doctor, they do make you feel numb for a while but that's also a good thing.

Just keep going because it really does get better.

NohoTwoPointOh · 2022-04-12T15:13:33+00:00

All of us here have had the dark thoughts. Some still fight 'em.

Please, brother. Reach out to one of us.

BuddhistChrist · 2022-04-12T16:08:33+00:00

Not invalidating your feelings, but 32 is pretty young. You are not always going to feel the way you feel now. Vent out your feelings, seek therapy, exercise (this will work wonders for your soul), do breathing exercises. Sometimes you have to find yourself at the very bottom of the barrel before you can climb your way out of it. Call the suicide hotline, 1-800-273-8255, they are there to listen and it helps. I know bc I’ve called them more than once. You are worthy of your life and it does get better. Sending you love, brother.

tellmemorelies · 2022-04-12T16:27:47+00:00

Don't do it.

Check out www.survivinginfidelity.com

Call suicide hotline at 833-456-4566

Bymd · 2022-04-12T15:15:44+00:00

Please talk to doctor go to ER. after some days on Meds things will get better... it can only get better considering where you are. dont loose hope for yourself. you can start a new life.. please take help.

hanktertelbaum · 2022-04-12T15:41:58+00:00

I just saw your before and after pics, amazing!!!!! I'm in tech, too, and just finalized my divorce. I'm really lonely and weigh more than ever before. Could you share how you did it and help me do the same? I could really use some motivation and I'd be up for a periodic Zoom call if you are. Hang in there ... I've been there and know the feelings. If you hang around, something good will happen. I'm sure of it.

toooldforthisnonsens · 2022-04-12T17:16:37+00:00

Hey brother, feel free to message me and we can shoot the shit. We've all been where you are now. You can get through this. I'll be a random internet stranger that you can vent to.

OncomingSlayerStorm · 2022-04-12T21:37:33+00:00

When I found out that my ex had left me for one of my best friends, the first thing I did, and the hardest thing, was go to the pawn shop and sold my gun. I knew the longer it was there for me, the more tempting it would get.

I was older than you are. It’s taken me 5 years, but I’m in a far better place. Things get better. But only if you stick around to see them get better. If you check out now, this failure is all you will ever be and all you will be remembered for.

Be better than that. Because you are better than that.

Prior_Tax_2522 · 2022-04-12T15:37:44+00:00

Be' strong mate please!

ShaolinSoccerStar · 2022-04-12T15:51:29+00:00

Dude...life is an endless series of reinventions of yourself. Today sucks; I'm sorry. But you know what? Tomorrow won't be. You can do this. You have a whole life to live.

2022-04-12T15:59:08+00:00

Give youself time and things will get better. Consider changing many aspects of your life to experience new things. There is so much more to see and to feel. Low times comes and goes

ferrisb1986 · 2022-04-12T16:12:06+00:00

We’ve all been there brother, we’re all still here for a reason and everyone in this group will say the same. It WILL get better, stay strong brother.

ct3747 · 2022-04-12T17:35:39+00:00

I'm passing through divorce and got very depressed, I'm 33yo and lost my job, no kids.
I went to see a psychiatrist because I have been depressed for the last 3 months, and he gave me some pills that are helping me get thorugh the day. I also felt suicidal, but a woman doesn't deserve our life. There is much more coming in the future, it is time to work for yourself and love yourself more than any woman.

black65Cutlass · 2022-04-12T17:39:29+00:00

I would have a friend or family member come and take the gun out of the house, that is not the answer. It may seem hopeless now but it does get better. Just take it day by day. Get out of bed, shower, go to work. Keep yourself busy. Do you have any hobbies that you used to enjoy? If you don't want to go home and be alone, go to visit some family members or friends. I can guarantee that you will be missed. It does get better!

Remarkable-Potato21 · 2022-04-12T17:47:53+00:00

You're not alone man. Call someone close to you. Go to the hospital. Don't give up. message if you need anything!

bacon-wrapped-steak · 2022-04-12T17:54:57+00:00

Please don't, brother. It's not worth it. You still have tons of time to make something of your life.

Basic_Advance7627 · 2022-04-12T18:15:56+00:00

Do not. I am 50 years old. My wife of 27 years cheated and left. I am starting from scratch, she wiped me out cause I let her, I wanted to keep her. If I can do this at 50 so can you. It does get better. Get out and meet people and give yourself some grace and time.

MiniJunkie · 2022-04-12T20:40:03+00:00

I went through a very dark, suicidal period while out of work for nearly a year. A few years later, I'm on track to do better (in life, in career, financially) than I ever have. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem - I really believe that. See a doctor, get help. Usually it's brain chemicals that are out of whack and need some normalizing. I got back to feeling "normal" with a mix of better diet and proper meds.

dogsrule2019 · 2022-04-12T21:20:21+00:00

Please don't let a woman define your value, dude. You were fine before her and you'll be greater than ever after! Rise up. Go for a walk. Call a friend/brother/father or reach our to any of us on this thread. It ain't worth it and one day you'll look back and be very glad you didn't follow through. We're here for you!

RichPrickFromFlorida · 2022-04-12T22:33:01+00:00

This feeling is temporary but is overwhelming at this moment. It's a feeling that's going to wax and wane. It will eventually go away. Your . 380 is 50/50 gonna maim and not end you. I wouldn't take any chances. Just sleep on it. Do some self care. You'll be in a better place tomorrow.

Most of all go see someone about this. Make an appointment now or tomorrow.

OkFox5030 · 2022-04-12T23:32:42+00:00

You have all of us to talk with. DM me

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2022-04-12T23:33:14+00:00

First things first, 1-800-273-8255.

It's depression. Serious business. Don't just talk to people. See a doctor.

JD-Anderson · 2022-04-13T01:25:26+00:00

I was 32, divorcing, had a failing business, losing everything, and my best option at the time was offing myself. Every day I tried to pull the trigger, yet couldn’t.

Decade later, my business is doing great, I am dating a great woman, I have a nice life that is so much better than what I had. But it was a few years of fighting and healing, and it was gradual. But from time to time I think about all the great memories I have from my adulthood, and none of them are from that “old life”, but are from my post divorce life. Can’t imagine missing out on all those great memories. If I would have pulled the trigger at 32 I would have missed the best part of my life so far.

My point is I know exactly where you are right now. But may I suggest put away the gun for tonight, get drunk (stay at home), and wallow in the pain for awhile. And it might take awhile, but feel that pain and live in it. But in time that will go away and there is a much better life awaiting you. I know I might sound like an idiot to you right now, but trust me, you’re best years are only ahead of you. After you heal, then are yourself those great memories! DM me if you want.

MattyK2000 · 2022-04-13T01:47:11+00:00

I felt the exact same after my divorce as well, I drank myself to death and ended up in the ER, best decision I ever made and have been sober for almost 2 months. I went through a week of detox and came out the other side for me and my kids. It gets better!! I finally found someone as well that’s amazing and I did it SOBER! You can change your life if you’re willing to fight. Every day you wake up is a new chance, don’t give up!!

RobotWizard369 · 2022-04-13T02:19:24+00:00

Dm me. Let's talk about it. Just looking at a quick overview of your profile it seems that we might have a very close story. Dm me or any of these guys on here.

Malaine1 · 2022-04-13T02:29:27+00:00

Thank you all. I’ve been reading through your words through the day. Just.. thank you.

2022-04-12T15:25:48+00:00

Bro I hate that you feel that!! I mean hell, I felt that way myself a few times. Do you believe in God? Do you think there's a chance he is up there looking down on you and feeling your pain with you? Waiting for you to throw yourself down and ask for help? I don't know about you but I never had a father who gave two shits about me. No one ever tried to pick me up off the ground, dust me off, and set me back on my feet. But I'm PRETTY SURE I understand God is still there, and he's looking at us, and he just wants us to see Him and reach out. The Bible says when you can't walk any further, He will carry us. I choose to believe that because I have nothing else and it sounds like you don't either.

Just don't pull that trigger. I mean fuck you're only 32. I didn't even get MARRIED until I was 33. You have so much potential life ahead. Don't do it...

Reach out to someone here if you can - you can reach me if you need to. DM someone, talk it out.

epoch88 · 2022-04-12T15:39:06+00:00

It doesn't feel like it but you can still have all that.

stent00 · 2022-04-12T15:51:14+00:00

Don't do man! Life gets better! I've been there in the past after my divorce and Im glad I didn't off myself. What your going through is temporary! I implore you to call your eap asap and talk to a pychologist. Your cats need you too!!

deadlycatch · 2022-04-12T16:46:53+00:00

This will help

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ndeniably · 2022-04-12T16:52:22+00:00

Please find some family or friends to be around, shit, even if it means sitting in a bar. Talk to the bar tender. Your life is worth living you're just at the bottom of a pit and its okay, these feelings are all normal. There is so much life yet left to live. It will take time, you will feel like killing yourself again. Don't give into the pain. You are stronger than it. You are a fucking warrior.

Islandboy2000 · 2022-04-12T18:45:11+00:00

I’ll echo what everyone else is saying… these times are hard, very hard. But it will get better. We’re not all just saying that.

Personally, it was The Worst time in my life. But I endured and it got better. In fact, my life is multiple times better than before.

It was a hard journey though. I didn’t do it alone. I leaned on family, friends, and professional counseling.

Take action today in a positive direction! Even if it’s just to walk or exercise.

sADbOy4lYfE1990 · 2022-04-12T19:10:53+00:00

Was feeling the same. Just don’t feel now. I picked drugs back up as a means for survival. I don’t regret it. And I still cry. But I didn’t turn my 9mm into a paintbrush so I did something right

booyah2 · 2022-04-12T16:47:50+00:00

Go to Tijuana Mexico, blow your credit card on cocaine and hookers until you overdose and die. That's a great way to go out. And you might just want to live after you do that.

crypto_keeper88 · 2022-04-12T17:10:42+00:00

Whoa, you need to check yourself. Stop being so emotional over this and think about what's important. You are young, employed and have a house. You are doing better than 80% of the men your age. Get out of the funk, see a therapist, try self meditation, magic mushrooms and talking to friends or relatives when you are feeling blue. Get a pet, they are great for emotional support and are the perfect companion for living alone. You just need to reset your life goals, find some hobbies and start over.

Plebe-Uchiha · 2022-04-12T19:42:55+00:00

Get all your savings and go to Tijuana. Blow your money on hookers, strippers, coke, weed, and anything else you want to try. If you really want to end your life, just live for a month doing whatever brings you joy. If you are still unhappy after your trip to TJ, wait a day. That’s all I ask [+]

MVMe · 2022-04-12T19:29:48+00:00

Im so sorry you feel this way. Know that those emotions arent you. They aren't natural and it's not your fault you are having them. Your circumstances left you feeling like you arent in control. But if you aren't, who is? Try volunteering. If you are struggling with feeling like you matter, find someway to contribute to someone or something in need. Being a part of something larger than yourself goes a long way towards improving mental health. Go to the Boys&Girls Club, a retirement home, try a rescue shelter if dealing with people feels like too much. Try to distract yourself from that feeling because it does pass. The opposite of addiction is connection. Right now your brain is addicted to feeling bad. Seek out people who enjoy the same hobbies as you and schedule yourself activities to do even if you know you won't want to. Try to live slightly outside that comfort zone if you want it to change. I am separated since 2018 and recently finalized my divorce. I was tired of riding the Rollercoaster of emotions that comes with ending a 10+ year relationship over infidelity. I was tired of my kids having to ride it too. Walking away, giving in, doing something drastic was always an option. I'm very thankful I stuck it out because it does get better. Please reach out to someone if it gets bad. I've had several friends end thier lives and I can tell you the pain, confusion, and guilt left behind is devastating to those who care.

agentphunk · 2022-04-12T20:33:47+00:00

Don't let the bitch win! You can do this! Go on /r/stoicism

Reinvent yourself! You have your whole life ahead of you. Please don't give up!

traveller1976 · 2022-04-12T20:35:45+00:00

Pick yourself up. Call a suicide hotline. Falling down gives them the victory. Snatch victory back from the Jaws of defeat.

half_brain_bill · 2022-04-13T01:03:06+00:00

Suicide is a permanent answer to a temporary problem. Wherever there is life there is hope. Sorry for answering with bumper stickers but I don’t know anything about you except that you’re suicidal and divorced. Remember that your worst day or act doesn’t define you. In the United States There is a suicide prevention number you should call. 1-800-273-TALK

live_long_n_prosper · 2022-04-13T07:04:49+00:00

Don't end your life over some retarded fucking bitch whore, how dare u let some worthless piece of shit win, there is no option better than living, she has alienated you from your true self but it is still there, that joy and peace is your birthright, you are not your life situation, you are not your body or mind, you are the soul that transcends all of that.

Read the power of now, get rid of that gun, lay in the sun, and just keep living

Gattsama · 2022-04-13T07:27:40+00:00

800-273-8255 National Suicide Hotline

Truth is life sucks and you are hurting. Also true is that this time will pass. We know we can't see it, and that's ok. We know you can't believe in it, and that's ok too. Just choose first to do nothing, then choose to ask for help from others that can see it and believe in it. Use them and their strength until you are strong again. You don't have to believe me, but there are people out there that love you and want to give their strength and support to you. Allow them too. You only have to ask, please do so.

For what it's worth, think of the furbabies... I want to have a conversation with you at 42y about who are and who you thought you were. Stay safe out there man...

WhiteKnightBlackTruk · 2022-04-13T20:20:32+00:00

Hey man, no lie, this morning I was fucking raging at my new wife about my kid and my old wife so bad that I wanted to kill myself because I can’t kill her. I was so fucking homicidal I want(ed) to kill her (my ex) so bad as a result of her parental alienation and poisoning my relationship with my daughter whom I haven’t seen or spoken to in over 2 yrs. But after screaming and yelling and fucking pounding the granite countertop, and some time, I sent my wife away with the 9mm and now after a few hours I’m not going to kill myself or anyone else. I too am not sure how to get past this pain either, but for both of us there is an answer better than death.

Title	Can’t do this anymore
Author	Malaine1
Upvotes	40
Comments	58
Date	April 12, 2022 2:10 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/Divorce_Men/comments/u200ze/cant_do_this_anymore/
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