If we can't agree on what to do with the house, what happens?

gtivr4 · 2023-03-20T04:04:36+00:00

Depends on how your divorce goes. Mediation, anything goes. Trial depends on a lot of variables. You need a lawyer. I certainly wouldn’t concede alimony without talking to one. If she made less you bet she would be coming after you.

EnvironmentalAd3558 · 2023-03-20T05:46:02+00:00

If she wants to keep the house and can buy you out why do you care? If she can’t afford to buy out your equity in the house, it should be sold and the net proceeds split between you.

Jettster · 2023-03-20T15:12:12+00:00

Yeah, if she's making 4-5x what you're making, and you have kids, and there's no issues with your parenting, you should be able to get Spousal Support and child support. I don't see how you can't. Do you have a shit attorney?

HODLMEPLS · 2023-03-20T12:47:53+00:00

Get an appraisal or 2. Get a brokers opinion of value (BPO). Or just check the price estimates on Zillow and Redfin. Perhaps deduct selling costs (broker fee, local transfer taxes). Deduct the mortgage balance due. Divide by half. This is your buyout #.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2023-03-20T20:55:14+00:00

What happens is whatever the judge orders.

Can I just refuse to take a buy out and insist on selling it?

Sure . . . but you can't stop her from bidding on it when you sell it.

probably getting screwed big time financially even though she makes 4-5x what I make

Get the f$#@ out of here with that attitude. If you ask for it, then she will probably owe you for a time and amount comparable to if your genitals had been swapped. Yes, on average women are awarded support more often and in greater amounts than men when the same set of gender-randomized hypothetical facts are presented blankly to a judge, but that's an average.

Dramatic-Ad7192 · 2023-03-20T03:19:27+00:00

Burn it down

traderjoesbeforehoes · 2023-03-20T17:42:21+00:00

If you can both afford to buyout the other's equity in the house and you cant agree who is going to keep the house, then it is possible the judge will say sell the house. In my case i can afford to buy out her equity, she would never qualify for a mortgage, but she doesnt want me to be able to stay in the house with the kids so she is "going to force me to sell the house" no judge would ever force someone to sell a house that they are willing and able to pay out the equity on esp with kids.

Also, you would be a fool to not ask for and get alimony if your #s are all correct

mehmench · 2023-03-20T19:41:54+00:00

Why are you working for a non-profit with the degree you have? Is it for credit to get your student loans forgiven?

If so, you should note that. It may be possible that if the student loan debt was accumulated during the marriage it could be part of the community property's death (I really don't know about student loan debt but any other debt accumulated during the marriage is considered community debt) and so she'd be on the hook for some of that. It would be in her best interest to let you continue working towards that debt forgiveness even if she ends up paying spousal-support because of it.

Fighting over her buying you out of the house vs just forcing her to sell it seems petty and sure, you can be petty but do you think a judge is going to care about your 'feelings'? The judge gets to decide for you if you can't decide and agree amongst yourselves.

They aren't. If she is making a fair buyout offer - take it and get it over with unless the situation is that you want to make a buyout offer to her. If you can't decide who gets to keep the house then it makes sense to sell it.

NothingIsEverEnough · 2023-03-20T22:37:04+00:00

Why the “f” would you be the obstacle here?

If you get as much in a buy out as you would from a forced sale, why do you want to prolong the divorce?

It sounds like you’re the problem

Title	If we can't agree on what to do with the house, what happens?
Author	Dead_throwaway_292
Upvotes	9
Comments	28
Date	March 20, 2023 3:11 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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